"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey, I have this good buddy from high school whose little sister got super hot after years of not having seen her. Anyways, this chick is definitely wife material, tho i dont want to get married for at least another 5 - 10 yrs... and she says the same thing... young professional, just out of UPenn, awesome job, etc... the thing is that i am willing to sow some seeds and be patient with this girl, so i'm not willing to pressure her that much, so i set up a lunch date for tomorrow...

She agrees and everything since she's visiting her sister and her sister lives by my work, so I can just pass by her house around 3 and go have a late lunch... you know, the friendly type... well, 5 mins after agreeing to have lunch, she calls asking if it's ok if her sister comes along... i immediately say yes cuz i'm more friends with her sister than her, anyways... but then it hit me... i just agreed to a sucker's date!

Broad daylight, no alcohol involved, with extra company, fk this!

So my question is this: i set up this date a few mins ago... like 20 mins ago... should i call cancelling right now, or maybe 2 hrs later, or should i call back tomorrow saying i cant do lunch but dinner would be nice and insist on being alone? Either way, i'm pissed... this girl is hot and she's playing this crap on me.. her senior by 4 yrs... ****, i would'nt even give this girl the time of day when we ere younger but i was always nice, and now she's pulling this crap?

Anyways, advice, please... this feels close to hearbreak.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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oh, there's more...

In december, 6 months ago, she came to Miami, and she had a BF back then... i took her out only us two and even though i got the feeling that we shared a moment, i totally pussied out and didnt plant a kiss on her...

Another thing... here in Miami, I'm good friends with all her good friends (don't ask, we're all from the same small Latin American nation and met up here by chance when we came to college) and i get the distinct feeling that they're going out of their way to ****block me. Is there anything I can do to fight them off? Or if not get them on my side, then at least make sure that they don't negatively interfere?
 
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mikeraw said:
Anyways, this chick is definitely wife material
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Stop puttin her on a pedastool. You sound like you have a good foundation of DJ knowledge, realizing your mistakes very quickly after making them without anyone pointing them out to you.

Finally someone we don't have to b1tch slap. Seriously though, your makin a common mistake. After some DJ success, its easy to fall into the old pit traps of thinking a girl is special.

I don't doubt that she is high quality than most other women. However if you truly value her, don't treat her that way. I know I don't have to explain further cuz from the knowledge you displayed, deep down you know how to act. Take her off the pedastool and remember who is the prize.
 
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Well obviously don't go. By vaige that something else has come up and you'd like to reschedule. Of course, her asking to bring her sister is kinda' the kiss of death.
 
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