Girl who talks about other guys

[HBK]

Hey,
Howre things.
Just wondering what you think of a girl who talks about other guys arounf you.I fancy this girl.shes hot,intelligent and is onwork experience with me,(from same college) Now she recently got dumped by her boyfriend for 6 months. From what shes told me he was a wuss,but she liked him. ive no problem with that, hes seems like a "nice guy"
Now in work she always comes over 2 my desk wamting to chat about herself. I listen,i flirt with her,make her laugh give her a rare compliment. She never shuts up though lol
For the last 2 weeks though she comes up 2 me and tells me about guys shes fancies and who are sexy,since shes single and parties shes invited.Now im happyfor her,hope shes hasa good time.
After work 2day shes comes up and the first thing she says is, she has a driving lesson,and the instructor is cute. she even might ask him 2 out with her later for a drink,with a big "im so bad" look on her face. now i admit i like her, i give her no advice about men ,it doesnt bother me, i always try 2 make it sound like im always meeting women and im a busy guy etc.is she trying to get a reaction out of m,or am i in friend zone.
thanks lads

 

[MindOverMatter]

she wants you to ask her out. by telling you all this sh!t about guys wanting her, she's trying to tell you that she's a prize and that u should go for her before someone else does.

personally, id pass. don't fool around with people from work, you're only gonna get trouble.

 

[MindOverMatter]

p.s. read the bible

 

[whistler]

you might be smacking your head many times over this in the future... if you don't ask her out.

 

[MrHarris]

Why don't you start talking about girls whom you fancy laddie me boy? That will teach her to keep her yipper shut and stop being disrespectful to your manhood.

 

[Kaine]

No

A girl who is interested does not tell you about other guys she is interested in. This implies she desires other guys.

This is different then her telling you that there are other guys that fancy her, which implies SHE is desireable.

Looks like you have been LBJF


Kaine

 

[Maximus_Decimus]

Originally posted by HBK
Hey,
Howre things.
Just wondering what you think of a girl who talks about other guys arounf you.I fancy this girl.shes hot,intelligent and is onwork experience with me,(from same college) Now she recently got dumped by her boyfriend for 6 months. From what shes told me he was a wuss,but she liked him. ive no problem with that, hes seems like a "nice guy"
Now in work she always comes over 2 my desk wamting to chat about herself. I listen,i flirt with her,make her laugh give her a rare compliment. She never shuts up though lol
For the last 2 weeks though she comes up 2 me and tells me about guys shes fancies and who are sexy,since shes single and parties shes invited.Now im happyfor her,hope shes hasa good time.
After work 2day shes comes up and the first thing she says is, she has a driving lesson,and the instructor is cute. she even might ask him 2 out with her later for a drink,with a big "im so bad" look on her face. now i admit i like her, i give her no advice about men ,it doesnt bother me, i always try 2 make it sound like im always meeting women and im a busy guy etc.is she trying to get a reaction out of m,or am i in friend zone.
thanks lads

Been there and done that before multiple times. The short answer is, you cannot tell based on what she says whether she is interested in you or not. That's why you don't listen to what she says, you listen to her actions. Ask her out. If you get the outing, then you need to find a way to kiss close. That is the only sure fire way to cut through the BS.

Maximus_Decimus

 

[00Kevin]

this girl is laying the ground work before she turns you into an emotional tampon.

Change the subject or end the conversation . She is already starting to think of you as a friend.

one other thing, talk is cheep and girls know this. don't talk about yourself or about all the other girls you have. Do something via your actions that will show her you are a ladies man.

Add a few girls phone numbers to your cell phone right in front of her. Then say I have to go and call this girl so I can't talk right now. Every time you end the conversation with her make sure it is because of another girl.

 

[HBK]

Well thus morning she called over to me again. smiling the usual craic. She goes on about her driving lesson with the "sexy" instructor. I quickly changed the subject aslking about her driving skills. Shge starts going on about her weekend,how much she drank,being at her ex house...blah blah.
We are both going back 2 college next week as its "rag week" similar to spring break. She starts on about some guy in uni and i told her i cant wait to see all the sexy nurses back in UNI. She immediatly stopped,and looked like a sad puppy. i
She told me shes going to the cinema 2nite with her friends and im welcome to come..
Not sure what ill do.

 

[SheepSter]

Dude WTF?!?!?! You say you "fancy" this girl. But in her presence you act like a "ferry". A girl talking to you about other guys; analyses: Who do girls talk to about there personal stuff and other guys......their female and gay friends. And since you're no female.....

Just kidding. But really if you want to fvck this particular girl stop talking to her like this. Instead give her a juicy story about how you just turned some lesbians into heterosexuals again. I mean c'mon she invites you to come along with her GF's to go see a movie. This is LJBF all over the place. My advice: make her mad/jealous and hit heavy on one of her GF's, ignore her and start telling her stories about how wild her friends are in bed. Get the picture. Utilize your instincts.

 

[Now What]

Go for it!

At first glance, this does look LJBF, but let's look again:

"i always try 2 make it sound like im always meeting women and im a busy guy etc."

"She starts on about some guy in uni and i told her i cant wait to see all the sexy nurses back in UNI. She immediatly stopped,and looked like a sad puppy."

If she didn't care about you, she'd have been like "Ok, whatever" and kept talking. But she didn't! The comment affected her. And then she invited you out!

You've got more skills than you think you do.

You've got two choices tonight, another night of sosuave and internet porn, or a night out with real girls, at least one of whom you know is attractive.

So go. Get her number, get the time, etc. and have a good time. Just make sure you talk to all the other girls a lot, and her only a little (hi, bye, this was fun, see you tomorrow).

 

[HBK]

God i think ill next her. Firstly she tells me i always makes her laugh,we talked for a bit and asked me againa bout coming out tonoight.Then she Spends10 mins in the canteen going on about her ex back in college who dumped her. She asked me would he make a move on her next week when she goes back to college,andwhat would i do etc.. I think she might see me as a tampon. I told her i love being single,free to make my choices **** who i want lol. She tires to agree with me and she goes on about why she cant have some fun too now since shes single. She obviously still fancies her ex,im really trying to avoid being the tampon here.
Not sure about this cinema

women!

 

[Now What]

I think you're doing fine. but,

Do you want this girl or not?

Is there any kino/touching going on?

Frankly I think she sounds like she could use a little fling at this point.

2 choices:
1) Protect your heart. Next! Not a bad option.

2) Take a chance, make a move. You risk getting used, laughed at, whatever. Or you might get the girl.

It's up to you.

Note: if the chatting about her ex goes on for days and days longer then you're a tampon, but right now I think you've played it cool and have a good chance with her.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by HBK
God i think ill next her. Firstly she tells me i always makes her laugh,we talked for a bit and asked me againa bout coming out tonoight.Then she Spends10 mins in the canteen going on about her ex back in college who dumped her. She asked me would he make a move on her next week when she goes back to college,andwhat would i do etc.. I think she might see me as a tampon. I told her i love being single,free to make my choices **** who i want lol. She tires to agree with me and she goes on about why she cant have some fun too now since shes single. She obviously still fancies her ex,im really trying to avoid being the tampon here.
Not sure about this cinema

women!

I'm going to tell you exactly how what to do with this chick and you had best listen.

First thing is first you either NEXT her or you make move on her.

There is no other option at this point. She talks about other guys in front of you and is showing no F_UCKING RESPECT!

Get her alone some how and start to massage her back. Make sure one thing leads to another. You had best start to make out
with her and you had best do it quick. Don't be afraid to trick her into a situation where she is alone with you.

If you don't have the balls to make a move on her or she refuses then you next her. You don't talk to her anymore and that is that.

You have to change your mindset a bit. No more talking, no more thinking about it.

ACTIONS ACTIONS ACTIONS! FORGET THE DAMN CONVERSATIONS! YOU ARE FROM THIS POINT FORWARD TOO BUSY TO TALK TO HER.

 

[HBK]

Yeah i do want her.she has alot of qualities i admire. shes not perfect by any means. i dont have oneitis i hope. its funny we are both on work experience for our university. We are now working in dublin together until september.
Yeah i try to get as much kino in as possible. im just wondering since the guys are mosly snobby where we work and dont talk, does she just want a friend in me because i take the time to listen to her adn make her laugh. i know some of her friends so im not a stranger in the social group.i only know her a few months though.
we enjoy eachothers comany,i make her laugh,dont suckup to her.tell her what she sometimes doesnt like to hear. im defintely in control of my actions around her,and fell in control. im not sure shes attracted to me.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by HBK
Yeah i do want her.she has alot of qualities i admire. shes not perfect by any means. i dont have oneitis i hope. its funny we are both on work experience for our university. We are now working in dublin together until september.
Yeah i try to get as much kino in as possible. im just wondering since the guys are mosly snobby where we work and dont talk, does she just want a friend in me because i take the time to listen to her adn make her laugh. i know some of her friends so im not a stranger in the social group.i only know her a few months though.
we enjoy eachothers comany,i make her laugh,dont suckup to her.tell her what she sometimes doesnt like to hear. im defintely in control of my actions around her,and fell in control. im not sure shes attracted to me.

In my experience you only have about 1-2 months of non-intimate association with a girl before you are either her friend or her lover. If you go on too long without making a move you will become a friend to her and you will have a hell of a time trying to turn it into something more.

Don't worry about her not being attracted to you. Assume that she is.

Invite her over to your place for lunch or something very simple. Trick this girl! Sit her down on your couch and start something with her. poke her with your finger or tickle her. There are soo many things you can do to get her used of your touch.

You should start Kino with her right away. For example, Walk up to her from behing and cover her eyes. Play with this girl! She is just a girl that S-hits the same way you do. Don't be afraid f her.

 

[DeathDealer]

DUde, girls talking about other guys could mean anything. Unless she starts talking to you how she likes how he does this or if he likes her, etc - it means nothing.

 

[Kaine]

Originally posted by HBK
God i think ill next her. Firstly she tells me i always makes her laugh,we talked for a bit and asked me againa bout coming out tonoight.Then she Spends10 mins in the canteen going on about her ex back in college who dumped her. She asked me would he make a move on her next week when she goes back to college,andwhat would i do etc.. I think she might see me as a tampon. I told her i love being single,free to make my choices **** who i want lol. She tires to agree with me and she goes on about why she cant have some fun too now since shes single. She obviously still fancies her ex,im really trying to avoid being the tampon here.
Not sure about this cinema

women!

I'm with 00Kevin on this one.

This stint in the canteen was hilarious

She's loving your oh so soft and absorbant core at the moment

Please keep us updated


Kaine

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by DeathDealer
DUde, girls talking about other guys could mean anything. Unless she starts talking to you how she likes how he does this or if he likes her, etc - it means nothing.

exaclty, just ignore what she says

 

[HBK]

Well heres a quick update. Been a away for the last few days. We are both going down to college again this week, for a few days. Bit of a college week going on. Gave her a sms last night asking how her driving was coming along.
She emailed me this morning priceless

"hey dude sorry i didnt reply to ur txt last nite i hav no credit. good wk end i went out on sat nite got f**ked again stupid wine but had a mad laugh then yesterday i went to the wexford n laois match cuz my friend was playing we bet them well . hate every one in limerick just remembered last yr i went off the rails so uninpressed that im missin the whole wk but at least we hav 2 days! oh the parents gave me the car so im drivin down on wednesday night cant wait. ***** offered to buy tickets is that just a friendly thing or do ya think he wants me there?"


Now i havent replied to this yet. is this a test or what?