Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl wants to bring sister along...

mikeraw

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Hey, I have this good buddy from high school whose little sister got super hot after years of not having seen her. Anyways, this chick is definitely wife material, tho i dont want to get married for at least another 5 - 10 yrs... and she says the same thing... young professional, just out of UPenn, awesome job, etc... the thing is that i am willing to sow some seeds and be patient with this girl, so i'm not willing to pressure her that much, so i set up a lunch date for tomorrow...

She agrees and everything since she's visiting her sister and her sister lives by my work, so I can just pass by her house around 3 and go have a late lunch... you know, the friendly type... well, 5 mins after agreeing to have lunch, she calls asking if it's ok if her sister comes along... i immediately say yes cuz i'm more friends with her sister than her, anyways... but then it hit me... i just agreed to a sucker's date!

Broad daylight, no alcohol involved, with extra company, fk this!

So my question is this: i set up this date a few mins ago... like 20 mins ago... should i call cancelling right now, or maybe 2 hrs later, or should i call back tomorrow saying i cant do lunch but dinner would be nice and insist on being alone? Either way, i'm pissed... this girl is hot and she's playing this crap on me.. her senior by 4 yrs... ****, i would'nt even give this girl the time of day when we ere younger but i was always nice, and now she's pulling this crap?

Anyways, advice, please... this feels close to hearbreak.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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mikeraw

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oh, there's more...

In december, 6 months ago, she came to Miami, and she had a BF back then... i took her out only us two and even though i got the feeling that we shared a moment, i totally pussied out and didnt plant a kiss on her...

Another thing... here in Miami, I'm good friends with all her good friends (don't ask, we're all from the same small Latin American nation and met up here by chance when we came to college) and i get the distinct feeling that they're going out of their way to ****block me. Is there anything I can do to fight them off? Or if not get them on my side, then at least make sure that they don't negatively interfere?
 

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mikeraw said:
Anyways, this chick is definitely wife material
Stop puttin her on a pedastool. You sound like you have a good foundation of DJ knowledge, realizing your mistakes very quickly after making them without anyone pointing them out to you.

Finally someone we don't have to b1tch slap. Seriously though, your makin a common mistake. After some DJ success, its easy to fall into the old pit traps of thinking a girl is special.

I don't doubt that she is high quality than most other women. However if you truly value her, don't treat her that way. I know I don't have to explain further cuz from the knowledge you displayed, deep down you know how to act. Take her off the pedastool and remember who is the prize.
 

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Well obviously don't go. By vaige that something else has come up and you'd like to reschedule. Of course, her asking to bring her sister is kinda' the kiss of death.
 
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