Girl with boyfriend keeps messaging me

[Konada]

A follow up from the last thread, I asked the girl out and she told me she has a BF and we can be friends instead. Refused her friendzone offer and now she's constantly messaging me, obviously I'm still attracted to her but I'm really fvcking confused as to what to do now

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Had a similar experience recently. Turns out the 'boyfriend' was actually a fiance. Managed to get her to agree to meet near my place, only for her to flake two days prior. Pfft. Not too fussed.

Depends on two things:

-Where you stand on the morality of being with someone else's bird. For me, a married woman is off limits; anything else is fair game.

-How easily you think you can get what you want. If you think you have good enough game to fck her, then keep going and escalate to meeting. Friendship can easily be turned in to more if you know what you're doing. Don't expect or go for a relationship though. If she can be disloyal with you, she can be disloyal to you.

 

[john1234]

"For me, a married woman is off limits"

I reckon most would never say that they are married (each to thier own)

How long have you known her?

 

[Konada]

A month.

My gut feel tells me I respond anymore I'm being played by an a*****. At the same time I want to keep this door and bang her if she really breaks up with her boyfriend, I can't go NC because I still see her at my work place for the next 2 weeks

 

[BeTheChange]

Had a similar experience recently. Turns out the 'boyfriend' was actually a fiance. Managed to get her to agree to meet near my place, only for her to flake two days prior. Pfft. Not too fussed.

Depends on two things:

-Where you stand on the morality of being with someone else's bird. For me, a married woman is off limits; anything else is fair game.

-How easily you think you can get what you want. If you think you have good enough game to fck her, then keep going and escalate to meeting. Friendship can easily be turned in to more if you know what you're doing. Don't expect or go for a relationship though. If she can be disloyal with you, she can be disloyal to you.

Not my style man. Having been the boyfriend in such an arrangement, I can tell you there is nothing worse than dumping / being dumped by your girl only to find out she had an emergency d1ck in the box waiting in the shadows all along.

I realise most girls do this in some capacity but it doesn't mean we should act as enablers since this is one of the reasons woman act so sh*t...and then ironically we come on these forums and then complain about it. Doh! I think we should aspire to be more than enablers that perpetuate women's bad behaviour. AFAIC if that's your thing then you're one thirsty guy but each to their own.

 

[Julian]

If you bang her make sure you AWARE her BF/fiance. Dont be a beta. help your fellow bro out and expose this slut

 

[Igetit!]

A follow up from the last thread, I asked the girl out and she told me she has a BF and we can be friends instead. Refused her friendzone offer and now she's constantly messaging me,

Two questions.......1,

When you refused her friendzone offer.....WHAT...DID...YOU...SAY?

What EXACTLY?

And 2nd....you said she's constantly messaging you....

Well what is she saying in her messages?


Oh......and one more thing.....you said you see her at work every day......

Well whatever you do....DON'T START IGNORING HER. Don't chase her down or go out of your way to speak to her....but don't ignore her either.

If she does approach you wanting to talk,fine talk FOR A SECOND.....but DON'T ASK HER OUT....DON'T TELL HER you miss her or have been thinking about her...DON'T TELL HER YOU LIKE HER....don't say anything like that.

 

[thebiglimp]

ahahah i had this happen twice in recent years, both coworkers.

oh and my ex-fiance used to do this too when i started to take her for granted.
i saw it from the corner of my eyes but didn't care. she wasn't gonna leave me and we both knew it. she was just killing time.

so don't fall for this crap. they're just jerking off their ego and you're the lube.

 

[Konada]

Two questions.......1,

When you refused her friendzone offer.....WHAT...DID...YOU...SAY?

What EXACTLY?

And 2nd....you said she's constantly messaging you....

Well what is she saying in her messages?


Oh......and one more thing.....you said you see her at work every day......

Well whatever you do....DON'T START IGNORING HER. Don't chase her down or go out of your way to speak to her....but don't ignore her either.

If she does approach you wanting to talk,fine talk FOR A SECOND.....but DON'T ASK HER OUT....DON'T TELL HER you miss her or have been thinking about her...DON'T TELL HER YOU LIKE HER....don't say anything like that.

Her: We can still be friends right
Me: Depends, if you're looking too cute I might not be able to control myself
Her: Tsk! Blahblahblah

And then on she is messaging me photos of her food, how is it a coincidence she sees me in office etc.

 

[Slash Dolo]

People always want what they can't have.

There's a girl that's flaked on me a few times in the past few months since moving cities. I messaged her the other day with "I just got some big news." Didn't follow up on it. 10 texts later and I've yet to respond. She's like a fish out of water.

Honestly, I'd reply back in small doses. And keep it short. Like once a week. Eventually she'll offer to come over and suck your d*ck.