"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girl went through a tough break up..

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Been seeing this girl recently who came on STRONG to me. She's an HB8, cool interests and sh1t like that. We get along great.

Well, she went through a really bad break up. She was supposed to get married a year ago to this dude, but then she found out he was cheating on her. Whatever, I don't really care about that.

She says she really likes me. Always texts me saying she's thinking about me, she misses me, sh1t like that.

But now she's sort of backing off. I asked her what's on her mind and she said she's afraid of getting hurt again.

I don't really see her as emotionally distraught, we have great times together.. She just acts kinda weird on the phone sometimes. I'm thinking that maybe I'll give her some time and move slower with it so she warms up to me better..

On the other hand, this girl is always around the areas that I hangout. If she's not going to fvck, then I gotta find some girls on the side to get the job done. I just can't let her find out. Suggestions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alex DeLarge said:
Been seeing this girl recently who came on STRONG to me. She's an HB8, cool interests and sh1t like that. We get along great.

Well, she went through a really bad break up. She was supposed to get married a year ago to this dude, but then she found out he was cheating on her. Whatever, I don't really care about that.

She says she really likes me. Always texts me saying she's thinking about me, she misses me, sh1t like that.

But now she's sort of backing off. I asked her what's on her mind and she said she's afraid of getting hurt again.

I don't really see her as emotionally distraught, we have great times together.. She just acts kinda weird on the phone sometimes. I'm thinking that maybe I'll give her some time and move slower with it so she warms up to me better..

On the other hand, this girl is always around the areas that I hangout. If she's not going to fvck, then I gotta find some girls on the side to get the job done. I just can't let her find out. Suggestions?
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Heartbreak. And not for her.
 
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Alex DeLarge said:
Been seeing this girl recently who came on STRONG to me. She's an HB8, cool interests and sh1t like that. We get along great.

Well, she went through a really bad break up. She was supposed to get married a year ago to this dude, but then she found out he was cheating on her. Whatever, I don't really care about that.

She says she really likes me. Always texts me saying she's thinking about me, she misses me, sh1t like that.

But now she's sort of backing off. I asked her what's on her mind and she said she's afraid of getting hurt again.

I don't really see her as emotionally distraught, we have great times together.. She just acts kinda weird on the phone sometimes. I'm thinking that maybe I'll give her some time and move slower with it so she warms up to me better..

On the other hand, this girl is always around the areas that I hangout. If she's not going to fvck, then I gotta find some girls on the side to get the job done. I just can't let her find out. Suggestions?
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Coming on strong - not f*cking you - backing off.

Sounds like a master manipulator.

wouldn't be bad, really, but if you're making a topic about her you're obviously somewhat attached to her, which will eventually turn into infatuation and you'll be in a living hell trying to decipher her games (why she's doing what she's doing). It's kinda like you're walking into a trap. Be wary.
 
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True, I don't know why I'm so into this girl. I have girls that are hotter coming on to me all the time at parties and sh1t. I'm just gonna go NC on her and see where things stand eventually.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Alex DeLarge said:
True, I don't know why I'm so into this girl. I have girls that are hotter coming on to me all the time at parties and sh1t. I'm just gonna go NC on her and see where things stand eventually.
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Why would you NC? It's just going to make her like you even more. You're going to fulfill the abandonment roll from her childhood that she craves and wants to relive over and over the rest of her life.

Don't go NC unless you actually MEAN it. As in, you're not doing it to try and regain "control". It's obvious you like her somewhat, or you wouldn't have posted this, so choose your moves wisely. If you go NC, promise yourself that even if she shows up on your door step dressed all sexy and has her puppy dog eyes on and she pretty much let's it known that you can fvck her (at any given time) that you have the will power to say no.

If you can't do this, you might just be better off doing what you're doing. Eventually she'll get bored of you and you will be forgotten and replaced within minutes.

-Scars
 
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I deleted her number and deleted all prior texts from her, so now there is no way I can contact her again. Not going to lie, I still have feelings for her.. But I know this is for the best for ME.

For some reason I always wind up with these manipulative women who act like a servant for me at first, then 2 weeks later they just don't care anymore and get sick of me.
 
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you're bound to get something good coming up....stay positive.
 
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pdx1138 said:
you're bound to get something good coming up....stay positive.
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What do you mean by that?
 
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'I'm afraid of getting hurt' seems something women say all the ****ing time and in 99% of cases it's total BS. Women aren't circumspect enough to decide not to pursue a relationship because they think they might get hurt. And if they really do feel like that, they sure as hell won't say it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alex DeLarge said:
For some reason I always wind up with these manipulative women who act like a servant for me at first, then 2 weeks later they just don't care anymore and get sick of me.
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You will probably have to change yourself to address that. like ditching the chick as soon as the first red flag shows up. don't be weak.
 
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TopGun2000 said:
You will probably have to change yourself to address that. like ditching the chick as soon as the first red flag shows up. don't be weak.
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That is true. I didn't really see any red flags with this one other than I met her at a bar.. Then two weeks into the relationship, I learn that she was lying about having her own place (She lives with parents) and lying about her age.

She also told me she wasn't seeing anyone when she was.. But the night I caught her with someone she caught me (What a coincidence lol).

Looking back I'm really glad I got rid of this dumb cvnt. I have a few more plates I'm spinning right now. An HB9 and an HB8.5.. Had a HB7 but went on a terrible first date with her last night and ditched her.
 
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