girl wants to halt on the sex?

[nubian-knight]

i go to school out of town and starting talking to this girl mid October from back home casually on msn and we initially hooked up in November. so we've been "talking" casually since oct. around Christmas time she visited me at my school i took her virginity. shorty after i went back home and we were hooking up and having sex fairly regularly until last week wen i came back to school.

before going back to school she tried to make me commit myself to some kind of relationship which i dint really do since i live away and have been hooking up with girls here while talking to her (which she doesnt know). anyway she calls me at school the other day and tells me that she wants to stop having sex when she sees me, which pissed me off since im coming home next week. she said she doesn't feel right because wen we have sex its almost mechanical and meaningless and thinks we should wait unti lits meaningful or some garbage like that. normally id say its bs but considering i took her v card less then a month ago i guess i should be understanding? shes not very experienced at all prior to me and it shows wen wer together.

i made it clear that id give it a shot cuz i kid of like this girl and live away so what the hell u kno, but made it clear under the circumstances this may not work out in the end and that ill move on if this "no sex" thing takes forever and she got all upset about how all i want is sex

anyway she got mad and i emailed her saying arite il give it a shot maybe it will bring us closer together blah blah. im suppose to see her next weekend and if we dont have sex that time fine. but if AFTER that she STILL doesnt want to im gona dump her.

opinions anyone?

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Find another girl is the first opinion that comes to mind.

 

[Jitterbug]

From how she describes sex with you ("mechanical and meaningless"), it sounds like you need some spices in your sex life, starting with better techniques. Get ready to cut it and move on anyway.

 

[nubian-knight]

Find another girl is the first opinion that comes to mind.

but ive always done that wen things dont work out with agirl. i feel like im gona be running around all my life from girl to girl, i think maybe i should put some work into something for once i always feel i just leave wen the going gets tough n it feels really half assed

on the other hand if after a few more encounters theres no sex ill obv leave

 

[nubian-knight]

From how she describes sex with you ("mechanical and meaningless"), it sounds like you need some spices in your sex life, starting with better techniques. Get ready to cut it and move on anyway.

she loves it but she says she doesnt feel a personal connection only phsyical

 

[My Name is Nobody]

but ive always done that wen things dont work out with agirl. i feel like im gona be running around all my life from girl to girl, i think maybe i should put some work into something for once i always feel i just leave wen the going gets tough n it feels really half assed

on the other hand if after a few more encounters theres no sex ill obv leave

Who says you can't still mess with this girl? Go find another one who loves having sex with you and you won't even be worrying about this one.
Nobody said dump her.

 

[nubian-knight]

Who says you can't still mess with this girl? Go find another one who loves having sex with you and you won't even be worrying about this one.
Nobody said dump her.

ive been with other girls since. i just kind of feel bad cuz she takes us so much more seriously then i do n shes pretty unexperianced. i feel like im gona be one of those guys that turns this girl into a bitterbich for the future

 

[My Name is Nobody]

ive been with other girls since. i just kind of feel bad cuz she takes us so much more seriously then i do n shes pretty unexperianced. i feel like im gona be one of those guys that turns this girl into a bitterbich for the future

To be honest it hurts my eyes to read all the details of your post. How old are you?

 

[nubian-knight]

To be honest it hurts my eyes too much to read all the details of your post. How old are you?

lol whatever ill give the no sex **** a couple trys and if shes still pulling it ill just cut it.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

this ones easy - shes upset because she has 'given herself to you' and you are not commiting to her by getting into a relationship.

She is now holding the sex as 'ransom' till you reconsider your feelings towards her. A typical & classic move by a women.

Unfortunately you have only ASSURED her worst fears by telling her it might not work out, and that at the moment you dont see her as Girlfriend material. You have made it even more clear that your mostly just in it for sex.

OK I'm coming down a little hard on you here, but this is YOUR fault. She has every right to be upset.

Instead, you should have assured her that you both have a fantastic time together, and that it feels very special with her and you cant imagine being with anyone else. Here you are re-assuring her she is not being used for sex. had you done this, I am postiive you two would be getting it on when you next see each other...you now have to dig yourself out of a hole you've dug.

Do the above, and then carry on seeing your other women without telling her. If it turns into something serious with one of them, stop seeing the others.

 

[samson smith]

i go to school out of town and starting talking to this girl mid October from back home casually on msn and we initially hooked up in November. so we've been "talking" casually since oct. around Christmas time she visited me at my school i took her virginity. shorty after i went back home and we were hooking up and having sex fairly regularly until last week wen i came back to school.

before going back to school she tried to make me commit myself to some kind of relationship which i dint really do since i live away and have been hooking up with girls here while talking to her (which she doesnt know). anyway she calls me at school the other day and tells me that she wants to stop having sex when she sees me, which pissed me off since im coming home next week. she said she doesn't feel right because wen we have sex its almost mechanical and meaningless and thinks we should wait unti lits meaningful or some garbage like that. normally id say its bs but considering i took her v card less then a month ago i guess i should be understanding? shes not very experienced at all prior to me and it shows wen wer together.

i made it clear that id give it a shot cuz i kid of like this girl and live away so what the hell u kno, but made it clear under the circumstances this may not work out in the end and that ill move on if this "no sex" thing takes forever and she got all upset about how all i want is sex

anyway she got mad and i emailed her saying arite il give it a shot maybe it will bring us closer together blah blah. im suppose to see her next weekend and if we dont have sex that time fine. but if AFTER that she STILL doesnt want to im gona dump her.

opinions anyone?

First talk with her, and find what type of sex she want with you.

 

[Z Man]

Dude, why are you necro posting a nearly 4 year old thread?

Anyway, the following caught my attention..

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Instead, you should have assured her that you both have a fantastic time together, and that it feels very special with her and you cant imagine being with anyone else. Here you are re-assuring her she is not being used for sex. had you done this, I am postiive you two would be getting it on when you next see each other...you now have to dig yourself out of a hole you've dug.

Do the above, and then carry on seeing your other women without telling her. If it turns into something serious with one of them, stop seeing the others.

Not sure if Pectoral is still around but he basically told this guy to lie to the girl's face about his intentions. Reassuring her that she is not being used for sex?

But he IS using her for sex!

Sorry, but that is NOT being a Don Juan in my opinion.

She wanted it to become a relationship. He just wanted sex. They can't agree, so this relationship is over.