StevieD said:Jaylan you are right...
Here is the thing though.... She is going to be hurt either way. She doesn't want her illness to make her not "normal" Maybe having sex with her though fleeting might at least give her temporary joy...
You know this is not true. And you know in your gut the sex is about you. Just be honest with her. Say, "I dont want to hurt you, and but im just trying to have fun right now and I wouldnt want you to get hurt" I usually tell girls this when I know they see me as relationship material. That way they cant say I lead them on, and they know I just want to date, but nothing serious.
I guess what I need to figure out is what is my approach?
Just ignore her.. and let her flake out (maybe happening already)
I wouldnt ignore her. Id stay friendly and try to be supportive but from a distance. If she starts to initiate less and ends up flaking out, so be it.
Or
Tell her I am not looking for an LTR, I am a player. If we do it, we do it...
Dont say "if we do it, we do it" Because it comes off wrong and doesnt convey to her that you care about her getting hurt over this. Use what i said before.
This my dilemma
In bold