"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Girl who just won't open up

Key Mister

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Need a little help here...... I noe this girl for quite a while now...... I think we both have the hots for one another (mainly through eye contacts and various body language). I always try to make funny conversations with her.... but she just never opens up ..... putting me in a difficult position to make use of techniques such as nouning etc.
She alwauys just answers with one word replies such as "it's alrite" "so?" "it's ok" and it sometimes get on my nervous because I don't know what to say next.
This has never happened to me with other chics but I really love this one, so plz help!!!Is it my conversation skills??? or is it just her??/
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ObieJuan

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I believe if you are focusing the conversation on her and she is giving you one word answers; she is either sending the wrong signals or you are not accurately gauging her IL. Shy girls can be deceiving with their body language from my experiences. Why would you want to talk to a chick who can't talk about herself? If you're asking open-ended questions and not getting any good responses I'd say leave the ball in her court and go find other girls to talk to.
 

Jerky Boi

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One of the most important things I learned in my Journalism class last year was never ask a yes or no question. What's the point? You're not going to get anywhere. Always ask questions where you'll get some elaborate response and learn a little more about her. If she's not willing to talk to you about herself, then she doesn't really trust you. What I've learned the past few weeks about body language is, you can't always rely on it. Girls can sometimes send off the wrong signals when it comes to stuff like that.
 

the pokemaster

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MATE, im actually in the exact same situation.

How ive got around this is started text conversations. Try texting her on your phone or using an instant messenger or email.

Shy girls tend to open up a lot more when there not infront of you.

Also when you do see her. If shes showing signals of attraction ie eye contact, body language etc...

...TAKE A RISK, come up with an excuse for touching her. If she reacts positively you know theres definately a chance of getting in there.

If this has succeeded arrange to hook up infront or on text. Got to a movie. Not much talking required. Somewhere where you can't talk much!

Substitute the talk with kino if whenever she doesnt seem to open up. This may even sometime relax a girl and let her relax more, thus opening up to you.

When a girl is relaxed conversation flows easy. She probably has the hots for you and shes just nervous.

Hope you found this helpful

Elti Boi
one love
 

blinkwatt

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oh how true the person is above me,some girls just open up more not in front of the person. it may be a comfort factor for them or whatever.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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high nrg

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you havent gotten her to open up and you think you really love her?

see if you can take her out somewhere and really get to talking to her. ask her open-ended questions and questions about things she really likes.
 
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