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Girl telling you she has a boyfriend?

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ezily

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Hey guys I wanted to get your take on something.

We all run into girls who have boyfriends. My question is how long does it take for her to mention she has a boyfriend?

I think that if she had a bf, or wanted you to know, she would tell you pretty quick. I would say within the first couple of meetings. Basically she would want you to know so you don't get the wrong idea.

But has anyone here had a different experience that was genuine. i.e. not a lie to get out of a date or something. But a girl who had a bf but just never mentioned it for a long time (and she knew you were attempting to go out/ or even went out with)?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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A girl who mentions a BF straight off the bat is one who doesn't see you as a prospect.

A girl who has a BF but doesn't tell you about it for a while is looking to branch-swing and considering you to be one of the better deals.
 
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Jitterbug said:
A girl who mentions a BF straight off the bat is one who doesn't see you as a prospect.

A girl who has a BF but doesn't tell you about it for a while is looking to branch-swing and considering you to be one of the better deals.
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What he said, a good girlfriend(if there is such a thing now-a-days) will mention her boyfriend at the first sign a guy is showing signs of interest, or maybe even before then if the oppurtunity arises.

However most if not all girls branch swing, so if she waits a while to bring it up, she may see you as the next prospect and after a while she determines she likes her current boyfriend more and will hence drop the bf bomb. Or she may just wait to bring it up, in order to get attention or possibly favors from you if she thinks she can manipulate you interest level.
 
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Some girls won't tell you right away cause they like having guy friends. Others tell you up front. Some don't tell you cause, they're looking for someone new.
 
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If she doesn't mention it, and she knows you have interest, then she is looking to upgrade and sees you as a prospect.

If she tells you straight up at the first sign of interest you show, then she is happy and is telling you you cannot get sexual with her.

Of course, the above is assuming she's telling the truth ...

Many girls will lie about having a boyfriend - this is a sh!t test to see how persistent you are. And often, their definition of boyfriend is a little vague. Girls love to have a 'boyfriend' of some sort (because this means she isn't a slut - yeah, I know...) and platonic guy friends, guys who are using them as a plate, a f*ck buddy, an AFC she's leading on and an ex who she hasn't totally let go of yet can all qualify as 'boyfriends' if she thinks she needs to say she has one.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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No matter how you slice it, even good girls enjoy being persued and wanted. So they usually kind of let the guy "spit" his game and if he is a better catch than the guy she is with, she will either feel guilty and tell him shes taken, or more likely get his email or messenger name or something, and from there if you start acting up, she may start considering seein that person.

But bottom line is you have no control over who talks to your girl when you are not around.

As for them mentioning it, most will if they are happily taken.
 
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ezily said:
Hey guys I wanted to get your take on something.

We all run into girls who have boyfriends. My question is how long does it take for her to mention she has a boyfriend?

I think that if she had a bf, or wanted you to know, she would tell you pretty quick. I would say within the first couple of meetings. Basically she would want you to know so you don't get the wrong idea.

But has anyone here had a different experience that was genuine. i.e. not a lie to get out of a date or something. But a girl who had a bf but just never mentioned it for a long time (and she knew you were attempting to go out/ or even went out with)?
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Ask the girl what she does for fun. If she mentions her boyfriend in the following sentence, there you go.

However, some girls wont mention they have a boyfriend. Maybe it's an on and off relationship, maybe in there mind they are just sucking the life out of him for a couple more weeks and then gonna dump him, you never know. The poor boyfriend could think he's gonna marry this girl but meanwhile she's about to get rid of him.
 
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