"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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confuscioused

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out of the blue after two months. Think she might have had family issues or something. I respond to her text after her text read merry Christmas and how are you. Mind you this was the day after Christmas. I responded back like 30 minutes later and haven't heard back in 3 days. Why would a girl text out of nowhere like that and not respond to text back?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TheGambino

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Shes not interested, just trying to see if you are. Some kind of validation issue for her own low self(Ish)steem self. Happens to me too lol.

I ignore some texts from girls and mix up it up with replieying days later on whatsapp while being online and very very short while she always replies quickly and long ass bullsh1t texts.

Then she started to ask me questions when I replied and ask her how about you?

she didnt replie lmao. It's just a validation issue like look I can ignore you too for her own ego.

forget her, shes a fling
 

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she's not interested? than why text me the day after Christmas of all days? Think she wasn't happy that I didn't text her in the 2 months. My text back to her the other day was just how are you and Merry Christmas. For all she knows I'm seeing someone or living with someone.
 

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Yeah, I think it's a validation thing to them. It has happened to me several times. Went on a date with a girl. Few days later, she texted me and was like "It was nice meeting you but I don't think it will work out." I said "Okay. Nice meeting you too". Two weeks later, I get a text from her saying "Hey, I hope your trip was nice. :)" I replied and said "It was okay". No message from her after that.

Other time another girl texts me two months after we stopped talking. Just out of the blue. She didn't reply after I replied.

I never understood why they do that and don't really care to know anyway.
 

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I don't know the background of your plate.

I reflected this situation to some AW's that did that to me in the past and one of them even a couple of hours ago.

In my case I'm pretty sure it's for an ego issue or validation seeking.

One of these girls flaked on a date months ago. I acted indifferent and she started to chase me and text me everyday even when I ignored her she kept double triple text me.

Eventually she quit. Now a month later out of the blue she texts me ''hey what are your plans for NYE?'' replied 30mins later also ''going to amsterdam, big event at blablalocation and you?'' she didnt replie all for 6 hours now even being online on whatsapp.

So what I'm saying some of these girls just do this out of ego. Like you ignore me? well I can do the same to you.

so I reflected that to my own situation not sure about yours as a matter of fact.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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that's what I think, I blew her off through Thanksgiving and Christmas and she waits until the day after Christmas to text me, I text her back 30 mins later with how have you been and her mentality is well you will wait 2 months to find out like you forgot me for 2 months...girls play and typical female nonsense. Chick was a fling when she was still married, now divorced, but she sure knew how to take care of biz in the sack so that's why I was intrigued with to begin with.
 

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Hey i've done this myself to many girls. I might be bored and contact someone, wondering if it was a good idea to have rejected them previously, and when they get back to me I know they are still interested and i start remembering why I rejected them in the first place and go cold on them.

dont read too much into it. and stop analyzing everything a girl does. all you need to know is, is she getting back to you? if the answer is no, then drop it.
 
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