Girl thinks she's ****ed up

[SebastianO]

Hello,

interesting situation. I'm really into this girl, i'm seeing her now for a month. She told me she likes me.. but lately she started flaking. Last time we met up she told me she was thinking about her previous relationship (half a year ago boyfriend left her) and about the things he said to her and that she can be a real ***** in a relationship (being *****y for no reason etc.). And that she wants to sort these things out (about her behaviour in a relationship) before proceeding into another relationship.

I don't know what to do. I told her that she is normal, and that her behaviour in a previous relationship is understandable regarding things that her previous boyfriend said to her (telling her he wants to meet with other girls after one year etc).

Any advice?

 

[backseatjuan]

SMS her, "please go see a doctor, I've been diagnosed with HIV, please don't contact me again, I wanna fing dye. Bye."

 

[Cremasta]

Two things.
One - you're being given the flick.
Two - she's trying to give herself a 'Get Out Of Jail Free' card with no 'use by' date by saying she needs to sort herself out.

The painless option for you is to simply say "Ok, well good luck with that." and leave.

All other options will involve pain for you.

 

[Kbomb]

On to the next one. If she starts vying for your attention again then you adjust.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Definitely giving you the soft rejection. "It's not you it's me".
Call her bluff, agree with her and get the hell out.
My strong suspicion is that she's either fvcking her ex again or she's wanting to.

 

[SebastianO]

Thank you for all opinions.

 

[floydb25]

Agree with the rest... heard the same crap before. There's something you said or did that suggested you want a relationship, and she lost interest. And you're still reassuring her that she's fine, you like her as she is, want to pursue her regardless... blah blah. Just making her like you less. Been there.

That's why being a challenge and making them pursue you and live up to your standards is so vital. Where she is with you is where you want to be with her. See how you're all interested when she isn't? She's calling the shots, pushing you away, having you pine after her, making you more intrigued... THAT'S the position you want to be in. Maybe not to where you become a manipulative control freak who messes with girl's heads (though that works, too), but at least making them chase, and want a relationship with YOU. Can't make yourself too easy... Bishes love to catch the "prize", 'cause they're retarded and have no lives.

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