"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Girl who's an old friend?

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Ok, this isn't the usual friend question i don't think. So a long time ago (like when I was 5 or 6) this girl lived across the street from me and we used to always play together/carpool to school, the whole shebang, I think she had a crush on me too. Well she moved when i was 7 or something and I didn't really see her much since then.

Fast forward to now, I find her on facebook (and she's HOT now), we message back and forth about getting together, but we were both extremely busy at the time (1 month ago) so we agreed to get together when we had more time. So I send her a message the other day asking for her number so i can call her, the trouble is, she's rarely on facebook, but her number is posted right on her profile.

Questions:

1. Would it be weird to just lift her number off of her profile and call her? or should I wait for a response (i don't think she's hardly ever on facebook really, and I'd like to catch up with her)

2. How should I go about the first meeting? I haven't seen her in probably 10 yrs, so how do I keep things from being too weird? I was thinking about asking her to go for coffee, but i'd prefer something more 'interesting', any suggestions?

Keep in mind, I'm not necessarily trying to go out with her or anything, I just want to keep my options open ;)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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haha, your story sounds like a chick flick movie, very interesting... are you guys in the same city? you should call her already, i dont think its weird at all!!! you guys are childhood friends, i think she'll be happy if you call her... its not like you're some stranger. call her bro!
 
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yama600rr said:
haha, your story sounds like a chick flick movie, very interesting... are you guys in the same city? you should call her already, i dont think its weird at all!!! you guys are childhood friends, i think she'll be happy if you call her... its not like you're some stranger. call her bro!
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Haha, ya i guess it kind of is like a chick flick. We are in the same city.


Weird thing is, just a couple minutes after i posted this she sent me a message with her number, I'm going to call her later this week. Anyone got ideas for the first meeting? Any tips/pointers?
 
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What is wrong with you? She has her phone number on a public forum for dudes to call her!! She is a freak!! Call her!!!
 
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yowhatsup said:
Haha, ya i guess it kind of is like a chick flick. We are in the same city.


Weird thing is, just a couple minutes after i posted this she sent me a message with her number, I'm going to call her later this week. Anyone got ideas for the first meeting? Any tips/pointers?
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that's good news for yah! avoid the typical boring dinner date... you should take her to a restaurant with live music. atleast if you guys are dried out on the convo, then you can just eat and listen to music.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Live music would be nice, except the town we live in is a little, shall we say, BORING. I'm trying to figure out what we could do where we'd have a chance to talk, but also at the same time, a chance to do something in order to fill the silences if needed. Something fun would be good too.
 
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