Girl tells me she needs time to heal from a previous relationship, bs or the truth?

[F!DELITY]

Although its probably not...i'm getting a whiff of caped crusader from the OP.

DUDE, stop asking questions, questions, questions, theory, theory, analysing, analysing etc.

Live life man! try to cut down on this forum, cos I think its messing with your head too much! Go out, have fun! have a few beers...chat to chicks...flirt etc.

The biggest mistake a guy can make is be apologetic or feel guilty about the fact that he finds a girl sexy and wants to fvck her! EMBRACE IT! and they will love you for it!

 

[donjuanapprentice01]

The biggest mistake a guy can make is be apologetic or feel guilty about the fact that he finds a girl sexy and wants to fvck her! EMBRACE IT! and they will love you for it!

You hit the nail on the head there. I was like this, always trying to be "Mr. Friend" I used to hide my true emotions and it backfired on me. Every time.

Remember, you are a man, so let it show!

 

[DavenJuan]

well obviously everything I know and do is wrong. But can you tell me how to fix it? Because that's what I need. Anything less than that won't help me.

And I actually have zero female friends, though I do have female acquantances. I used to have an actual female friend but our friendship ended once she got with her current bf, now we barely talk.

Honestly I don't know what to do to fix my problems with women, and that's why I started posting here.

you are asking me how to fix your problem with women?

ask yourself.. what do YOU think you need to do to fix your problem?

i was going to say that you have made a step in the right direction by IDENTIFYING that what you are doing is wrong. but that is complete bullsnit. so lets take off the gloves and be real. I think you know what YOUR problem is.

its simple.

ACTION​

thats it. ask yourself what ACTION have you taken. what have you done DIFFERENT from what you already know doesnt work?

you have to step out of your comfort zone. push yourself to new limits. how can you expect change if you consistantly do the same thing that isnt working? they call that insanity

if you see that female friends/acquantences, whatever you choose to call them, are spending time with you, and then when they get a boyfriend your old news, its a clear definition that they are using you as an emotional tampon. ask yourself, what am I GETTING out of this? dont you want more?


take ACTION. take CONTROL of your own frame.

what ACTION are you taking that isnt working for you? im asking you this honestly.

my guess is , there is no action to evaluate. alot of guys come to boards like this, asking for advice on how to (insert here) ,yet arent putting in any effort to make that change they seek.


ive said it before

A + E = R

( Action/Activity + Effectiveness = Results)

i truly believe this.

the more ACTION you take Scion, the better you will eventually become. the better (effective) you become, the better the Results.

you cant get BETTER at something unless you practice and show the activity/action.

its a simple process. but you have to be willing to seek change. and you cant expect this change without the work.

 

[slaog]

well obviously everything I know and do is wrong. But can you tell me how to fix it? Because that's what I need. Anything less than that won't help me.

And I actually have zero female friends, though I do have female acquantances. I used to have an actual female friend but our friendship ended once she got with her current bf, now we barely talk.

Honestly I don't know what to do to fix my problems with women, and that's why I started posting here.

Start off by seeing the matrix and then things will begin to make alot more sense.

 

[Scion]

Start off by seeing the matrix and then things will begin to make alot more sense.

umm, what's the matrix? What do you mean by this statement?

 

[slaog]

umm, what's the matrix? What do you mean by this statement?

Its what we've been programmed to believe. We're programmed to believe in false ideas especially with women issues. For instance in most hollywood films its the AFC's who get the girls. People are taking all this in subconsciously.


Its also the reason guys have become feminised in the past few decades. There were more real men around in the past. Women too are acting less feminine these days. They're programmed to act like men and its now sexist if somebody doesn't treat women and men the same. Political correctness is another example.


So if you begin to see past all the nonsense it'll be alot easier to understand what women are attracted to. Don't treat them as the same as men because they're not. You have to be more of a real man to bring out their feminine side. Women want to be dominated although they probably consciously think otherwise. They want a man to take control of the relationship and somebody who has the strenght to walk away if theres any bullsh*t from them.

 

[Scion]

why are you hanging out with women in relationships? what is it possibly that you could gain from this? better question is, why are women in relationships haning out with YOU?

Well, I just found out her relationship might not be that solid. So there could be a couple of reasons she wants to hang out with me.

 

[Scion]

Its what we've been programmed to believe. We're programmed to believe in false ideas especially with women issues. For instance in most hollywood films its the AFC's who get the girls. People are taking all this in subconsciously.


Its also the reason guys have become feminised in the past few decades. There were more real men around in the past. Women too are acting less feminine these days. They're programmed to act like men and its now sexist if somebody doesn't treat women and men the same. Political correctness is another example.


So if you begin to see past all the nonsense it'll be alot easier to understand what women are attracted to. Don't treat them as the same as men because they're not. You have to be more of a real man to bring out their feminine side. Women want to be dominated although they probably consciously think otherwise. They want a man to take control of the relationship and somebody who has the strenght to walk away if theres any bullsh*t from them.

Now I know what your talking about, and I agree with a lot of what your saying.