and that's where you went off the rails. It's not about ego. It's about self respect. Knowing the difference is critical. I know when it's on and when it's not. I followed my gut and the info I found out later just confirmed what my gut was telling me. I'm no pvssy begger, nor am I new to the rodeo. I've had enough experience to know when to fold em, when to walk away and when to run. But that's something you have to learn from experience and judge in each individual situation. For me, I know when it's time to walk. This guy doesn't know. Maybe he should try one more time, but if his gut tells him to walk, listen to it. If it's fear or ego talking...take a moment to think about it.teacha said:
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girl straight out said friends only.. wtf do i do now?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Since you already fvcked up by agreeing to be friends (you should've said you 'have enough friends already' then cut off contact), I'd say your chances of banging this girl are around 5%. You got friend zoned in an hour after all, what the hell did you do? LOL.
From this point your only choices are:
a) Agree with whatever plans you had, but then flake on her and don't answer any calls/messages. Then the next day or whenever she contacts you next subtly hint to her you were on a date with another girl. This probably has the best chance of working if you pull it off properly.
b) Agree with whatever plans you had, meet up with her and run tight game, C&F, kino etc. ignore the bullsh1t about being platonic friends and go for the kiss toward the end of the night. If she rejects your advances act unfazed and cut off contact with her.
c) Do what Bible_Belt said which I don't really think has much chance of working after the position you put yourself in but it would fvck with her.
From this point your only choices are:
a) Agree with whatever plans you had, but then flake on her and don't answer any calls/messages. Then the next day or whenever she contacts you next subtly hint to her you were on a date with another girl. This probably has the best chance of working if you pull it off properly.
b) Agree with whatever plans you had, meet up with her and run tight game, C&F, kino etc. ignore the bullsh1t about being platonic friends and go for the kiss toward the end of the night. If she rejects your advances act unfazed and cut off contact with her.
c) Do what Bible_Belt said which I don't really think has much chance of working after the position you put yourself in but it would fvck with her.
teacha
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I know i went overboard a lil bit, i'm trying my best not to judge people.My bad.Warrior74 said:and that's where you went off the rails. It's not about ego. It's about self respect. Knowing the difference is critical. I know when it's on and when it's not. I followed my gut and the info I found out later just confirmed what my gut was telling me. I'm no pvssy begger, nor am I new to the rodeo. I've had enough experience to know when to fold em, when to walk away and when to run. But that's something you have to learn from experience and judge in each individual situation. For me, I know when it's time to walk. This guy doesn't know. Maybe he should try one more time, but if his gut tells him to walk, listen to it. If it's fear or ego talking...take a moment to think about it.
Yea i get what you are saying about self-respect, judging each individual situation and what not. But what im really saying is you should have found out for yourself if she really wanna be just friends instead of you taking her word for it. You guys kissed on the first date, don't tell me she was just being polite (unless she was drunk/tipsy/no tongues involved).
Mate... shut the hell up and listen to Warrior. He knows his sh1t.teacha said:I know i went overboard a lil bit, i'm trying my best not to judge people.My bad.
Yea i get what you are saying about self-respect, judging each individual situation and what not. But what im really saying is you should have found out for yourself if she really wanna be just friends instead of you taking her word for it. You guys kissed on the first date, don't tell me she was just being polite (unless she was drunk/tipsy/no tongues involved).
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So Teacha when do you and all the girls get together to go shopping?
Next that chick, you don't need her friendship... unless she has gobs of hot friends ^_^
Next that chick, you don't need her friendship... unless she has gobs of hot friends ^_^
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What do you do? Get off this damn forum and don't come back. Answer your own questions. Seriously, it is the best thing in the world. Become your own person. Love yourself. If you dont know what to do. Do you. Never ask the internet what to do. What woman wants a man who gets on the internet and asks for advice? Oh lemme guess, she doesn't know, she is just a *****...? You sure it aint the other way around? Make friends with who you relate to or who u wanna be like. I got tons of advice... Dont trust a word of it though bcuz im still sitting behind this screen... alone
Forty0ztoFreedom
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Maybe he was trying to play it aloof/uncaring?
Note to self: Your own intentions/path >> "Playing" it a certain way, including aloof.
Note to self: Your own intentions/path >> "Playing" it a certain way, including aloof.