"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girl suddenly showing increased interest

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I posted a long thread a couple of days ago about a girl I was trying to progress with and I got some good advice from a couple people so I thought I could get some advice on a different girl I have been talking to.

Unlike the other thread I posted, I am only interested in this HB7 for sexual reasons to hook up. I could not see myself entering a relationship with her what so ever even though she is plenty of fun to hang out with on a limited basis. Initially I met her through a mutual friend and at the time the friend I met her through and her were "talking" and hooked up at least once. So for me it was inititally meeting on a friends basis. She and her other HB8 friend asked for my number the second time I saw/hung out with them. I still thought this was a friends basis. Well about a month ago our mutual friend has moved on and not talked to either of us since so he is completely out of the picture.

Well since then this girls Interest level seems to be peaking in me or so it seems. She calls me to hang out or go out to bars with her at least twice a week. And the other day I accidently called her becuase I hit the wrong name and hung up before I thought it rang. Well she called me back like 3 times in one hour and then once the next day. So she obviously has some interest in me in some way. The last time I saw her she ran up to me away from her friends and gave me a really tight hug. So now I am obviously going to try and move it to being more physical as her, I and some other people are all going out to the same bar tonight. This will probably be the 5th time or so we have seen each other or gone out. This girl seems to be a slight Attention *****. While she is not that bad she is the type to post up pictures on facebook and such of everything she does, and keeps her status or wall posts slightly dramatic. Overall she isnt to much of an AW, but I see the possibility of it getting worse.

So here is my question. Is this girl really this into me and wants to hook up with me, or is she just one of those friends who is really flirtacious with her male friends. Its hard for me to tell because a vast majority of her friends are female, so I like to think that is a good thing for me, becasue it shows her Interest level in me is of a sexual nature. Is it possible to meet on a friends only basis and then with a change of circumstances be moved out of the friends zone. I mean I never was that far in the friends zone anyway since this is only going to be the 5th time or see we have seen each other.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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WesCottII

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I didn't read your thread. When I summised it was a "am i in the friendship zone?" post, I know there's only 3 options.

1) You don't make a move. You become her "best mate", someone who listens to all her sexual exploits, while you get the occasional hug.

2) You do make a move. She lets you. You're in.

3) You do make a move. She gives you the LJBF speech. You say "no thanks, I've got enough friends, and walk off".
 

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This sounds like a tough call, and even though you gave a lot of detail, I think it's hard to determine what kind of girl she is unless I was to personally know her.

My guess, however, is that she's been around the block and is pretty flirtacious with alot of guys. A female player in other words. But, she does sound pretty interested in you, and if you're down to hook up... you should capitalize on her interest.

You might want to avoid attachment though, she seems like the type that could be hooking up with another dude before you know it. Right now though, you have nothing to lose. Go for it!
 

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tsmith2334 said:
This sounds like a tough call, and even though you gave a lot of detail, I think it's hard to determine what kind of girl she is unless I was to personally know her.

My guess, however, is that she's been around the block and is pretty flirtacious with alot of guys. A female player in other words. But, she does sound pretty interested in you, and if you're down to hook up... you should capitalize on her interest.

You might want to avoid attachment though, she seems like the type that could be hooking up with another dude before you know it. Right now though, you have nothing to lose. Go for it!
Very good point. She does seem like the type that could easily move on to the next guy so I am watching out for that. I have no attachment or desire for an LTR with her, as she doesn't seem like my type for a LTR at all. So I am just trying to hook up with her right now. If anybody has any other opinions go ahead, because I am going out with her to a bar tonight, and I figure tonight should be make or break night, since if I wait any longer it becomes more likely I will be friendzoned.
 
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