"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I guess what I'm trying to figure out is, how could I avoided this?
Going no contact made her talk crazy? OK, maybe, then what?
Keep assuaging her?
Not tell her shyt?
Damn, I feel like she broke my trust. That's the sucky part.

Or she's saying I can't ignore her forever. And now my hamster is spinning. But still no contact ha!
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I guess what I'm trying to figure out is, how could I avoided this?
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You said you two were rocky yet she was close enough to the family unit to text your Mom.
Don’t ever take a girl home to meet Mom until you’ve had enough time together to be dead sure about her.
i.e., Don’t Ever involve parents in your dating life until engagement status is at least close.
 
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To me its no big deal if I'm going over to eat at my moms and a girl drives me there cuz I'm drinking.
She had my moms number cuz I used girls phone multiple times to call my mom.
 
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She had my moms number cuz I used girls phone multiple times to call my mom.
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Your first mistake. Get your own phone if you don’t have one and use it exclusively…
 
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Mine was being fixed at the time. But thats not an issue if I had kept frame, she wouldn't have thought to go there right?
Or am I naive to believe that my privacy is paramount for my happiness and the happiness of our relationship.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Or am I naive to believe that my privacy is paramount for my happiness and the happiness of our relationship.
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Privacy is an important issue for everyone, but it’s only as important as you think it is. Protect yours by not making mistakes and not bitching about a girl using a phone number you gave her.
 
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Not really bytching...didnt give her the number really. She got it off the call history and must have saved it.
Just trying to figure out how someone ends up making the decision she made.
 
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