Girl too keen and now flakes

[pyros]

So I met this 20 years old chick some weeks ago.
The moment she bumped into me in the club she was more than happy to talk to me, and was really joyful and funny, and willing to hugh me. We talked for five mins or so and I got her number.

Some days later I texted her, we talked for a bit and I suggested to meet to what she said: 'sure! whenever you want'
I said ok lets meet the day aftertomorrow but she was going outside the city soshe said:
her: what about today?
me: I cant today. Ill text you on Sunday to arrange something for Monday
her: ok

Then Sunday came and I was not in the mood so I did not text her or anything. Then on Tuesday she texted me:
her: hey! I havent heard from you!
me: yeah sorry, I was busy. how are you?
her: good blah blah blah... what have you been up to?
me: blah blah blah...
me: well, lets meet next thursday for a drink
her: im going home (1 hour away) on Thursday
me: well, is it a black hole? or will you be able to return?
her: hahahahah, yes Ill return on Sunday
me: good so Ill text you on sunday
her: good

Sunday came (yesterday), I texted her and she had a weird vibe at the end (part in bold):
me: hi how are you?
her: im fine, you?
me: good. Lets meet tomorrow for a drink?
her: ok
me: we can go to X pub at 20:00, do you know where it is?
her: no...
me: well do you know where X is?
her: yes
me: ok, lets meet there
her: great
me: ok, see you tomorrow
her: bye dull...
(some minutes later)
her: hey, why do you ask me how am I doing, ask me on a date and then you just leave like that?
me: I havent gonne anywhere, im at home all the time actually
her: ...
me: well, see you tomorrow dull
her: good-bye


Then today at 17:00 she flakes:
her: Hi. I cant go today, I have some work to do here at my city. (she's a ballroom teacher)
me: ? really...? do you feel uneasy?
her: me? why uneasy?
me: well, enjoy the evening. Let me know if another day you dont feel so shy.
her: me shy? why? when two persons that like each other meet they may be a bit shy... But if Im gonna meet you why feeling shy? (haha, so funny, so now she doest like me? sure...)
me: so your boss just suddenly assigned you some work?
her: I have a wedding and I have to prepare the dancing
me: alright, bye bye
her: bye
her: hey, I dont understand you

And thats it.
Opinions? Funny thing is I was not even very interested, but since she seemed so keen to see me I set a date.

Thanks.

P.S.
****ing anoying *****. She flakes three hours before the date and now I have nothing else to do; besides she did not say sorry or anything and neither she suggested another time.

 

[Skyy.]

Some days later I texted her, we talked for a bit and I suggested to meet to what she said: 'sure! whenever you want'
I said ok lets meet the day aftertomorrow but she was going outside the city soshe said:
her: what about today?
me: I cant today. Ill text you on Sunday to arrange something for Monday
her: ok

When a woman offers something like that, you take it. It doesn't matter if you only see her for 5 minutes, just get that face to face meeting. End it shortly or whatever you want to do. If she isn't seeing you, she is seeing someone else.

Then Sunday came and I was not in the mood so I did not text her or anything. Then on Tuesday she texted me:
her: hey! I havent heard from you!
me: yeah sorry, I was busy. how are you?
her: good blah blah blah... what have you been up to?
me: blah blah blah...
me: well, lets meet next thursday for a drink
her: im going home (1 hour away) on Thursday
me: well, is it a black hole? or will you be able to return?
her: hahahahah, yes Ill return on Sunday
me: good so Ill text you on sunday
her: good

Never ever tell a chick when you text her. EVER. Two thins happen -

If you text her, she knows she is on the top of your list, especially that many days apart.
If you don't text her, she will think you are an assho|e.

Don't schedule a text or call, it's weak. Do it randomly or when you feel like it.

Sunday came (yesterday), I texted her and she had a weird vibe at the end (part in bold):
me: hi how are you?
her: im fine, you?
me: good. Lets meet tomorrow for a drink?

You can't go from 0-60 MPH. You have to re-spark that interest. Give her a call to reset the date.

Then today at 17:00 she flakes:
her: Hi. I cant go today, I have some work to do here at my city. (she's a ballroom teacher)
me: ? really...? do you feel uneasy?
her: me? why uneasy?
me: well, enjoy the evening. Let me know if another day you dont feel so shy.
her: me shy? why? when two persons that like each other meet they may be a bit shy... But if Im gonna meet you why feeling shy? (haha, so funny, so now she doest like me? sure...)
me: so your boss just suddenly assigned you some work?
her: I have a wedding and I have to prepare the dancing
me: alright, bye bye
her: bye
her: hey, I dont understand you

Every single text you sent reeks of being butthurt. How do you handle a flake without a reschedule? YOU MOVE THE FVCK ON. You don't ask for an explanation. You do not ask whhyyyyyyyyyyy? Toss the number.

This will not get you the girl, but it develops that inner game essence for dealing with future women. Also known as the abundance mentality. It's one of the harder mentalities to develop, but guarantees much more success with women.

P.S.
****ing anoying *****. She flakes three hours before the date and now I have nothing else to do; besides she did not say sorry or anything and neither she suggested another time.

This is because you are desperate, needy and eager for female companionship. Lose that AFC attitude.

All in all,
She initially had interest in you, but poor game blew it.

 

[pyros]

so you say when a woman suddenly says:
her: can we meet today?

you should say yes, right? so this does not show you're desperate huh...?
you just leave whatever your plans were, and just go to see her. Pretty lame.

Anyway, of course I was buthurted when she flaked before; I arranged my plans to have the evening free to meet her, and she just cancels it and does not even say sorry or anything. I think she was interested in me but some other guy she prefers just popped or came back or whatever, so she just cancelled the date to go to see this other dude; whatever...

You did not say what do you think about this part:
.
.
her: great
me: ok, see you tomorrow
her: bye dull...
(some minutes later)
her: hey, why do you ask me how am I doing, ask me on a date and then you just leave like that?
me: I havent gonne anywhere, im at home all the time actually.
.
.


SO I ask her how shes doing, blah blah, I set a date, she agrees, and I say ok see you tomorrow and she gets kind of upset??


Thanks.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Wow.. way too much talking / texting. I never text that much before meeting / f*cking a girl. Jesus...

First of all.. after you met her in the club, you should only utilize her contact info to set up a date.. and not like a week in advance either. If you get her number Saturday.. then text her in a few days and flirt with her. Then tell her you want to meet up the next day. If she is busy just say "Ok" and nothing more. Then wait a week and do the exact same thing (unless she contacts you first).

Men need to learn to sh!t or get off the pot. Too much chit-chat bullsh!t. At the end of the day you just want to stick your c0ck in her.. so why waste time? Once you have her number your next goal is FACE TIME. Try to meet up ASAP with as little conversation as possible. You have nothing to prove to a woman.. if she wants to know something she can ask. Just get that FACE TIME so you can make moves! :yes:

 

[Skyy.]

so you say when a woman suddenly says:
her: can we meet today?

you should say yes, right? so this does not show you're desperate huh...?
you just leave whatever your plans were, and just go to see her. Pretty lame.

Relax, we're here to help with positive criticism.

If you were free and wanted to hang out tonight, would the chick appear desperate if she agreed?

Beginners tend to take strategies too excessively and over-game women. I have done so myself and missed some very blatant opportunities. You need to get in front of her face as early as possible. There is a difference between being too available and striking when the iron is hot. The iron was indeed hot. As I mentioned before, she most likely hit up the next guy after you and went out with him. This would most likely explain her losing interest in you.

You did not say what do you think about this part:
.
.
her: great
me: ok, see you tomorrow
her: bye dull...
(some minutes later)
her: hey, why do you ask me how am I doing, ask me on a date and then you just leave like that?
me: I havent gonne anywhere, im at home all the time actually.
.
.


SO I ask her how shes doing, blah blah, I set a date, she agrees, and I say ok see you tomorrow and she gets kind of upset??

As I said, you need to re-spark that interest. You can't simply say Hey, what's up and the next thing is to ask her out after a week of not contacting her. Yes, she may agree on the date, but the flake rate when you do that is incredibly high.

me: I havent gonne anywhere, im at home all the time actually.

Why on God's green earth would you say something like that?

 

[Zarky]

You over-gamed her. You played it a little too cool.

 

[pyros]

When she said that I 'just left' after asking her out, in my next sentence I wanted to say that I was at home during our conversation via text, not that I am always at home, you know?
English is not my mother tongue.


Do I wait to see if she contacts or do I contact or do I just commit suicide? XD

 

[cervantesscthree]

I swear everytime I jump on the forum I learn something new, some good advice in this thread.

I say commit suicide and leave it, but if yr willing to do that anyway . . . you might as well give her a ring an see if she picks up, if she does, run game, set a date and so on

 

[Thomson]

It happens!