Girl texts after 2 months

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Thing is....why I wrote this topic...
I kinda don't want to re-live the same time together....at least not the bad parts.
I do like her a lot....but I feel de-valued....which I am not....if I were to run into her on the streets...I'd be happy to talk...but I know she can have her way with me. Which is fine. Thing is....she used it for bad things.
It was like leaving your money out, phone open, etc. If she takes the bait and uses it...i kinda like her less.
Which I guess it's growth.
And maybe she realizes that the grass is slightly greener on my side.
I'm not texting her again. I will go for a walk, drink a pint, shyt shower and shave before I do anything stupid.
She knows where I live.
Thanks guys.

 

[_sideways_]

Thanks lobosolitario...

 

[_sideways_]

.....so she added me or unblocked me on Whatsapp....
I said nice talking to you.
....Whatsapp says she's online....and I got nothing from her.
So yea....that should confirm all our beliefs....
And I didn't even ask for this to happen.

 

[The Diver]

I’ve wondered in such situations tho do you make it somewhat difficult for her to gain your approval again?

Manipulation and playing hard to get is a feminine behavior.
You're a man. You do you. Just keep your frame and don't express neediness.
You want to talk, talk. Who cares what she would think.
If it's going sideways again, drop her.
Simple. No need to complicate everything.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Manipulation and playing hard to get is a feminine behavior.
You're a man. You do you. Just keep your frame and don't express neediness.
You want to talk, talk. Who cares what she would think.
If it's going sideways again, drop her.
Simple. No need to complicate everything.

Ok, thanks.

how is game not a feminine behaviour then? Another poster on here said I had to learn manipulation because that’s what good game is.

 

[The Diver]

Ok, thanks.

How is game not a feminine behaviour then? Another poster on here said I had to learn manipulation because that’s what good game is.

Yes, I know that approach.
But I found for myself, not having a game is the best game, as long as you hold your frame. And most importantly, don't get needy.

For example.
I Text once and wait for a response. I won't text again before receiving a reply, not because I used game, but because not replying in a reasonable time (by the girl) IS a game ,and I don't do games.

When you get busy with your life you lose all patients for silly childish game.

You need to do fine tuning and find what works for you best.

If being a man and do YOU is a problem for the girl, you're with the wrong girl.

At least that my opinion.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Yes, I know that approach.
But I found for myself, not having a game is the best game, as long as you hold your frame. And most importantly, don't get needy.

For example.
I Text once and wait for a response. I won't text again before receiving a reply, not because I used game, but because not replying in a reasonable time (by the girl) IS a game ,and I don't do games.

When you get busy with your life you lose all patients for silly childish game.

You need to do fine tuning and find what works for you best.

If being a man and do YOU is a problem for the girl, you're with the wrong girl.

At least that my opinion.

Yes this sounds exactly like what I’m after! TheFinalLine is the same as well. So how do you keep frame? Are there some good indicators or rules of thumb I can follow to keep frame? I also believe the best form of game is to simply be non needy and have frame as well. In fact, trying to be a good conversationalist I believe is a loss of my frame since I don’t normally chit chat

 

[_sideways_]

I think "keeping your frame" is like talking to your mother.
She will pull, push, and twist you to what college you should go to ...what shirt to wear...go to a family cookout....etc...
Can't force you .....but that little bit silent voice that sounds like nagging/ love....
You learned this before.
You said....no ....I'm not going to Aunt Gertrude's bday party....or....no ...I don't like that shirt you bought me.

Obviously....it's a weak metaphor.

Can I have half your fries?....no ....I'll order another for me to have on my own. You can eat all the rest of this one if you want.

Frame is being you.
If showing emotions is working for you ..that's your frame. If being macho works...that's your frame.

I'm a little ambivalent....and it works for me.

But a little playerish...so I figure which of my "frames" works for one job interview and which works for a different job interview.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I think "keeping your frame" is like talking to your mother.
She will pull, push, and twist you to what college you should go to ...what shirt to wear...go to a family cookout....etc...
Can't force you .....but that little bit silent voice that sounds like nagging/ love....
You learned this before.
You said....no ....I'm not going to Aunt Gertrude's bday party....or....no ...I don't like that shirt you bought me.

Obviously....it's a weak metaphor.

Can I have half your fries?....no ....I'll order another for me to have on my own. You can eat all the rest of this one if you want.

Frame is being you.
If showing emotions is working for you ..that's your frame. If being macho works...that's your frame.

I'm a little ambivalent....and it works for me.

But a little playerish...so I figure which of my "frames" works for one job interview and which works for a different job interview.

Not sure what you mean exactly. My mom invited me to watch a movie with her and my brother, so I have to say no now to keep frame? Strange.
I’m direct, to the point, no bearing around the bush, I am messaging or talking to a girl because I want to fvck her, nothing else, so conversation is irrelevant in my mind. I don’t even comprehend how conversation has anything to do with sex, it’s THAT different in my mind.

 

[The Diver]

I’m direct, to the point, no bearing around the bush, I am messaging or talking to a girl because I want to fvck her, nothing else, so conversation is irrelevant in my mind. I don’t even comprehend how conversation has anything to do with sex; it’s THAT different in my mind.

Yes, I have been described as unusual due to my directness, as most people are politically correct, and being direct is unusual behavior.

I'm trying to keep things simple, so If I'll strip frame to the bone, for me, it's don't be needy and maintain your boundaries.
Deal with disrespect firmly, straight away, and Calmly. ( don't lose your s*"t over it).
Do what you want but don't be too rigid. Allow some flexibility if it's not cost you an arm and a leg.
As I said before, you should see what works for you and then do a fine-tuning.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Yes, I have been described as unusual due to my directness, as most people are politically correct, and being direct is unusual behavior.

I'm trying to keep things simple, so If I'll strip frame to the bone, for me, it's don't be needy and maintain your boundaries.
Deal with disrespect firmly, straight away, and Calmly. ( don't lose your s*"t over it).
Do what you want but don't be too rigid. Allow some flexibility if it's not cost you an arm and a leg.
As I said before, you should see what works for you and then do a fine-tuning.

I’ll keep that in mind, thanks. This sounds closer to my style as well. I’ve suspected I simply don’t know how to enforce my boundaries properly. So I’ll try to keep on top of that