Girl tries to contact me out of the blue, what does she want?

[MattS]

I'm not going to get into deep details about this girl, but we were friends for a little maybe knew each other for about 4-5 months just a simple hey what's up and small talk everytime we saw each other. I would tease, neg, etc. Cause she was very flirty or I guess an attention wh0re. Then we dated for a little, she said I was unlike anybody she has dated before because of what I have going for me I guess according to her. We then broke up and then started talking again just as "friends" according to her. We still acted the same as we did when we were dating, flirting, fighting, kissing, etc. It was actually kind of weird.

Then we got into a serious fight. It was both of our faults I guess. So after the fight I just told her that I'm done talking with her cause stuff was becoming ridiculous. She replied and said I don't want that etc. I eventually cooled down and texted her and said I will call you later. So I did later on and she didn't call back, she always did. I knew she was upset.
So after she didn't return my phone call I said to myself to forget about her cause I did alot for her and she's being stupid.

I went no contact. It's probably been like 1.5 weeks or something. I actually had to be out of town for 2 weeks, where she lives also, to do some business and other things. I told my roomates I had to be out for a little longer because I gotta travel somewhere and also get a minor surgical procedure done, which I never told her about.

I know last night she ran into someone that knew I was going to be out of town for longer because of me having to get surgery and having to travel. I sign on to facebook today and I see a friend request from her (deleted her when we broke up) a while back and she knew this when we started hanging out again, guess she didn't really mind. I denied her request. Then like 30 minutes later I get a text from her saying "So you are out of town still right?". I haven't replied and its been 3 hours. Wtf does she want from me? She is a cool girl but I just have no clue what she wants and I feel p1ssed still because she never returned my call. Should I reply and just act normal or wait until I see her out because I know I will next thursday. Thinking about just ignoring her and seeing what happens. Or maybe just reply tomorrow or something.

Basically what it comes down to is that I am never "just friends" with girls I have dated. It is all or nothing with me and she knows this, Ive told her this multiple times.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Your still caught up in this situation.

This girl is a pure AW flat out!! The biggest thing AW's lack is self-esteem and self respect. So although you two got into a big argument and she was pissed at the time, she craves attention, SO MUCH SO that she will quickly forget about the bad things and seek out more attention.

Usually AW's have a steady supply of attention, when a few of them drop off, the AW returns to her previous supply sources to get her fix. Don't develop any emotional attachment for this girl, have fun with her, use her for social proof and hook up with her from time to time. Other than that she's worthless.



PIMP

 

[MattS]

Should I reply to her? Or should I just wait until I see her out? If I see her out she is not going to get me to initiate anything from her. If she tries to contact me again I might reply. Me and her were pretty emotionally involved. My emotions are no longer deeply there for her but still shes a cool girl. I guess if anything I wanna put her through the ringer for a little before if that I decide to be cool with her again.

 

[MattS]

I am such an idiot I texted her back like 10 hours later with a simple yes. Cause she asked if I was still in town. She then replied with a huge paragraph about how she has no friends because of our fight (I was her in to my group of friends basically.) I replied with well its your fault what do you expect. I was sick of texting so I called her and we ended up talking for 2 hours on the phone.

She just kept saying Im sorry for that night blah blah. I don't talk to your friends anymore and it sucks blah blah blah because you turned them on me etc. I just told her I didn't say anything they just see how you act and don't like it.

Then she just kept saying I dont want you out of my life I miss you I miss talking to you and hanging out etc. We are so close and know each other like noone else does blah blah. I said I cared about her and she said she cared about me. Then she said we have no label we arent dating and we arent friends we are in between. She was bascially telling me stuff she thought I would want to hear. Like all this deep sh1t. I was kind of taken back by it actually. It was to the point where I wanted to tell her I love her. Then I told myself no dont do it. When I got off the phone she said to call her on wed. which was like 5 days later and I said no well talk before then and she said ok (we were talking everyday even when we werent dating).

The next day I texted her and said "just wanted to say hey." I rarely initiate with her. I just wanted to test her and see if she was real with me. No reply for 3 hours. She lives with her phone so I know she got it and she never doesn't reply. I texted her back and said "wtf, after last night? Hope you feel good getting me back." (She told me when we started dating that she messes with her ex because he rejected her and messes with his head she was doing the same thing to him and told me she has told dudes stuff and then all of the sudden changed her mind.no surprise shes venegeful.) She replied immediately.
her: got you back how? you know i care about you
me: didnt you get my first text?
her: yea I got it
me: haha your are so cute when you are trying to be venegful like myself. (told her I was venegful when we started dating cause I know she is scandalous)
her: Like yourself? Im not venegful Im a good girl.
me: You are a good girl and thats why I cant even talk to you anymore
her: oh dont pull that
then I just stopped replying.

I know she wanted to talk to me on friday cause she felt lonely at her friends house or she just an overwhelming feeling of being alone for some reason. Also I know she despises me for saying some messed up things to her and she thinks I totally turned everyone on her, which I didnt fully do. I opened myself up to get kicked in the nuts i think. She is such a fvcking b1tch. Telling someone some deep sh1t then trying to play stupid games. Man I hope I find another girl real fast cause I am going to invite her to come out and meet me when I have a new girl with me and throw it in her face for fvcking with me.

 

[macallik]

Basically what it comes down to is that I am never "just friends" with girls I have dated. It is all or nothing with me and she knows this, Ive told her this multiple times.

Actions speak louder than words. In this thread alone you have gone back on your word. What you say doesn't mean sh!t because you are letting her back in every time. Either cut off complete contact and spin some plates or google "returning fox".

Man I hope I find another girl real fast cause I am going to invite her to come out and meet me when I have a new girl with me and throw it in her face for fvcking with me.

This proves that you need more plates, because if you have to put up with extra hassle that means that you don't have enough options.

Oh and throwing another girl in her face? Grow up man