"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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girl tells me to approach, when i do, she avoids me.

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a girl wanted me to approach her. she sent me a message to do so. we met before when we got introduced but we were in a hurry so i had to leave.

i saw her a few weeks after and i sent her an email. she said she forgets people whom she meets so she wanted me to approach her. just to introduce myself.

our schedules conflicted so i wasn't able to approach her. the few times i wanted to approach her, i was in a hurry looking for my teacher so we just made EC.

now it's been a month since with only a few ECs in between. i got tired and decided i might as well go and look for her when it was ok.

i saw her a few hours ago and made EC. i waited that she finish gathering her things and gets ready to leave. when she saw me, she turned to her friends and then [had??] her friends accompany her in front of me. i was gonna approach her but when i wanted to, she turned away and i feel like she's avoiding me.

i think i took too long. help me, guys. i think i failed. i don't know what to do. :(
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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yeah. i think so too. tell me, what should be my best move?
 
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Um... I can't think up a response to this!

The best I can say is try again. If she's still pmsing then you're done wit her.
 
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so you guys are actually telling me to send her another email or something? i wanna approach her ASAP but i dont think its not gonna come off forced. she might actually try to avoid me. was she avoiding me?

cuz she was on her way to pass by in front of me but then turned around and [had?] her friends suddenly accompanied her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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come on, guys. i need your help on this.
 
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I think the problem is you built up an awkwardness between you two with all the EC's but no approaches.

Just grab your balls and sneak up behind her (well not really, but you know what i mean) and go from there...
 
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thanks, man. i needed that.
 
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ive been readying myself for the approach by approaching a few girls today. i just realized something. i have almost never been upright rejected by someone. i mean, there were times when they weren't interested but i never really approached her in the first place. maybe something to think about.
 
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