Girl suddenly says she wants to wait...after we had sex twice.

[cybernetic]

So I met this girl about 4 weeks ago. We had sex the first time we were intimate because we were drunk. A week later, both drunk again, we have sex again. She tells me to slow down because I'm too agressive/rough. We've been sleeping together (everything except oral and intercourse) for the past couple of weeks and she tells me last night that she thinks were going too fast and that she doesn't want to have sex for a bit.

So did I **** this up by letting my game slip? Help!

 

[Desdinova]

If a woman were to pull that on me, I'd tell her "Okay, not a problem. I'll find someone else to fulfill my sexual needs"

You can't let women fvck you around like that.

 

[Purefilth]

now shes got you hooked, she thinks she can pull a power play, ^^^^what he said^^^^

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

She feels slutty for having drunken sex (she probably is). Just make her feel more special so that she doesn't feel like just a good fvck.

 

[Skalioppe]

Her anti-slut defence mechanism has kicked in... but it's a crock of sh1t, it's easily broken.

Agree with her that you need to take it slow, but next time you're alone, a bit of foreplay and wandering hands and you'll soon be fvcking her hard again.

 

[st_99]

yeah, sounds like your best bet is to agree and amplify "you're right, this is too much too soon, i better go.."

 

[Skalioppe]

yeah, sounds like your best bet is to agree and amplify "you're right, this is too much too soon, i better go.."

Yep, I concur. Women often need to appease their anti-slut defence mechanism (ASDM), especially when they've been a trashy one-night wh0re. So as soon as you do that or call their bluff, the ASDM is happy again. Then a few hours later you'll be balls deep in her, pulling her hair, showing her who's boss and giving her cervix a good going over.

 

[In2theGame]

yeah, sounds like your best bet is to agree and amplify "you're right, this is too much too soon, i better go.."

This exactly would turn the tables QUICK! she will change her tune if you pulled this line lol

 

[cybernetic]

Thanks for the replies.

A bit of context: She is 19 and I'm 25. She says that she was in a different state of mind when she was drunk. I still have not ****ed her again, but she considers me her boyfriend and we spend a lot of intimate time together. I am inclined to believe she saying she is not ready because she is testing the waters, but it is pretty frusterating.

I probably have to wait it out until she feels I truly care, and because of her age I am more inclined to believe that she is getting serious and that is why she cut me off, however at the same time I'm worried about being controlled for her convenience.

Should I just wait it out and be a boyfriend or get cold and flirt more with my other prospects?

 

[flashpoint]

So I met this girl about 4 weeks ago. We had sex the first time we were intimate because we were drunk. A week later, both drunk again, we have sex again. She tells me to slow down because I'm too agressive/rough. We've been sleeping together (everything except oral and intercourse) for the past couple of weeks and she tells me last night that she thinks were going too fast and that she doesn't want to have sex for a bit.

So did I **** this up by letting my game slip? Help!

wtf is left when there is no intercourse and no oral? dont tell me handjobs. thats disgusting. lol.

anyways. easy solution to this one: get her drunk again.

"I probably have to wait it out until she feels I truly care" - please tell me you r not serious^^

 

[Zerro]

Well I'm going to play the contrarian role for this one.

Should I just wait it out and be a boyfriend or get cold and flirt more with my other prospects?

Think about this: do you want a girlfriend or just a FWB?

If it's the former, then just take her on a date or two where you do a lot of fun stuff but don't press for sex at all and see if she starts to initiate it herself. Make her feel like a girlfriend and she'll start to act more like one.

 

[Voice]

Well, if she has sex with you when she was drunk then get her dunk again.

Then again you have to think what you want from this girl. Do you just want sex, or something more?

 

[luckster]

WTF no, dont get her drunk again. You might get laid again, then what? Back to square one. No need to be a jerk; and it'll get real old real fast, for you AND her.

If you know this girl has no long term potential, there's no reason you should hint at intentions of having a relationship. Your behavior around her should dictate that you're in this for the fun. She's 19, so unless she's incredibly mature for her age, you should truly expect to be in this for the fun anyway.

If she only has sex with you when she's drunk, she's probably insecure about something. The slut-factor might very well be the variable and you can try easing her concerns, but at some point you cut your losses and move on...

 

[bukowski_merit]

So I met this girl about 4 weeks ago. We had sex the first time we were intimate because we were drunk. A week later, both drunk again, we have sex again. She tells me to slow down because I'm too agressive/rough. We've been sleeping together (everything except oral and intercourse) for the past couple of weeks and she tells me last night that she thinks were going too fast and that she doesn't want to have sex for a bit.

So did I **** this up by letting my game slip? Help!

First off: For the past couple of weeks? lol.... Come on man, you're letting this chick give you blue balls just about every night and getting nothing out of it?

Second off: This chick has mental issues. A woman with a healthy self-esteem would not a) need to get drunk in order to fvck. b) suddenly stop giving a man sex. She obviously uses sex for power; and she's already used it on you with perfect results. She's getting your attention and desire without having to put out...


You fix this: By not seeing her; not giving her attention; not cuddling; and not doing "everything except oral and intercourse" with her. Find someone new, or act like you've found someone new (until you do).

But she considers me her boyfriend and we spend a lot of intimate time together.

She considers you? And you give her that right? lol... You're her b!tch man! Plain and simple. And you wonder why she doesn't want to fvck you?

I probably have to wait it out until she feels I truly care

LOL do not apply male logic to chick logic. They don't mix well.

She would be fvcking you if she felt like she was going to lose you (not by you saying you were going to leave her - that's b!tch sh!t! but, by you actually withdrawing and making her panic.)

She would be fvcking you if you made her pvssy wet.

You know who makes her pvssy wet? @ssholes who know how to treat a mental case like this.

You know who doesn't make her pvssy wet? Guys who lay in bed with her while she pets them.



Is this your first piece of @ss in a while? Or are you going to tell us that this crazy b!tch is "so much different from the rest" ????

Should I just wait it out and be a boyfriend or get cold and flirt more with my other prospects?

I got news for you: You're not her boyfriend if you're not fvcking her! You're her friend.

She is going to ration $ex to you when she feels like it. And use all that power to her advantage.

There's nothing normal or girlfriend worthy about this woman.

I don't care about age or inexperience.

If you have other prospects - go game them and let this chick drive some other man crazy.

I don't believe you do have other prospects though.

If you did - you wouldn't be letting a woman make you her b!tch.

 

[GotED?]

Watch out for unstable emotional characteristics with this girl (Borderline watch). Those women are usually emotionally driven to create drama in their lives, irresponsible, promiscuous, and will play the circular destructive game of dumping you and wanting you back. This may be the beginning of it, just be careful - she may be bored and trying to create some dramatic ripples to get you to bow to her high and mighty ego/narcisisstic self.

Take care,

Exodus

 

[flashpoint]

what about the "too aggressive/rough(!)" part? how about slowing down and taking care of da pussay and making her purr? be gentle man.

 

[Zarky]

The girl is 19 for chrissakes.

Having said that, it seems the girl got drunk, mistakenly thought the OP was alpha, and put out. Then after a few weeks of him acting like a p*ssy, her own p*ssy dried up and she's giving him this line.

The OP could wait until the sun supernovas and this girl won't be putting out for him again. Only if he goes rogue and really goes super alpha on her, like immediately, will he ever get laid by her again.