would it be worth my time going after a girl who's still "best friends" with their ex? she says they only dated 2 months and brokeup because theyre better off as friends, but i don't know. sounds fishy to me. maybe i'm reading too much into it?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
girl that's still friends with her ex worth my time?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
Let's work with what you know. They broke up to be "best girlfriends", so this guy is obviously a huge AFC. However, AFCs have the annoying habit of never giving up (this is a prime virtue everywhere else except concerning individual women) and in all likelihood he would try to throw a wrench in it, cause "If I can't have her, no one can!"
Meanwhile, time marches on...
I'd go for it, but don't be surprised if her phone is blowing up constantly when you're with her, and you almost end up in some triangular deal.
Meanwhile, time marches on...
I'd go for it, but don't be surprised if her phone is blowing up constantly when you're with her, and you almost end up in some triangular deal.
well she made a weird comment that caught my attention. she said she had to go to some wedding but couldnt find a date. her ex said hed go with her and then i asked "youre still friends with your ex?" and thats how i learned all that other stuff. i c0ckblock myself enough, i dont need someone else doing it for me.lol it just seems like itd be alot of trouble to go through.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Well,she's gotten what SHE wants out of him,but he's still hoping. I don't think dating her would be a problem-keeping her away from him? maybe an issue.I'd just have a hot FEMALE friend you can hang with when she's with him. See if she gets nervous about that.
HOPEFULLY, the girl will would slowly veer away from him, if you two started consistantly dating. If not, and it bothered you, you would wait until she was REALLY into you, and cordially tell her you cant be with someone whos best friends with their ex, because it makes you uncomfortable, and be prepared to walk away. Then, either she'll comply, or you'll just be 'friends' with her also.
Also, find out if she's had any other relationships while being friends with this guy. See if she brings up something like; "He couldnt accept that we were still friends, and he got jealous, and it caused a lot of problems so we didnt work out because of it." If so, you know it'll probably cause problems with you too, if you're uncomfortable with that.
Also, find out if she's had any other relationships while being friends with this guy. See if she brings up something like; "He couldnt accept that we were still friends, and he got jealous, and it caused a lot of problems so we didnt work out because of it." If so, you know it'll probably cause problems with you too, if you're uncomfortable with that.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
i decided not to pursue her afterall. i figured theres gotta be a girl out there who isnt best friends with her ex. getting along with your ex is one thing but having them as a best friends? yeah, think i'll pass.lol
GrenadeGloves
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Dude, you're real problem was being jealous in the first place. Her being friends with her ex would have only been a problem if you showed her you were jealous..at all. I mean, any girl you find is going to be friends with an ex, or someone they've hooked up with before.
Never show jealousy, because that's a sign of insecurity and weakness. If she brings up another guy, [it's whatever]. You're not interested in hearing about it. Never show any girl one ounce of jealousy, because then you're basically telling her that HE is better than YOU and you're worried SHE will realize that and leave you.
You are the prize remember? Or do we need to re-read the DJ Bible...
Never show jealousy, because that's a sign of insecurity and weakness. If she brings up another guy, [it's whatever]. You're not interested in hearing about it. Never show any girl one ounce of jealousy, because then you're basically telling her that HE is better than YOU and you're worried SHE will realize that and leave you.
You are the prize remember? Or do we need to re-read the DJ Bible...
it had nothing to do with me being jealous. it had to do with me seeing that it wasn't worth my time of pursuing her based on the information she told me. she volunteered it, i didn't ask for it. all i said was "you're still friends with your ex?" and that's when she went into that whole thing. in my mind i was thinking "yeah this is more trouble then it's worth". i know TONS of girls who AREN'T friends with their ex's. hell, ask most of my ex g/f's, we aren't friends and don't hangout. i'm not one to live in the past. if she wants to be alone and have her little friend that's fine, i'm just not getting caught up in some weird triangle with some past boyfriend who can't let go.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
a gf's ex = trouble, irritation, annoyance, even pain
a girl who likes having her ex's around = BAD BAD BAD
a girl who likes having her ex's around = BAD BAD BAD