Girl was super excited to hangout now goes cold

[Pardner]

I met this girl online a few months back. I'm not really into online dating because the other two girls I met turned out to have emotional issues going on. She seemed ok so we talked a bit online and then got each others numbers. She texted me first day we exchanged numbers. We didn't get a chance to hang out soon because of our school schedules and because of me playing ball and plus i have had sick family membrs i helped take care of and visit.

she wanted to hang out but we just needed some time to do it. She didn't have any plans on St. Patty's Day and sent me two pics of herself and later sent a text saying "I didn't get a lucky kiss." I sent her a text back and she said "I will have to hold you to that" meaning she wanted a kiss from me.

She wanted to go to a game since we both like sports and texted me a lot to go so we decided that we would go to a game. I had a lot going on that weekend with my grandpa being sick and then my dad went to the hospital. so I was unsure about what day.

She said that she would buy the tickets so I let her get them because she could get good seats on this one site. She texted me that she bought the tickets (went to the game last tuesday) and sent a smiley face with that. She also texted 3 or 4 times and told me on the phone too about how excited she was to go to the game and that I cant wait to go with you on tuesday.

On that sunday night before I got a weird text from her that said "So weird that I'm going to a game with a guy I never met yet. Hope you're not creepy lol." I wasn't in the best of moods that night and just replied to her other text about making the plans on what time to leave. Then she texted back "sounds great......just giving u a hard time u know."

So the day before we went i hurt my back and had muscle spasms that hurt like a b**** and my dad went to the hospital. I was gonna cancel but since she bought the tix and they were $40 a piece i decided to go anyway.

when i met her she looked way different in her pics. her face looked older and she had a belly and a big butt. she is 3 years older than me. i was kinda surprised. i looked at her for a few seconds surprised. i dont think i made a face but just stared. she was happy to see me and gave me a hug. she drove because i needed new brakes on my truck and didnt want to take a chance driving far or downhill with bad brakes. we talked the whole way to the game and she told me a lot about things she is doing and wanted to know more about my upcoming stuff.

i paid for the parking and the food and that came to over $45 and that was a good amount for a first date and that paid for my ticket. i wasnt going to pay her way for the whole date.

i was worried about my dad and my back felt like **** but i had a good time. we both laughed and we talked. she said she was going to another game in june and said when "we" go our seats are over there and she pointed. she also took out her phone and showed me pics of her the last game she went to and showed where she sat with her sister.

the game was good and she leaned close to me and it was cold that night. that made my back hurt more. we had a good time and she was having fun. after the game i had to walk slow to the car because of the spams. on the way back home she was telling me all about her family and cousins and about her upcoming trips and some funny stories that happened to her. she asked me questions and was into our convo.

when we got to her place she pulled up in front of her house and got out of her car. the shades and window was open and she said "oh theres my sister" and i could see her looking out. she looked at me and i said i had a good time and she said i did too. gave me a quick hug and went in the house. i was surprised by that. here she wanted a kiss she was texting me and a massage and now she just left like that.

i didnt hear from her on that wed so on thursday i just texted "glad we finally got to hangout....leaving this weekend for my teams road trip. about 2 min later she texted "yea it was... wow that is crazy."

didnt hear anything from her at all and she always sends like random texts about sports and stuff so idk what to make of it and why she went cold after she was excited to hang out and was having fun at the game and was always asking to hangout. i just think its weird and never had anything like this happen before with a girl.

if she wasnt into me she wouldnt be telling me stuff about her and her fam going into big detail about it. wanting to know more about me. also hinting and saying when "we" go to the game in june and being excited to hang out in the first place. it just leaves me confused. i dont think im gonna text or even call her since i havent heard from her since thursday and just go out with that other girl I met three weeks ago.

so if anybody has any input i would like to know what anybody thinks because this just confuses the hell out of me.

 

[bigneil]

Always judge a woman's intentions by her actions, not by her words.

Great post bradd80. But notice how the above statement can only be used against us? Sometimes you have a girl who f*cks you, then says she just wants to be friends. Do you go by her actions then too? Or is it lowest common denominator?

 

[Pardner]

I see what you are saying but she never said that "we should go" she that "we are going" basically asking me to go with her to the game and she was flirting as well before so thats why im confused. if she sat like a bump on a log giving yes or no answers and i was doing all the talking or if she acted bored then i could see but im just going to write her off

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Anything that happens online is smoke and mirrors until you meet face to face. From reading the info. you provided I would say she was never really into you during the date and was just being friendly. The biggest tip-off is the fact that she hugged you and bolted for the door quickly rather that give you the opportunity for a kiss close at the end of the date.

 

[Johnnyventana]

Try to picture that arse and gut, because you're chasing that!

Is that who you want to be? Settling and chase'n?

There must be other girls out there, I would hope.

 

[hardliquor]

Did you like her? It sounds like you weren't all that into her. That sucks about your back. Those heated sticky pads from the pharmacy are awesome, so check them out if you haven't yet.

 

[nismo-4]

TL;DR!

AFAIC, she's just not that into you.

Beyond a reasonable doubt, your princess thanked you, but she hoping you'll get the hint that she's in another castle!

Online dating is this: don't believe sh*t until you meet, even then, watch her actions. If I sense something won't go my way, I run for the hills. Remember, all women online have hella options. Anybody who thinks I'm wrong is a retard.

If a girl lost interest in you, getting it back is a snowball's chance in hell.

Moving on and forgetting about this girl is the best thing that is for you. That's Judge nismo's ruling.

Case closed.

 

[Pardner]

Did you like her? It sounds like you weren't all that into her. That sucks about your back. Those heated sticky pads from the pharmacy are awesome, so check them out if you haven't yet.

i really wasn't attracted to her at all. a lot of the girls i date arent into sports that much so it was nice to talk with someone that was really into it

 

[Pardner]

In my opinion this type of vacillation is common in the dating world. A woman can seem really "into" you during the date, only to completely ignore you afterwards.

It's futile to try to "figure out" her fickleness. The best thing I can advise is to expect this type of behavior from just about every woman you encounter and don't waste even a second trying to make sense of it.

If you like her, then simply invite her out again this weekend--wait until Wed or Thurs to invite for a Fri or Sat date invite.

One other thing too: keep the 1st date simple and cheap and local. Invite her to a local watering hole for a drink or two--and keep that first encounter under 90 minutes--and no longer.

the only reason why i went to the game because she kept asking me to go to it. she wanted to buy the tix so i thought ok.

 

[bigneil]

In my opinion this type of vacillation is common in the dating world. A woman can seem really "into" you during the date, only to completely ignore you afterwards.

It's futile to try to "figure out" her fickleness. The best thing I can advise is to expect this type of behavior from just about every woman you encounter and don't waste even a second trying to make sense of it.

If you like her, then simply invite her out again.

Exactly. I think this is the more realistic approach that many are too bitter to embrace. Don't take women's behavior personally, and play for the long run many women at once. Until she says "I will never go out with you" it's ok to hang on loosely.

 

[Pardner]

TL;DR!

AFAIC, she's just not that into you.

Beyond a reasonable doubt, your princess thanked you, but she hoping you'll get the hint that she's in another castle!

Online dating is this: don't believe sh*t until you meet, even then, watch her actions. If I sense something won't go my way, I run for the hills. Remember, all women online have hella options. Anybody who thinks I'm wrong is a retard.

If a girl lost interest in you, getting it back is a snowball's chance in hell.

Moving on and forgetting about this girl is the best thing that is for you. That's Judge nismo's ruling.

Case closed.

i agree they do have options. i just dont see how you can lose interest when she is asking me to go out again to another game during the game we are at. if she was being friendly or not interested why even ask to go on another date when this one wasnt finished. she wouldnt even bring it up or say anything.