"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl told me to text her, should i call instead?

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So I have approach anxiety and for the first time I decided to face my fear and go out and get blown off by every girl I talk to as to get rid of this fear.

Well, didn't happen this way, I end up getting rejected by 4 girls and end up number closing 2 of them, oddly one of them was a HB9.5 (the hottest one I approached), I definitely thought I was going to get blown off. But here's the weird thing about this one when I asked for her number she told be she had a boyfriend and for a split second it kind of froze me, and the first thing I can think of saying was telling her that I also had a girlfriend, but that we could still be friends and that's about all we are going to be able to be.

Of course I don't have a GF, but it was the only thing I could think of saying after she said she had a bf, but she did agree to give me her number and specifically told me to text her. I don't like to text, so should I just call her? or does she really have a BF and doesn't want him to find out? I have a feeling she's lying about having a BF
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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I just called a girl 2 times, voicemail. We HAD a date planned for tonight. She Gave me her # on Tuesday...Plentyoffish. It's valid, but she doesn't answer! sooo, rolodex through phone, ah Jessica, it's her turn...

You won't believe what ACTION I took to just steamroll the thoughts of the flake above who had given me her # and shown a ton of interest 5 days before our date.

This afternoon, I messaged another POFer and within 3-4 messages had her not only GIVE me her number, BUT replace my date for tonight for a spur of the moment date at some Mexican place (I paid for nothing). She was totally uglier than her pictures indicated. So I cut the date short, texted and joined Jessica, like I said, who was only 2 miles away. Be Out in Action, to just go, go, go, and put yourself in position or vicinity to do the hoes. It gives you something to talk about...cutting the date short "because she was boring" (not revealing that she was "ugly").

I WILL report on fvcking Jessica when I get a chance. I have to work in the morning zzzz
 
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You guys over analyze the whole call or text scenario WAAAAAAY TOO MUCH on this board.

The old timers and hard core Alpha Male supporters will say "real men always call, text is for sissys."

While the new-age guys and younger crowd will say to text "cause that's how 99% of people communicate now days."

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The real story? Well there's benefits to each side that I won't get into, the point is IF the girl has HIGH INTEREST it doesn't matter what method of communication you use, she wants to hear from you and will answer or get back to you.

All the people that truly think a girl lost interest in a guy because he text her rather than called or vice-versa have no clue how to attract women.


Work on getting your game super tight from the get go and the phone issues will go dramatically down.




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If she's interested, she won't give two sh1ts what means you use to contact her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Her interest is low, but is there. She tells you to text, leaving you bait. Will you take the bait?

If you want to call her, call her. Don't listen to what girls say, pay attention to what girls do. She indirectly gave you her number even after stating she has a boyfriend.

Its a test. See if you can pass it.
 

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You do know this girl has friend zoned you right? wait (reread) you do know you friend zoned yourself right?

Ok my honest advice send her some flirty texts see where it gets you.

E.g "ummm so what are you wearing",
"Hey x hows your bf doing, i been kind of messing up my relationship lately, i kind of called your name out during sex...but she said its cool its a lot better than barry or steve before haha"

You get the picture, if she starts flirting back ask her out, use the girlfriend angle like you two are doing something naughty, girls kind of like the thought of cheating and **** you will be very suprised. Most girls i have hooked up with have had boyfriends lol.

Next time
When a girl says shes got a boyfriend a good comeback will be:
"thats cool I got a boyfriend too, what's your number?"
"thats cool I will take him out as well, what's your number?"
"Umm well i have a dog, whats your number?"
"WOW AWESOME, put your number in here?"

basically just don't make a big deal about it and brush it off^

this is the trunk card and it has not yet to fail me, i don't like to use it because it takes way to much effort and too much **** to say rather than one of those above. If you wanna mess her mind up.

RD: what's your number
Hb: i got a boyfriend
RD: really are you going to marry him
HB: um well no (lots of different responses similar to this "not sure"
RD: o so if your not sure your going to marry him thats cool, that must obviouslly mean your mind is not sure if he is the right one and wants to see if there is anyone else out there.
Hb: i guess
RD: well how are you going to ever know unless you go out with other guys?
Hb: idk this is still kind of wrong
RD: well if your not marrying him it isn't wrong your just seeing whos out there, here put your number in
HB: ok (number in)
 
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