Girl was abused in the past, not sure what to do - advice needed bro's

[TheGambino]

Met this girl 2 months ago.
Approach went great, we had a drink after the approach and got number.
Kino'ed and teased immediatley.

She didnt replie quickly to my text and i went on vacation so I didnt invest any more at that time.

Saw her 2 weeks ago again at the bus. Great convo, kino'ed even asked her to kiss my cheek in the end and turned my face and kissed her. She seemed mad, but insta replied to my texts afterwards. I set up a running date, she was enthousiast but I couldn't make it so we didn't get together.

I saw her at the bus 2 days after, kino'ed again she told me 'dont touch me' but I still touched her (thought it was a test). She went sitting alone in the bus and I didnt contact her for a couple of days after, she replied late again. I asked to get together to run since we didnt go last time she said maybe, then in the evening texted, I can't go. so I forgot about her and nexted.

I spoke to her cousin a week ago and she told me that the girl was abused by her nephew for a year a couple of years ago she(The girl) even mentioned that the first day we spoke but I didn't ask for details. I didn't build comfort with this girl, I approached and acted teasing with the DJ mindset.

I didnt contact her for 12 days until this friday.

So I texted her friday told her that i spoke to her cousin (not about the abusing). Told her, well i tell u everything, sing me a song (she loves to sing) and send it to me. She said ok haha but didnt replie. texted her sing me a shakira song in spanish u think u can pull that off? (she ignored that last message)

Some facts: her parents are very strict, im 23 shes 18, i rushed a bit she could be scared of or so not sure.

what would u guys suggest? i dont think texting again asking for the song in a fun way is a option coz she ignored it for 2 days. im thinking off contacting her in a normal way and sayin hey i heard some bad things happened too u If theres anything ill be there for u .

Im not sure if thats a good idea..

I could bump intoo her at the bus station this week coz we take the same bus, its possible..

what do u guys think is the best for me to do? thx broos (I dont want to next yet)

 

[Cremasta]

You've spent enough time on the foreplay.

Come up with something fun to do and invite her along.
If she says yes, turn on the charm.

If she says no, or doesn't give you a good alternative, write her off and don't make any more effort on this one.

 

[TheGambino]

ye ok, will do, would u text her again or just wait till i meet her again at the bus station.

 

[Cremasta]

Neither, I'd give her a call. Either get a decision from her right then, or you can give her a deadline to get a response back to you. Your two options involve waiting around.
But go with whichever you're most comfortable with.

 

[PlayHer Man]

I'll tell you what I tell most men: Start f*cking her or stop giving a sh!t.

Its really that simple. Spin plates and don't over-analyze women. Either she wants to smoke your sausage or she doesn't. If you have to mind-f*ck her to get results.. she isn't very attracted and she views you as beta.

Women view betas as men to exploit as much as possible and maybe f*ck them down the road when its convenient for her. But a man she is strongly attracted to... she'll jump on him like there's no tomorrow. I know this because I've lived it.

Regarding her abuse situation --> Not your problem.

If a woman gets raped by her manager at work.. does she then get a "act like a c*nt at work for free" card for the rest of her life? Every new job she gets she can act stupid because she was raped by the manager at her last job? NOPE.. she needs to suck it up. Same goes for relationships. She needs to act right or get NEXTED.. her abusive past is not your fault OR your problem.

Men need to stop playing hero and white knight. These b!tches can often take care of themselves BETTER than the men looking out for them. :crackup:

 

[TheGambino]

ok i feel you, so what's your conclusion? Contacting her, trying to set up a date if she acts flaky just next?
Ye prob the same as my gut told me be4 even posting this

 

[youngmack]

Exactly what PHM said and remember don't catch feelings

 

[5string]

Exactly what PHM said and remember don't catch feelings

What he said.

Don't catch feelings. A bit of inderference on your part would be best. If you can hit it, do it. Otherwise don't catch feelings.

The biggest flag imo, is that most women who have been abused are beyond repair. Their hamsters spin so fast they could earn the pole position at the Indy 500.

 

[TheGambino]

Yup she was all over me yesterday after I sent a funny voice over of myself to make her laugh all night we were texting, today she blocked me on whatsapp I found out, this girl is f*cked up I guess... Even forgot about my other plates cuz of her damn. Moving on from this one....

 

[Zarky]

yeah... good choice. Don't deal with f*cked up chicks. Not worth the wasted effort. You should have bailed after the guy told you she was abused.

 

[pyros]

Met this girl 2 months ago.
Approach went great, we had a drink after the approach and got number.
Kino'ed and teased immediatley.

She didnt replie quickly to my text and i went on vacation so I didnt invest any more at that time.

Saw her 2 weeks ago again at the bus. Great convo, kino'ed even asked her to kiss my cheek in the end and turned my face and kissed her. She seemed mad, but insta replied to my texts afterwards. I set up a running date, she was enthousiast but I couldn't make it so we didn't get together.

I saw her at the bus 2 days after, kino'ed again she told me 'dont touch me' but I still touched her (thought it was a test). She went sitting alone in the bus and I didnt contact her for a couple of days after, she replied late again. I asked to get together to run since we didnt go last time she said maybe, then in the evening texted, I can't go. so I forgot about her and nexted.

I spoke to her cousin a week ago and she told me that the girl was abused by her nephew for a year a couple of years ago she(The girl) even mentioned that the first day we spoke but I didn't ask for details. I didn't build comfort with this girl, I approached and acted teasing with the DJ mindset.

I didnt contact her for 12 days until this friday.

So I texted her friday told her that i spoke to her cousin (not about the abusing). Told her, well i tell u everything, sing me a song (she loves to sing) and send it to me. She said ok haha but didnt replie. texted her sing me a shakira song in spanish u think u can pull that off? (she ignored that last message)

Some facts: her parents are very strict, im 23 shes 18, i rushed a bit she could be scared of or so not sure.

what would u guys suggest? i dont think texting again asking for the song in a fun way is a option coz she ignored it for 2 days. im thinking off contacting her in a normal way and sayin hey i heard some bad things happened too u If theres anything ill be there for u .

Im not sure if thats a good idea..

I could bump intoo her at the bus station this week coz we take the same bus, its possible..

what do u guys think is the best for me to do? thx broos (I dont want to next yet)

Your damn responses in bold. Dude, really? DONT YOU SEE SHE IS NOT INTO YOU? she even blocked you on whatsapp now because you did not see that she did not like you. It was damn obvious.

P.S.
who said here that girls that like you wont confuse you? he's right. Besides, girls that like you will make it easy for you, will reply to your texts, will accepts your dates, will let you escalate, will initiate texts, dates, etc etc.
But many guys find a girl they kind of like, she says, in a subtle way, shes not interested, once, twice, three times, she ends up blocking them on FB and stuff, and the guy COMES HERE TO ASK WHAT ELSE HE CAN DO? GOSHH.

 

[TheGambino]

Why would she accept my offer to go jogging 2 weeks ago, 1 day before that I kissed her mouth when she kissed my cheek. I asked it once and she sent ok see you in 10mins at *location I cancelled it myself because I couldn't go anymore.

I dont think a girl thats fully uninterested would do those things bro?

Ok we know for sure she is uninterested know for some reason but it wasn't like that earlier.

Besides dont forget: She was abused for a year by her nephew when she was 12 years, that guy's in jail. I rushed with the dj mindset (kino and stuff), im 6 years older, she is raised up strictly and can't date guys like me (her parents want her to date a church guy blabla)

I think there was a interest level but it faded or some other reason that she blocked me on whatsapp

One thing that i don't get, she was all over me yesterday sending me multiplie messages after I sended my voice over, she said its so fun i love it blabla and initiating contact and insta replieying the whole night. next day block

yes i like her but i move on even if she ever contacts me no chance.

 

[youngmack]

This sort of reminds of my run in with an abused chick couple months ago. I ran some grade A game on her and she was all over. Then I slowly started catching feelings. She even told me shes falling in love with me and I make her feel like no other guy has made her feel. Next week she's gone lol.

Like 5string said, these girls are totally broken, and can't be fixed. (I tried to be captain save a ho).

 

[JoeMarron]

Damaged. Automatic next unless you enjoy drama

 

[TheGambino]

You guys think its possible that she was somehow falling for me or enjoying my attention and then realized, no he only wants sex or he could abuse me. I have to block him (panic moment for her) ?

yes or no im moving on btw broski's, I want to know thats it coz she was all over me the whole day be4 she blocked me i dont get it

 

[BeDJ]

You said she is 18 and you're 23. Then you say you're 6 years older than her. Your profile shows 22. Do you math?

Back on topic, you are her dancing monkey playing to her tune. You rewarded her unearned attention, it's not her fault she is treating you like sh!t. She lost respect and value for you because you chose to be her entertainer. I have dated a few women who have been violated in the past. None of them used that as a barrier to entry. It's not an excuse for poor game.

 

[TheGambino]

That's exactley what I thought myself, you prob right there bedj ..

F* it too much Sh1t already, deleted her number im done

 

[user name]

You guys think its possible that she was somehow falling for me or enjoying my attention and then realized, no he only wants sex or he could abuse me. I have to block him (panic moment for her) ?

yes or no im moving on btw broski's, I want to know thats it coz she was all over me the whole day be4 she blocked me i dont get it

lol. i have to laugh at the ingeniousness of some of the things our ego will come up with to justify a rejection. i've done it too. lol. the truth is always far simpler. she jsut ain't into you. lol.

 

[TheGambino]

Dude I put my best A+ grade game on her, no way that she didn't dig it, shes f*cked up, next..

 

[user name]

really? i thought if you had played A grade game you would have dropped this one a long time ago, no?