skinnydart
Master Don Juan
Is it totally AFC to call up a girl a few days after you've found out she's sick just to ask how she is?
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Girl thats Sick?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
squirrels
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How sick is she? If she's got a cold or something, then f**k it, don't be calling up. Don't associate yourself with sickness...wait until she gets well and then see if she wants to hang out.
If she got hit by a car and is in the hospital, that's a little different.
If she got hit by a car and is in the hospital, that's a little different.
jakeyboy
Master Don Juan
i skipped class one day, and i had to hand in some important worksheets to a professor, so i asked this HB7 from class to meet me so i could hand my stuff up on time..
she was sick with a cold and cough. now in winter time thats a horrid thing to be with.
so i dont know. i did a really AFC gesture but she just so happened to respond positively to it.
dont laugh
i made her a flask of hot honey
-shrugs- she was touched. kept trying to contact me the few following days to hang out, but i was busy, so i brushed her off
well i dont think showing concern for the girl is that bad. dont ask her how she's feeling. show her you care by perhaps doing something.
she was sick with a cold and cough. now in winter time thats a horrid thing to be with.
so i dont know. i did a really AFC gesture but she just so happened to respond positively to it.
dont laugh
i made her a flask of hot honey
-shrugs- she was touched. kept trying to contact me the few following days to hang out, but i was busy, so i brushed her off
well i dont think showing concern for the girl is that bad. dont ask her how she's feeling. show her you care by perhaps doing something.
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
lol, thats awesome
So I had called hb8.5 up to get a 2nd date (1st went great), got her vm and left a message, saying that I was calling to see if she wanted to go to this play with me (I know, I shouldn't have asked her out on a message, but she works allot). It wasn't untill the next day that she called me back.
Her "Sorry I didn't call u back yesterday, I'm really sick"
(missed classes, and she sounded terrible.)
Me "man, that sucks"
Her "u at work now?"
:
- talked about probs with her computer
:
Her "yeah, and I didn't really understand your message" (made from a cell)
(So this is where I think I screwed things up, I was at work, my boss and customers were sitting next to me listening, and I couldn't really bring myself to say 'yeah, I was calling to ask you if you wanted to go to the play with me last night', it just didn't come out.
Me "awkward pause... uh, well i hope you're feeling better soon"
Her "ok, ..., ttly, bye"
So now I dont' know what to do, call her up to clarify things? Just ask how she's feeling? Wait a few days? Call her up to ask her out again?
Call her again and say sorry you had to get off the phone so abruptly. Tell her your boss was comming and he didn't want you on the phone. Then ask her out.
Keep it simple and don't worry about explaining yourself. Say it something like "Hey sorry I had to get off the phone so quick yesterday. My boss was staring at me because he needed the phone. Anyways let's ____ this Tuesday"
Or, a better way to say it "Wow, yesterday was a long day at work. My boss was on my case the whole day about stuff getting done and then when I was on the phone with you he came in and was just staring at me." Then work in asking her to do something.
The second way is more of an explanation, but it offers the chance for her to ask you about your workday instead of you just stating that your boss had interrupted your phone call to her.
Keep it simple and don't worry about explaining yourself. Say it something like "Hey sorry I had to get off the phone so quick yesterday. My boss was staring at me because he needed the phone. Anyways let's ____ this Tuesday"
Or, a better way to say it "Wow, yesterday was a long day at work. My boss was on my case the whole day about stuff getting done and then when I was on the phone with you he came in and was just staring at me." Then work in asking her to do something.
The second way is more of an explanation, but it offers the chance for her to ask you about your workday instead of you just stating that your boss had interrupted your phone call to her.
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Yes it is totally AFC to call up a girl to see how she is feeling if that is the only purpose of your call. Would you call up your buddy if he had a cold to see how he was feeling?
Just call her up in a few days to set up a date. If you are calling to set up a date then its perfectly fine to ask how she is feeling at the same time.
Just call her up in a few days to set up a date. If you are calling to set up a date then its perfectly fine to ask how she is feeling at the same time.
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
So I shoulnd't tell her what my previous message was for?