Girl w/ BF, possibly interested; how do I do this right?

[Miroku]

I need advice on how to proceed here... I'm currently in a setting with a girl that I'm fairly sure has some level of interest in me. We're both on a job that'll continue on for about 3 more weeks, so I'm trying to figure out how I should tailor my approach.

The reasons why I think she's interested is:
1- I've caught her looking at me more than once during meetings
2- She touched my arm for a longer than necessary time when I mentioned something to her in passing
3- She's asked me questions about myself more than once, despite my hazy answers
4- I've noticed (and started to ignore 1/2 the time) her looks/stares when I enter a room
5- When I declined her offer of ordering chinese (a bunch of coworkers including her were in the process of doing so) she followed me to the office kitchen (I was microwaving some leftovers) asking me what I was going to eat instead.
6- During group chit-chat she mentioned her boyfriend (bad)
6a- she stated he wasn't around as much as she wanted (possibly good)
6b- I noticed her nipples were erect (good)
6c- She waited a bit after everyone left to say goodbye to me with a big smile (good)

I'm not too invested in this but it's got me curious now; it's built up to something I can't really ignore in these past 3 weeks. I've slowly been tapering my mysterious quirk to open up little by little to her in response, but I'm sure that won't be enough to make her leave her current BF. Since we're only together for 3 more weeks, I'm kinda marking that as the time period I try to sweep her away. This job we're both in is in a college setting, and we're both undergrads.

If I'm correct in thinking she's giving me subtle green lights, how should I approach? I've typically approached single girls with average success, but I have no experience with this kinda situation. Thanks for any input!

 

[jakethasnake]

Look. The simple fact is that people - even attached ones - are ALWAYS attracted to other people. It really isn't that hard - I could be married and have a half dozen people whom I come into contact with on a daily basis (at work, social events, gym, etc.) that appeal to me. Likewise, a woman is attracted to many men at once, but she stays with one because he offers her the best overall package. So that she finds you attractive in itself isn't always enough to make her go for you. All other situations have to be ideal, if you want to make her into your woman. But flat-out seducing and fvcking her despte her BF-status might be a different story altogether.

 

[Dee-Zy]

Don't ever let a girl's interest level determine whether or not you make a move, because you will never know what her interest level is until you DO make a move. - Craig Reeves

Single or not, this still applies.

 

[KiInCollege]

You could ask, "How serious are you and your boyfriend?"

That's if you want to be quick and dirty about it. The statement, in one sentence, says that you're interested but also somewhat considerate of others.

A more passive approach is my next point, and the route I usually go.

In the past, I've often just ignored that they have a BF. I just approach them in the same way and read how they react. If the BF is significant then they will mention him often, if not, you then act like he doesn't exist and take her on a date. She needs another prospect before she will leave him, unless he makes a huge mistake.

Since you have 3 weeks, go ahead and reveal that you're interested in taking her out by making your move. If it goes sour, at least you can go on and put more energy towards other women.

 

[squirrels]

Her boyfriend is her business and that's how you should treat it. That means seduce her like you would any other girl. The only time you need to worry about that boyfriend sh!t is if she throws it in your face to stop your advances. In which case if it's a solid "NO" then you're f'ed.

She is not going to cheat on her boyfriend. She's a "good girl". ( ) YOU have to be so charming and attractive that she can't help herself.

 

[Gold Heart]

You can definately flirt around, but don't take it anywhere further than that. I agree with the first reply. Everyone, even if they are loyal partners, still are attracted to people of the opposite sex. Some people however, tend to act on it. They might just flirt, they might even cheat on their other half, but either way, they have levels as far as they can go. I flirt all the time, but I would never kiss/screw another girl.

So flirt with her. Just don't take it like a "green light let's f-ck now". You don't want boyfriend trouble, trust me. Don't learn it the hard way, because you don't know who a girl might be hooked up with. Stick to flirting at work, maybe lunch breaks bring her out for lunch, just don't get attached. Keep it light and be easy.

 

[squirrels]

Yeah, that is the other thing you wanna think about...there are guys out there that'll give you a serious curb-stomping (or at least try to) if they catch you with their girl. You need to ask yourself:

1) How likely are you to get caught?
2) How much do you need that kind of drama?

Then if you still wanna chase this girl, get back with us.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Seriously just act like you would if she was single. But riddle me this Batman:

If a girl with a bf cheats on her man with you, the when you become her man she will......(fill in the blank)


Don't trust these scandalous w-hores, fuvk 'em and drop 'em. There are so many attractive single women out there, go get them.



PIMP

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Idea!

Don't trust these scandalous w-hores, fuvk 'em and drop 'em. There are so many attractive single women out there, go get them.

Totally agreed! Once I met a girl that was all over me but when I tried something she would back away. You (go), she (backs away) all the time. This sucks!

Hey Spider Man, do not chase her! If she's so attracted to you she'll be the one to come to you!

I've had so many headaches with this issue that it's really not worth to chase these girls, doenst matter the signals they throw at you!

Funny thing is that once, I dated one with a BF. HOw did I get her? I simply didnt chase her! Guess what! She was the one chasing me!

If she really wants something, she'll make it easy for you. If she's playing too many games, NEXT! (BF or no BF)

Don't take sh!t from women also!

 

[DJ_Dork]

Don't waste your game on women that have boyfriends/married. They LOVE the attention they still can get from single boys. But that's all they want usually.

Are you scared of approaching single girls that have their b1tchshields 100% or married/girls who are attached who have nothing to fear from you with their shields down?