"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl wants to bang right away - Should I be happy or worried?

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So last week I met this girl in a bar. She was very direct in that she thought I was attractive.. I'd say she was a 7.... definitely good enough to bang... So anyway we ended making out hardcore in the bar.... She was with a friend who basically left... I didn't try for the ONS, but I got her number

So we been texting everyday.... yesterday we met up again for a drink. She told me she was drunk and horny the night we met... and if I asked her too she would have gone home with me. She then kept making sexual references and flat out told me she loves sex... and thinks about it all the time

I ended up making out again, and felt her up a bit.... but I decided not to do her that night cause I didn't want to sleep over her place or vice versa...

So obviously she wants to see me again and she looks like she is willing ready and able....

The thing is when girls are coy and throw **** tests I hate it... but now that this girl is ready I am kind of skeptical...

Should I just be a man and enjoy this nympho?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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StevieD,


It appears that you have an endgame in mind that transcends just sex alone.

A way to help you answer your own question is to first ask yourself THIS question:

What's more important to you at this moment in time:

To get the sex. or to get the sex AND to be able to enjoy some sort of peace of mind AFTER you get the sex?
 

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Fück her.

I wouldn't be surprised if you come back and tell us how she flaked out on you. When a decent chick is serving it up readily, they don't wait around too long for the dude to get it.
 

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Let me get this right. She's attractive, she's wanting it. You are way overanalyzing this. Take her home, use protection and have at it. Ther've been a couple occasions in my life that a good looking woman literally threw herself at me. You're being indecisive will kill this quick. Women usually have a very short window they are in this mode. You not taking the bait will cause her to next you in a heartbeat. Usually there's a reason behind their promiscuity, they either just broke up, got divorced, etc. It's usually a ONS that they are seeking some validation they still are attractive. You being fickle will cause her to move to the next guy that she tosses some offer to. So if you can live with just being a short term thing than hit it. IF that's not what you are looking for, then yeah dump her # and walk away. Either way decide fast.
KC
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hesitate and thou art lost.


,..but do wear a condom.
 

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Major update!!!!

Listen today she texted me saying she is in the hospital... She said she didnt want to tell me cause I would worry for nothing... She said at work her vision was getting kinda blurry and she started feeling weak.. She went to ER..

She said she has some type of auto immune that they treat with steroids. She said it hasn't acted up in a while... I looked this up on Wikipedia and I don't think it's STD related... but naturally i am concerned here..

yes she did look healthy.. I didn't see any visible blemishes on her that would make me worry... thats why I hooked up with her to begin with..

But now with this, should I be concerned??? Please I need mature answers

I do want to boink her as opportunities like this don't arise everyday!
 

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StevieD said:
Major update!!!!

Listen today she texted me saying she is in the hospital... She said she didnt want to tell me cause I would worry for nothing... She said at work her vision was getting kinda blurry and she started feeling weak.. She went to ER..

She said she has some type of auto immune that they treat with steroids. She said it hasn't acted up in a while... I looked this up on Wikipedia and I don't think it's STD related... but naturally i am concerned here..

yes she did look healthy.. I didn't see any visible blemishes on her that would make me worry... thats why I hooked up with her to begin with..

But now with this, should I be concerned??? Please I need mature answers

I do want to boink her as opportunities like this don't arise everyday!
Same opinion, go for it, but wear protection and don't allow yourself to get attached to this woman easily. I'd be leery of high maintenance and or insanity of some kind.

SH
 

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All this hesitancy sounds like you don't want to bang this chick. If that's indeed the case, it's your perogative, but you need to make a decision.

What do YOU want? It shouldn't require this much trepidation.
 

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I definitely do want to shag her.... I just get paranoid about STD's and what not.... But when she was talking open about sex I actually got very turned on.... I just wouldn't want to do something and regret it later
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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StevieD said:
Major update!!!!

Listen today she texted me saying she is in the hospital... She said she didnt want to tell me cause I would worry for nothing... She said at work her vision was getting kinda blurry and she started feeling weak.. She went to ER..

She said she has some type of auto immune that they treat with steroids. She said it hasn't acted up in a while... I looked this up on Wikipedia and I don't think it's STD related... but naturally i am concerned here..

yes she did look healthy.. I didn't see any visible blemishes on her that would make me worry... thats why I hooked up with her to begin with..

But now with this, should I be concerned??? Please I need mature answers

I do want to boink her as opportunities like this don't arise everyday!
MAJOR UPDATE! I feel her pulling you into orbit. From all the way in florida.
 

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Ok so I found out what she has is Multiple Sclerosis..... I don't know much about it except that I always associated it with being very serious...

Does this mean I shouldn't hit it? Anyone that knows about this condition please let me know if its ok to still do it. She said she didnt even want to tell me cause I would treat her different...
 

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It means that if you get serious with her it would take a lot of time and energy for you down the road and she would deteriorate over time. She's not good long term potential (in my opinion) because of this. I feel you though the easy / honest ones make you nervous. Just cause you bang her doesn't mean you bought her though...just sayin.
 

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yuppaz said:
It means that if you get serious with her it would take a lot of time and energy for you down the road and she would deteriorate over time. She's not good long term potential (in my opinion) because of this. I feel you though the easy / honest ones make you nervous. Just cause you bang her doesn't mean you bought her though...just sayin.

Does this mean she is going to die young?? Man it's amazing how things like this change my thinking. Before I was looking at this girl as literally a piece of meat and now I feel like it might be morally wrong to hit it and bounce....

Plus can I even have rough sex with her...... gosh there is always a catch whenever I get lucky.... welcome to my life :(
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think you should try to make her happy. If she is looking for a relationship though, you would be better off politely declining.

My aunt has MS, she was fine until the age of about 28. Then she went downhill slowly but gradually. It started with vision problems, tingling etc. Then she had problems with her balance and walking, she needed to start using a frame. She is now in her late 40's, wheelchair bound, no control over her bladder or bowels, crushing fatigue, and her left arm is now useless.

It is one of the worst diseases you can possibly have. Do not hurt this girl.
 

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StevieD said:
Ok so I found out what she has is Multiple Sclerosis..... I don't know much about it except that I always associated it with being very serious...

Does this mean I shouldn't hit it? Anyone that knows about this condition please let me know if its ok to still do it. She said she didnt even want to tell me cause I would treat her different...
Buy her flowers, a teddy bear, and be available 24/7 for emotional support.
 

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If you hit it, and she wants more but you decline, you'll live with that memory.
If you give more ... well, just don't!
I personally couldn't do it.

Walk.

SH
 

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scrouds said:
Buy her flowers, a teddy bear, and be available 24/7 for emotional support.
Winner.

LMAO :D
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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