Girl wrecking my head!!!

[PlayaPlayOn]

I apologise for the wall of text before i write it...

...now that i see it its worse than i thought... sorry...

Okay, so i got to know this girl at college, we hung out a few times, wasnt even really interested at 1st, then kinda saw her half naked lol. I had an idea she was interested a while later, we hung out a lot... we watched a lot of DVDs and sh!t at both her apartment and mine, got steadily closer on the couch, yada, yada... i actually fell asleep with her a few times when every1 else left. anyway, one night, both of us are out, different sets of friends, so different places and I get a text saying to meet her back home (we live in same building)when i get there... so i did, slept with her in her bed, nothing happened, just sleep... next morn SHE started this childish game, pinching each other or some sh!t, pinching turned to biting, biting to kissing, whatever, point is she started.
Had to go soon after for a lecture (it being a thursday morn), and saw her later that day and the next day,we both went home on the friday but had little time to do get at her cos im a fool that leaves his assignments until the last min and then meets a girl...
Anyway, we usually text each other a lot over the weekend... she was sick the next week, i hung around her place a lot, but sh1!t was on pause cos she was sick... swear, i've never kissed someone as much on the cheek lol. By thursday we were unpaused again, i ended up fingering her and getting a HJ, all seemed to be well... end of the week again...
Anyway, on the sunday i got back b4 her, texting she says shes kinda f*cked off cos of her ex, (who from what i know was an absolute ****, but the longest relationship shes had) and dosnt really wanna see anybody... cool. The next night i call down, sit beside her and she just up and leaves to the next couch!!.. some BS excuse like "i want a lotta room and was gonna come over here anyway"... night or two later... in HER apartment again, as she stopped comin to mine. Me, her and her friend wer there.. hung out, but she wasnt really near me at all, and then we ended up in the friends bedroom and the friend (who was still really cool to me) wanted to go to bed, told HB to go to her own bed and kinda jokingly told my to take her to her bed ... her response..."I'll go when he goes"...i went... she was bein a b!tch, so i went into "f*ck her" mode as i always do, to distance myself, get over her etc.

By the end of that week she had started texting me again... came out of "f*ck her" mode, but still distant. She went home for christmas, i had an extra week (exams)... She came back to college on her week off and i found myself back to square 1 with her, friends but think she might be interested,

She got hammered 1 night during that week and went crazy... she cant remember this... her friend had to put her to bed and sh!t, but aparantly she only wanted me to put her to bed and actually came knocking at my door at 2/3 in the morn. i didnt know till she & her friend told me after.
anyway, i was the only 1 with her wen she was leaving, gave her a hug before she got in the taxi and kiss... on the head? (Im a good bit taller than her). she starts texting me more often asking about exams and sh!t, putting "x"s and "hun"s into txts that she didnt even do before.

havnt seen her since... that was 2.5 weeks ago, we are on xmas hols now, but night b4 new years ii got a text from her like "u have 1 free ticket to ask me anything...blah, blah, u have 30 mins, forward this to all ur friends" Me being drunk was like... f*ck that, not while drunk, and actually text her that back, she said it wud b better drunk... i asked her why she got all weird and distant on me after her sick week... she said sumthin like "ever since my ex if i get any way close to someone i just run... sorry. x"
that was cool, she was like "enjoy ur party, il chat 2 ya 2moro"
i did, but she didnt.
We're back at college next week, so i text her few days ago just to kinda break the ice so it wasnt 2 weeks of no communication and then seeing her again, she didnt text back... wondering if she went back to biotch mode.

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this girl is messin with my head!! i dunno why i cant stop thinkin about her either!!
my post might have turned into a rant at times, guess i just needed it off my chest, thanks to anyone who read, any advice on how to handle this? or how to get her out of my head, at least until next week when i can do something about it?

 

[jacob]

Females are masters at the game. She's playing you like a fiddle. She's using that push pull technique, and it's working. She's playing your ego with the calling you honey thing and then she acts aloof. Like a drug, giving you your dosage then holding it back to assume her power over you. She's going to destroy you. Happy new year holmes!

 

[hover411]

You definitely don't want to start pursuing her more. You gotta chill out, maybe bring another broad into the picture to get her thinking. Don't give her the attention and she will come back to you if she is indeed attracted to you.

Also, your New Year's text sounds a bit AFC'ish. Trying to get an explanation out of her showed that it bothered you.

Sounds like you were so close to getting laid and now she is dangling it in front of you, perhaps enjoying messing with you too.

Try not to let her get to your head, go meet some other girls.

 

[PlayaPlayOn]

You definitely don't want to start pursuing her more. You gotta chill out, maybe bring another broad into the picture to get her thinking. Don't give her the attention and she will come back to you if she is indeed attracted to you.

Also, your New Year's text sounds a bit AFC'ish. Trying to get an explanation out of her showed that it bothered you.

Sounds like you were so close to getting laid and now she is dangling it in front of you, perhaps enjoying messing with you too.

Try not to let her get to your head, go meet some other girls.

i got out of it looking ok, despite the horribly large post i made there is still some details i didnt put in... a lot of them actually
i only just discovered ss like, 2 days ago, so any and all AFC moves before then cany be held against me
i actually did a fair bit of the DJ stuff on my own 2, but when i got closer to this girl it just blinded me i think, posting here kinda took a load off, which i think was what i wanted... distance myself again.

well i'm def. not gona give her any word until i hear from her first, but the whole "meet other girls" thing... gona wait and sit her down and talk it out wif her at college next week, THEN come other girls if sh!t dosnt go well.

btw, could someone explain to me what oneitis is?... and am i a classic case?

 

[Energizer]

Just keep this girl as a distant friend, dump her on the back burner and go for another girl who isn't completely mental. And you are suffering from oneitis, you are placing astronomical importance on this shoulders of this girl, hence why your brain is fried by this girl's games. You'll never fully understand her emotions or actions, you cannot control them or change them so don't bother trying, just look after you. You're being played like a right mug, so ditch her and have stress free fun with women.