trans_am03
Don Juan
What am I supposed to do? Shes got a bf but she said that we should hangout and she asked me when we can hang out.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girl w/ BF wants to hangout...
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Jeremy the Wicked
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If her BF is not your friend or something then just take her out.
trans_am03
Don Juan
Nah I dont know him, they just started goin out a few weeks back. He seems like a ****in tool-comments on all her pics and leaves her a comment like everyday on her myspace page. But another thing is her best friend likes me, and her friend even asked me if I was gonna hang out with her. But her best friend just got back together with her ex-another tool. But whats the point in goin out with her if she already has a bf? Does it sound like she wants to be more than just friends?
trans_am03
Don Juan
But what about her friend? And should I make a move like go to kiss her or anything knowing shes not single?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Jeremy the Wicked
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There are many reasons why a girl might have a BF. She's not always really interested in him. E.g. she can think it's not cool to be alone so it's better to have a poor BF then noone.
And if she asked YOU out then she definitely is interested. (Well, almost definitely - you never know with a woman
).
I see you're in doubt... I'd say you need to learn to be a man i.e. to make decisions. If what you decide doesn't work well then at least you've learnt something. Don't put that much pressure to the whole situation. Just make what you feel is best and have fun. This way the girls will feel better around you as well.
Act as if she were single. I'm just meeting a girl who's got a BF. At the beginning she was talking a lot about her BF and now she only
says how she's stuck with him and how boring he is. LOL (I don't want her to be my GF though because I'm here for summer only and I live on the other side of the Earth).
And if she asked YOU out then she definitely is interested. (Well, almost definitely - you never know with a woman
).I see you're in doubt... I'd say you need to learn to be a man i.e. to make decisions. If what you decide doesn't work well then at least you've learnt something. Don't put that much pressure to the whole situation. Just make what you feel is best and have fun. This way the girls will feel better around you as well.
Act as if she were single. I'm just meeting a girl who's got a BF. At the beginning she was talking a lot about her BF and now she only
says how she's stuck with him and how boring he is. LOL (I don't want her to be my GF though because I'm here for summer only and I live on the other side of the Earth).
niceguydying
Don Juan
If she has been with the other guy for 2 weeks, she doesn't have any emotional hangups I would think about him. I would go with the flow since you have nothing to lose. I would make sure he is not lurking around you guys when you hang out. He may a Psycho AFC.
trans_am03
Don Juan
lol Well I see what you guys are saying-in a way its like a risk going for her. Well her friend and I were talking about jobs and she just got one at Sears and was saying that if I'm not busy I should stop by and see her at her work. I know this one def likes me and I think shes just with her bf just to have one. Well I have a good idea of where I'm at with these girls and where I can take things if I decide to, but these girls arent at the top of my list right now so Im not worried about them too much.
Yo, you from West Virginia? So am I, living in NZ now. Went to school in Morgantown.
Go to Sears, get her digits, and get some ALONE time with her.
Don't talk about one girl with the other. If they're competing with eachother, this is GREAT for you.
~Phyzzle
Go to Sears, get her digits, and get some ALONE time with her.
Don't talk about one girl with the other. If they're competing with eachother, this is GREAT for you.
~Phyzzle
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
trans_am03
Don Juan
Yea Im bout 3 hrs from Morgantown.
I already got her number-her friend can be flirty but has basically stepped aside-she even asked me if I liked her friend or if I just liked her as a friend.(obviously they were working together on that one)
So I know the girl likes me and all but now the next problem is I am leaving October for the Air Force so I dont know how girls would feel about that though these 2 already know that. I could have gone out with so many girls but once they hear I'll be leaving they back out. So I don't know if I'll do something with her or not. Might just have fun with her til I leave.
I already got her number-her friend can be flirty but has basically stepped aside-she even asked me if I liked her friend or if I just liked her as a friend.(obviously they were working together on that one)
So I know the girl likes me and all but now the next problem is I am leaving October for the Air Force so I dont know how girls would feel about that though these 2 already know that. I could have gone out with so many girls but once they hear I'll be leaving they back out. So I don't know if I'll do something with her or not. Might just have fun with her til I leave.
Ace of Flames
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Just remember this. If she's gonna lose her bf and go after you, how much does that say for her character? She could turn around and do the same to you in 2 weeks. I'd only mess around with her, no relationships.
trans_am03
Don Juan
Well a ltr is pretty much outta the question for me since Im leaving in 2 months and as for her putting out-on her myspace page she has some **** about hating guys that expect her to have sex the 1st month they're together so I don't know about that.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
Treat it as a challenge...A girl you can focus on.....Yeah she has a Boyfriend but you dont know him so who cares....
Im doing the same thing right now.....I mean right now! Im talking to a girl im gaming with a boyfriend. Its from my FR at the weekend with the ****block. Still working her guys....I will get this one.
Trans.....Just go for her.
Im doing the same thing right now.....I mean right now! Im talking to a girl im gaming with a boyfriend. Its from my FR at the weekend with the ****block. Still working her guys....I will get this one.
Trans.....Just go for her.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
I'd hang out with her but I'd be both flirty and aloof all at the same time.
Act like you may want her but at the same time you don't..... It'll drive her nuts, if she has any interest at all.
I know karma is bad, but they've only been togetehr for 2 weeks and that barely registers on my radar as having a BF.
Act like you may want her but at the same time you don't..... It'll drive her nuts, if she has any interest at all.
I know karma is bad, but they've only been togetehr for 2 weeks and that barely registers on my radar as having a BF.
radronOmega
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1. Pick who's the better person in terms of looks and personality. Her or her friend.
IF IT IS HER
Then on the day try some C&F, some boyfriend destroyers (use search button), and use some push and pull tactics to tease her.
IF IT IS HER FRIEND
Then use more neg hits and push and pulls, and try and increase rapport with her while making your stock rise in her eyes. Then later on, go after her friend and once she ask her about you, the girl with the BF will give a nod of approval.
Sarge on
IF IT IS HER
Then on the day try some C&F, some boyfriend destroyers (use search button), and use some push and pull tactics to tease her.
IF IT IS HER FRIEND
Then use more neg hits and push and pulls, and try and increase rapport with her while making your stock rise in her eyes. Then later on, go after her friend and once she ask her about you, the girl with the BF will give a nod of approval.
Sarge on