Girl wants u 2 decide plans.

[Cod3r]

Tip: When your trying to fuvk a girl and nothing more, don't take her out on dates and such. Have a few drinks and then go back to your place.

Best advice i've read today, Amen.


-Cod3r

 

[DJinTraining06]

I have a 3rd date with a girl tonight and we decided we'd play it by ear. Well she did. here's the thing, she says she is a zombie on fridays cuz shes tired from work. Unfortunately were both busy saturday so tonight is it. She jokes that shes usually "non-functional" on Fridays. I noticed that first hand last Friday since she wanted to go back to my place and watch movies after we ate. I suggested a bar, then another 2 things, and she was like why dont we just hang out. So we went to my place. I thoguht maybe she wanted to have sex or soemthing, but she really just wanted to chill. I had to really wait a while before shed let me kiss her, she was very closed up in her body language it was like impossible to get her in the mood but i finally did.

Well anyway, i suggested dinner and a movie tonight, and she was like, u know well figure it out tom. So i guess thats her way of sayin she doesnt wanan do a movie. So I wonder now, what should i suggest? I wanna be a man and be decisive, but shes all zombi-ish, what is there? Its cold out so that rule sout alot of things. Theres movies, bars, cafe's, pool halls, arcades, bowling alleys, theres really not much else in col weather. We could head into manhattan, but thats a trek with the subways, i cant suggest that if shes tired.

Should i just suggest one of those things and if she dont like it too bad?

 

[nvictor]

I wanna be a man and be decisive...

Sorry I've not seen where you've been decisive. You kept asking. Why? This is what I've learnt (never tried it though, so it's up to you) : "Hey, I'm taking you to x after work" or you can use body language; grab her arms, lead her.

Try it, you've got nothing to lose.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Sorry I've not seen where you've been decisive. You kept asking. Why? This is what I've learnt (never tried it though, so it's up to you) : "Hey, I'm taking you to x after work" or you can use body language; grab her arms, lead her.

Try it, you've got nothing to lose.

Well i felt i did that last time with the bar idea, and she was very very clear that she sdidnt want to. Well i didnt say "were doin this" it was more like, do u wanna get a drink next door at the bar?

 

[DJinTraining06]

Sorry I've not seen where you've been decisive. You kept asking. Why? This is what I've learnt (never tried it though, so it's up to you) : "Hey, I'm taking you to x after work" or you can use body language; grab her arms, lead her.

Try it, you've got nothing to lose.

the only reason i asked this at all is cuz of how "non-functional" she says she is. Otherwise id just be like ok lets do this. But with this whole tired thing that she has, and makes clear to me every time, i dont know now. Should i lead her to soemthin that will make her more tired. Or should we do something relaxing like dinner and movie. Not sure what this girl wants me to suggest. its confusing thats all. Not a big deal at all. i just like to ask thigns on my mind while im bored at work. She said last night, dont let me decide im horrible at decisions, but when i suggested soemthin she shot it down, so its weird to me. Its like she wants me to lead her but it has to be the exact thing she wants to do lol. Whatever i'm just gonna treat her like any other girl and pick her up and take her where i wanna take her.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

So what does she enjoy doing? What did she do before you started going out?

 

[DJinTraining06]

So what does she enjoy doing? What did she do before you started going out?

She just called me, now a movie is good lol. She told me she has to see the 8:15 cuz shell fall asleep at the 10:30. And shes having dinner with her mom beforehand. So thats cool i save money on dinner. but man this girls is a drip. I like girls who enjoy getting out.

 

[DJinTraining06]

So what does she enjoy doing? What did she do before you started going out?

Could this be low interest level? Who acts that lazy on 2nd and 3rd dates? Is she trying to find out if im a good couch potato accompanier. or is she just not that interested? She changed her plans with her firned for me, so i dunno seems she is, but shes so unemotional shes a very hard read.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Could this be low interest level? Who acts that lazy on 2nd and 3rd dates? Is she trying to find out if im a good couch potato accompanier. or is she just not that interested? She changed her plans with her firned for me, so i dunno seems she is, but shes so unemotional shes a very hard read.

Unless she is extremely interested in you, keep in the back of your mind that she has the ability to keep a feeler out for a better opportunity. She's looking out for her best interest and so should you. Dinner and a movie, anyone can do that, just know that if she has multiple offers she will probably choose the person that she's more interested in.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Unless she is extremely interested in you, keep in the back of your mind that she has the ability to keep a feeler out for a better opportunity. She's looking out for her best interest and so should you. Dinner and a movie, anyone can do that, just know that if she has multiple offers she will probably choose the person that she's more interested in.

Well the last time i suggested bar, she was like ill prob fall asleep why dont we just hang out at ur place. So i dont feel like giving her exciting ideas impresses her. I have tons of ideas, comedy clubs, bars, lounges, cool restaurants, etc. We had a couple of convos about how she loves "vegetating" on the couch. She said shes the kind of person who can sleep 12 hrs, then have breakfast and sleep on and off all day. She said she likes to go out but she normally just likes to cuddle up on the couch and watch movies.

So i dunno, i kinda just wanna bang her. I cant see having a long ltr with her. But i dunno i do enjoy talkin to her. Her sarcasm is fun to me. But i got another date for tuesday with this other girl who is much cuter, and very outgoing. So im def keepin my options open. Im not fallin in to the trap i alsways do where i end up all depressed cuz i had one-itis. Im just totally confused with this girl, she said herself people tell her shes impossible to read. I personally think shes just attracted to me, and not much more. I dont think she is into me personality wise, but thats just a hunch.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Well the last time i suggested bar, she was like ill prob fall asleep why dont we just hang out at ur place. So i dont feel like giving her exciting ideas impresses her. I have tons of ideas, comedy clubs, bars, lounges, cool restaurants, etc. We had a couple of convos about how she loves "vegetating" on the couch. She said shes the kind of person who can sleep 12 hrs, then have breakfast and sleep on and off all day. She said she likes to go out but she normally just likes to cuddle up on the couch and watch movies.

So i dunno, i kinda just wanna bang her. I cant see having a long ltr with her. But i dunno i do enjoy talkin to her. Her sarcasm is fun to me. But i got another date for tuesday with this other girl who is much cuter, and very outgoing. So im def keepin my options open. Im not fallin in to the trap i alsways do where i end up all depressed cuz i had one-itis. Im just totally confused with this girl, she said herself people tell her shes impossible to read. I personally think shes just attracted to me, and not much more. I dont think she is into me personality wise, but thats just a hunch.

Sounds like you're learning from your past experiences and changing your behavior, good job. Consider the time and effort you're putting toward girl #1. Is sleeping with her worth the energy you're putting forth? She doesn't seem to be your type. Part of the DJ mindset is that you realize that you don't have to bed every woman who shows the slightest interest in you. You are in a position to turn her down and move on to more interesting women.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Your hanging out with her too much too soon! If her interest level was through the roof, then it wouldn't matter, but that' obviously not the case here. If she's all lethargic and lame whenever you call her to hang out, then find other options. You said it yourself, you like going out and doing things. Seems like she likes staying in.

Your starting to chip away at the iceberg when you ask about her interest level. Girls with healthy interest don't mention "how tired" they are when you call to set up a get together. They get that extra pep in their voice and even though they try to hide it, they're excited to hangout. This obviously isn't the case here. I wouldn't necessarily say she has low interest, but its not high enough, if that makes sense.

Switch up your routine, don't call her for a few days, focus on your other prospects and then come back to her. Maybe she'll call you, maybe she won't. Point is, never make this kind of effort for her girl unless she's your gf. Especially when your just trying to bang her.


Tip: When your trying to fuvk a girl and nothing more, don't take her out on dates and such. Have a few drinks and then go back to your place.





PIMP