Girl text after 2 weeks of no contact...

[Htienvu]

Hi, I posted couple weeks ago about how I went wrong with a girl. Took advice from you guys and cut contact. This is the post:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180744

Now after 2 weeks I saw her on sunday, I just acted normal like nothing had happen. We talked and laughed, I cut the conversation short when we were having laughs and went. Today she text me saying:

"I know this is a very late reply but, thank for the flower, they were very pretty. How have you been anyways?"

I don't read it as her interest is back and I got over my case of one-itis disease with this girl, I can just ignore/reply and move on without any regret. However, she's a nice girl and it's a number game and I don't have to next her.

Just want advice on how to proceed, I was thinking reply tonight and call at the end of the week and ask her out for the last time. Any suggestions?

 

[Credos]

How many times did this girl shot you down? 50 times?

Seriously, she's got attention wh0re writen all over her. She isen't a nice girl, she's a retard that doesn't know what she wants (first ignores you now makes contact herself) and a girl that's gonna use you for something and then drop out on you, again.

You don't have to act like an @sshole when you see her, just keep convo's as short as posible. Don't call her, don't text her and keep ignoring whatever she's sending cause all she wants to do is use you...



Suggestions: meet other girls and don't fall for this trap, you'll only end up hurt

 

[Igetit!]

Hi, I posted couple weeks ago about how I went wrong with a girl. Took advice from you guys and cut contact. This is the post:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180744

Yeah,I remember reading that thread when you first made it. That was some pretty needy/clingy behavior you showed,lol,but at least you now realize where you went wrong........or do you?


You'll see why I asked that a little later on.

Now after 2 weeks I saw her on sunday, I just acted normal like nothing had happen. We talked and laughed, I cut the conversation short when we were having laughs and went. Today she text me saying:

"I know this is a very late reply but, thank for the flower, they were very pretty. How have you been anyways?"

I don't read it as her interest is back

Well it's good that you don't interpet her texting you and asking you how you were doing as her interest returning and I've have to agree with you.



This just seems like another case of a girl being an AW. I mean you sent the flowers to her over 2 weeks ago,and she's just now thanking you for them? Granted,sending the flowers was a BAD MOVE considering the fact that you two aren't even in a relationship,but she could have at least had the decency to thank you for them sooner.




I don't know,maybe she thought she'd be leading you on or something if she thanked you immediately after. Who knows.

Just want advice on how to proceed, I was thinking reply tonight and call at the end of the week and ask her out for the last time. Any suggestions?

This is what I mean when I earlier asked if you "get" where you went wrong at.

So you want to ask her out yet again. And this will make what,the 6th time? Look man......




DO NOT ASK HER OUT



I'm not saying to NEVER ask her out again,but you need to switch up your game plan. You've asked her out 5 times,and all 5 times,she's given you different excuses,all which equal NO.




There has been no contact between you two for two weeks. Well if you just go back to behaving and doing what you were before the no contact started,then so will she.




Sexual attraction/chemistry makes a woman feel like she won a million dollars. So her turning you down is like someone offering her a million bucks and her going,"Hmm...well I don't know" or "I'll see if I can make it"


All those excuses she gave you when you asked her out.....imagine her saying those things to someone offering her a million dollars. Makes no sense,right? Well if she keeps flaking out on you and giving you excuses whenever you try to see her.......uhhh hello?.....She's not attracted to you.





The thing is this though.......this still MAY BE salvageable. She may be going AW on you,but at least you're not in the friendzone,and to me,as long as you're not friendzoned,there's hope.




Go ahead and answer the text if you want,but DO NOT ASK HER OUT. She asked you how you're doing. Ok,so tell her. Tell you're you doing ok,then tell her about something fun or exciting that's happened to you during the 2 weeks of no contact you had. This would be better over then phone so you could SOUND excited when telling her these things.




Tell her something fun you did or funny that's happened What you want to do is give her the impression that you've been so busy with your own life,you've been having so much fun,and been so intertained by the things that's gone on in your life,that the thought of her never even crossed your mind.


In fact,I'd say somewhere in your reply text,"Flowers? Uhh...I sent you flowers?" You want her to feel like you've been going on enjoying your family,friends, and hobbies like she never even existed,and that her presence or absence in your life would make NO DIFFERENCE WHATSOEVER.




That'll take the wind out of her sails. It'll cause the AW in her to go away. A girl is an attention whore because of a guy UNKNOWINGLY boosting her ego. Well after sending her a text like I described here or having a conversation with her where you do these things,the AW in her will die out,while her attraction will increase because she'll see that you're a MAN with a fun life that she'll want to be part of.



Go ahead and reply if you want. Just don't ask her out. Asking her out NOW will just FEED the Aw in her. Instead of asking her out 5 times and sending her flowers,it'll be 6 times and flowers.


It's time for you to stop giving out to her while getting nothing in return.

 

[Htienvu]

Thanks Igetit and Credos, and YES I did get it, I did understand that I was over doing things. However, I am over the one-itis thing, since then I've been reading/researching lots more.

Since then I've been hitting on few other girls so I am going out and playing the field.

Good advice, I'll play it cool.

 

[Iceberg]

Thanks Igetit and Credos, and YES I did get it, I did understand that I was over doing things. However, I am over the one-itis thing, since then I've been reading/researching lots more.

Since then I've been hitting on few other girls so I am going out and playing the field.

Good advice, I'll play it cool.

Gosh. I just hope you got that scarf from her. I'd hate to think you broke the "scarf promise" to your friend and ruined his life.

But yeah, the other guys nailed it. Asking her out now is like rewarding her for treating you like garbage. You'd be like an abused dog, she kicked you, starved you, and locked you outside, but your tail is wagging again after the first text (or doggy treat).

 

[cordoncordon]

If you contact this girl other than to respond to her text saying, "I'm great thanks!", I will personally come find you and kick your azz.

Her IL is so low I would have to use a microsope to find it. Move on. Please.

 

[BBbardot]

sounds like a weird attention *****.

 

[Htienvu]

Hey! This is why I ask for advice, it takes time to get into the mindset and out of the AFC mode but I am slowly.

And yes Iceberg, take the piss lol... I deserve it!

Cheers guys,

 

[Iceberg]

Hey! This is why I ask for advice, it takes time to get into the mindset and out of the AFC mode but I am slowly.

And yes Iceberg, take the piss lol... I deserve it!

Cheers guys,

One last thing. You DO now realize the value of walking away from a woman who doesn't act the way you want her to, right?

You left her alone. You played it cool when you saw her in person. Next thing you know she's thinking about you, texting you. This doesn't mean that she wants you (she more likely wants some attention). But still. You just learned something. Your attention is currency. Treat it that way. Just like money. Reward women with attention when they've earned it. Withhold it when they start acting up.

 

[shizz702]

One last thing. You DO now realize the value of walking away from a woman who doesn't act the way you want her to, right?

You left her alone. You played it cool when you saw her in person. Next thing you know she's thinking about you, texting you. This doesn't mean that she wants you (she more likely wants some attention). But still. You just learned something. Your attention is currency. Treat it that way. Just like money. Reward women with attention when they've earned it. Withhold it when they start acting up.

Great advice here.

 

[mustfirstregister]

Yeah,I remember reading that thread when you first made it. That was some pretty needy/clingy behavior you showed,lol,but at least you now realize where you went wrong........or do you?


You'll see why I asked that a little later on.



Well it's good that you don't interpet her texting you and asking you how you were doing as her interest returning and I've have to agree with you.



This just seems like another case of a girl being an AW. I mean you sent the flowers to her over 2 weeks ago,and she's just now thanking you for them? Granted,sending the flowers was a BAD MOVE considering the fact that you two aren't even in a relationship,but she could have at least had the decency to thank you for them sooner.




I don't know,maybe she thought she'd be leading you on or something if she thanked you immediately after. Who knows.




This is what I mean when I earlier asked if you "get" where you went wrong at.

So you want to ask her out yet again. And this will make what,the 6th time? Look man......




DO NOT ASK HER OUT



I'm not saying to NEVER ask her out again,but you need to switch up your game plan. You've asked her out 5 times,and all 5 times,she's given you different excuses,all which equal NO.




There has been no contact between you two for two weeks. Well if you just go back to behaving and doing what you were before the no contact started,then so will she.




Sexual attraction/chemistry makes a woman feel like she won a million dollars. So her turning you down is like someone offering her a million bucks and her going,"Hmm...well I don't know" or "I'll see if I can make it"


All those excuses she gave you when you asked her out.....imagine her saying those things to someone offering her a million dollars. Makes no sense,right? Well if she keeps flaking out on you and giving you excuses whenever you try to see her.......uhhh hello?.....She's not attracted to you.





The thing is this though.......this still MAY BE salvageable. She may be going AW on you,but at least you're not in the friendzone,and to me,as long as you're not friendzoned,there's hope.




Go ahead and answer the text if you want,but DO NOT ASK HER OUT. She asked you how you're doing. Ok,so tell her. Tell you're you doing ok,then tell her about something fun or exciting that's happened to you during the 2 weeks of no contact you had. This would be better over then phone so you could SOUND excited when telling her these things.




Tell her something fun you did or funny that's happened What you want to do is give her the impression that you've been so busy with your own life,you've been having so much fun,and been so intertained by the things that's gone on in your life,that the thought of her never even crossed your mind.


In fact,I'd say somewhere in your reply text,"Flowers? Uhh...I sent you flowers?" You want her to feel like you've been going on enjoying your family,friends, and hobbies like she never even existed,and that her presence or absence in your life would make NO DIFFERENCE WHATSOEVER.




That'll take the wind out of her sails. It'll cause the AW in her to go away. A girl is an attention whore because of a guy UNKNOWINGLY boosting her ego. Well after sending her a text like I described here or having a conversation with her where you do these things,the AW in her will die out,while her attraction will increase because she'll see that you're a MAN with a fun life that she'll want to be part of.



Go ahead and reply if you want. Just don't ask her out. Asking her out NOW will just FEED the Aw in her. Instead of asking her out 5 times and sending her flowers,it'll be 6 times and flowers.


It's time for you to stop giving out to her while getting nothing in return.