disfunktional
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Fair playjonwon said:
I doubt most men could in that situation... The only time I could personally is in a LTR.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girl wanting to take me on holiday.
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I doubt most men could in that situation... The only time I could personally is in a LTR."Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
cordoncordon
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st_99 said:
It's the same as when Brits or Europeons say "I go to University" or "I went to hospital to get my arm fixed", they don't use the THE before the word for whatever reason.
Ok, I gotcha. Its simply a vacation.jonwon said:Indeed.
The term 'holiday' is used to take a break from everyday life, usually it means going somewhere hot with a nice tropical beach, to chill relax and unwind.
To alot of people (i would suspect that) would be like: Why, we get that all the time.
But us brits live in a climate that is constantly grey and dull, raining all the time and if anything we work 9 till 5, so its no wonder us brits love to take about 3-4 holidays a year.
To sit in the sunshine when all you face is a grey dull day everyday, is a pleasure that is hard to pass, even more so when you have great company, but then again even that can be poor if that company could turn out to be uncomfortable, which in this case it could be.
Yes its raining here, it usually is.
Also the pound is usually always strong, se we get good rates on going away to other places, even the USA (which i have not been to, but i hope to get the chance one day).
I am more a beach and sun, sea and great nightlife type of guy, but i know there are alot who prefer to go away to see the different cultures, us brits are always on holiday, since the UK is in all intents and purposes Dull.
Most people in the UK can afford an holiday, even ones on income support, i.e. benifits, they get to go to the english coast, but working class people would not go there for an holiday, we go abroad ALOT
In other words, yes a vacations, but you dont need to be rich in the UK to take one, not in the slightest, not sure how it is for other people though in other country's.
And if by stating holiday i sound rich maybe i should visit these other western sphere country's hell i would be fighting them off with a ****t* stick.
Of course you don't need to be wealthy to simply take a vacation here either, I just thought the terminology was something used only in wealthy circles.
Also, here in the states 99% of us don't go on "holiday" 3-4 times a year. Just maybe once or twice.
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I have given alot of thought to a similiar situation. We are of the same thinking on the 8+ scale.
One thing I have realized that I have never done before is to hold on to the plates that are below 8. Every plate you hold gives you power and true confidence. The scarcity mentality disappears and there are no attachments to your other plates. I have walked away and hung up on hb9's, which in the past I never did. Had I not had plenty of other plates spinning, those actions would not happen.
Plates bring plates. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The trip I would definitely not do with a 5/6. For me , that would be ego blowing. But definitely keep that plate spinning and be the AW.
That being said, accumulation of plates is an asset. I would definitely keep a lower rated plate and not have second thoughts.
One thing I have realized that I have never done before is to hold on to the plates that are below 8. Every plate you hold gives you power and true confidence. The scarcity mentality disappears and there are no attachments to your other plates. I have walked away and hung up on hb9's, which in the past I never did. Had I not had plenty of other plates spinning, those actions would not happen.
Plates bring plates. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The trip I would definitely not do with a 5/6. For me , that would be ego blowing. But definitely keep that plate spinning and be the AW.
That being said, accumulation of plates is an asset. I would definitely keep a lower rated plate and not have second thoughts.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Still i find its never easy walking away from a 8+ or a 9, i find at some stage, you want to hit it again, the lower end ones are in all intents and purposes replaceable with no consequence, dam we man are some shallow fuc*sguru1000 said:
Hey but its what i am, she has to be smoking hot, but having plates that are not, puts things into perspective when the hot chick starts throwing out the shi* tests e.t.c, yes having plates produce more plates, could not have put it better.
The confidence you get from knowing, you have it on a plate is massive, sometimes though it can make one complacent, i know many a guy who gets a low end plate and ends up making her a LTR since they cant put in the effort to move up the plate scale, shame really, AFC who try to juggle plates i can see alot of them settling down with the 4/6, instead of holding out.
Some guys will read this as me using women, i dont use women, i tell them from the start, ppl would be suprised how many women are more then ok with that, especcially 4/6 type scale women.
The only concern i have with posting personal things about me on this board, especcially some of the women i FB, some guys know who i am in RL, that view these boards, if one of them every showed one of my FB this site (my FB get friendly with the guys i know), i think it has potential to hurt her, i am not stating they would, but if it did the reproccussion for her, when she see's that i refer her has a 4/6 would not be great, i know no women who would want to see that sort of thing and i have no intention to hurt any-women.
Hence why i dont post alot of personal stuff here, like some other posters would, its not that i dont trust these guys, i do, its just well if it slipped out who i am on these boards and it got back to one of these FB, it would not be good for her i would imagine.
Why am i posting this, hell i dont know, just had an urge to.
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