Girl was crazy for me, and now has backed off since i tried to have sex

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Im starting to think this girl just had mental problems. In the beginning, she was crazy for me, always texting, calling,etc. Was coming by work to bring me coffee. Last i saw her, she asked if she could come over and make dinner. I did, we watched a movie. I tried to have sex with her when tings were climaxing, she says no. I ask why not, she couldnt give me an answer. Now she's just been ignoring me for the most part. I dont feel like I did anything wrong, I guess sometimes you can fail for no reason.

 

[bigneil]

Don't push things. She will probably revert to acting highly interested if you give her space for a few days. Some women take things to the brink and then put the brakes on because they feel obligated to go all the way. Don't take it personally.

Also remember: don't talk about sex - it should "just happen". Women who randomly stop you like she did can prompt you to try and discuss it, which only makes things worse.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

hey man, thats probably the most supportive post, I've seen on here. So you think I should just let her initiate contact for the next week or so?

 

[TheJazz]

Yes, because you're not interested in her anymore. Why? Because she shot you down. If she wants to start things up again, she will. If not, she lost the biggest prize of her life. If you ran into resistance my friend, you weren't escalating properly. Like Neil said, it should "just happen" for her. She should be, to a certain extent, unaware (no raping though!)

 

[DonGorgon]

"Girl was crazy for me, and now has backed off since i tried to have sex" = girls was not physically attracted to me ..

she was using you for a friends and Fing other dudes

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

I think your half right, Don. I think she was attracted, otherwise she wouldnt have been mounted on top of me making out, and us groping. I think your right in the fact, she probably isnt 100% sure yet, has other options, and things perhaps moved too fast of a pace for her, she is a very innocent type of chick, atleast that I know of haha

 

[bigneil]

Yes, let her initiate. She will.

While this setback might mean that she was turned off somehow, or not overwhelmed as if you were Bon Jovi, it doesn't necessarily indicate lack of attraction when they say no at some point early on in the relationship (first 1-2 months). They always say no at some point. A good target should resist you at some point (Art of Seduction), and they often will especially if they like you (because they know that will hook you). I've had girls do this and I later had sex. Either way, she's testing you. Handling her rejection smoothly can win points.