girl showing too much affection already

[pyros]

So what do you think about girls that do this too early? I mean, I met this chick a month ago, we've been on four dates, we haven't had intercourse but did some sexual stuff last time, and she texts me everyday, sends me lots of emoticon kisses, asks me if I miss her, tells me she misses me etc etc...


I haven't even banged her yet! On the right hand I kind of like it, but on the left hand it seems too much affection too soon...

First time it happens to me.


Opinions?

 

[El Suave]

She hasn't figured you out yet. Doesn't know what your feelings are towards her. She's in the chase mode, you're the prize. Tell her how much you like her and it will all stop, but why would you...

Just enjoy, you're doing great.

 

[Turuwal]

You are becoming the man that all women wish they had. Strap yourself in and enjoy the ride ;-)

 

[Dgwizdal]

Don't change a thing - you're playing it just right. With the right balance, you can literally make this last as long as you want it to.

 

[j.619]

you can literally make this last as long as you want it to.

Literally. As long as you want it to last without committing anything. Beautiful stuff..

 

[Mr Wright]

Enjoy it whilst it lasts, for me that's a massive red flag. If that's how she acts now, imagine after you've banged her. She'll get crazy and if you think just pawning her off will make it go away, you are wrong.

Sounds like another disney victim nutjob to me.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

DANGER! DANGER! RED FLAG!! RED FLAG!!

Sorry - I'm having flashbacks. I dated a girl just like this, and after we banged she got even more clingy... and suspicious of my behavior when I wasn't around... and it turned out she had a LOT of baggage which made her do the actions you're mentioning that this girl does... to the point where if I didn't pick up my phone or return a message right away she would automatically assume I was cheating and leave me voice messages talking about "who are you with? why won't you respond?" I'm like, I got other stuff to do besides answer every message you send...

Stay away, man. Not all pvssy is worth taking down...

 

[Maximus Rex]

Just Curious

Is this one of those single mothers that you're constantly talking to that rates a "5," on scale of 1 to 10, 10 being high?

 

[pyros]

DANGER! DANGER! RED FLAG!! RED FLAG!!

Sorry - I'm having flashbacks. I dated a girl just like this, and after we banged she got even more clingy... and suspicious of my behavior when I wasn't around... and it turned out she had a LOT of baggage which made her do the actions you're mentioning that this girl does... to the point where if I didn't pick up my phone or return a message right away she would automatically assume I was cheating and leave me voice messages talking about "who are you with? why won't you respond?" I'm like, I got other stuff to do besides answer every message you send...

Stay away, man. Not all pvssy is worth taking down...

Well, it doesn't really matter. I just want her as a FWB...she can get annoyed if she wants to...

 

[TheException]

Enjoy it whilst it lasts, for me that's a massive red flag. If that's how she acts now, imagine after you've banged her. She'll get crazy and if you think just pawning her off will make it go away, you are wrong.

Sounds like another disney victim nutjob to me.

DANGER! DANGER! RED FLAG!! RED FLAG!!

Sorry - I'm having flashbacks. I dated a girl just like this, and after we banged she got even more clingy... and suspicious of my behavior when I wasn't around... and it turned out she had a LOT of baggage which made her do the actions you're mentioning that this girl does... to the point where if I didn't pick up my phone or return a message right away she would automatically assume I was cheating and leave me voice messages talking about "who are you with? why won't you respond?" I'm like, I got other stuff to do besides answer every message you send...

Stay away, man. Not all pvssy is worth taking down...

You cannot take one bad experience and apply it to all other women and declare this to be a red flag....

Sure....this could be a very insecure female and seeks to constantly be validated....but thats why you screen. OP hasnt even had sex with her yet, it is still very early on in the process. Ideally you should be sleeping with a women for 2 months before you can really decide upon her true character and decide whether she is a)LTR material(if desired) b)strictly fwb material c)worthy of neither.

A little clingyness is a good thing. It translates as high attraction and tips the relationship in your favor slightly. The optimal balance for a healthy sexual relationship is one that tips slightly in the male's favor.

 

[GS750]

You cannot take one bad experience and apply it to all other women and declare this to be a red flag....

Sure....this could be a very insecure female and seeks to constantly be validated....but thats why you screen. OP hasnt even had sex with her yet, it is still very early on in the process. Ideally you should be sleeping with a women for 2 months before you can really decide upon her true character and decide whether she is a)LTR material(if desired) b)strictly fwb material c)worthy of neither.

A little clingyness is a good thing. It translates as high attraction and tips the relationship in your favor slightly. The optimal balance for a healthy sexual relationship is one that tips slightly in the male's favor.

Good points. I'm experiencing the same thing right now. I agree it shows high IL.

 

[Eternal_water]

And this is a problem for you? Send her my way!

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Girls are allowed to do that. Especially young ones.

Men... are not allowed to text like a little girl...

Any questions?

 

[Mr Wright]

You cannot take one bad experience and apply it to all other women and declare this to be a red flag....

Sure....this could be a very insecure female and seeks to constantly be validated....but thats why you screen. OP hasnt even had sex with her yet, it is still very early on in the process. Ideally you should be sleeping with a women for 2 months before you can really decide upon her true character and decide whether she is a)LTR material(if desired) b)strictly fwb material c)worthy of neither.

A little clingyness is a good thing. It translates as high attraction and tips the relationship in your favor slightly. The optimal balance for a healthy sexual relationship is one that tips slightly in the male's favor.

Maybe, it's just a personal thing because I've seen this behaviour in a few girls. I don't like clingy girls, I don't want her to follow me around a club and physically attacking me. I don't want abusive drunk phonecalls at 3am because I won't go to hers and put out. I don't want girls turning up at my house when I'm not there and end up crying with my flatmate. At this point in my life, I'll take an unemotional chick who just wants to bang instead of a clingy chick, at the start it's flattering but if the gender roles were reversed the guy would be locked up. So that's how my advice stands. This just screams of a girl who can't keep her emotions in check at the start of a relationship.

 

[skinnyguy]

Infatuation ends relationships quickly

 

[TheException]

At this point in my life, I'll take an unemotional chick who just wants to bang instead of a clingy chick

When you find one....let me know, ill be right in line behind you on the signup sheet.

You can desire anything you want....but I take reality for what it is. Id rather have a high quality woman with high interest and a little clingyness over a high quality woman who remains distant where you would always feel like you have to "out game" her.

 

[Mr Wright]

When you find one....let me know, ill be right in line behind you on the signup sheet.

You can desire anything you want....but I take reality for what it is. Id rather have a high quality woman with high interest and a little clingyness over a high quality woman who remains distant where you would always feel like you have to "out game" her.

I agree with you, it's chasing the dragon but for me there is nothing worse than a chick getting all emotional too early on, it's a turn off. So it's quick turn arounds only.

 

[sylvester the cat]

Enjoy it but keep your guard up.

I was seeing a girl like this. It was love, love, love the first few weeks, she was even cooking breakfast for my flatmates.

Then one day - BOOM! You could literally sense her attention had gone elsewhere. So I ejected before she had the chance to do me first. This kept her attracted for a few more months before I ejected for good.

 

[GotED?]

She is NOT LTR material.

Been there, done that - with very needy and acting helpless type of women. Was with one for a year, came to resent the fact she couldn't be independent and make decisions, always comes from a place of fear (sign she is clingy and needy in the beginning).

It really STOKED my ego in the beginning, as most of you sound the same way to have a woman make you feel like a NEEDED man. But long term it gets old and breeds resentment as the man becomes the 'Daddy' figure.

Ths woman I was with was 35 yrs old with an emotional maturity of a 18yr old at best.

Don't waste your time as LTR with her. You want a woman who you can depend and rely on to carry through the challenges in life and not crumble into drama.

Exodus

 

[Bwana]

This is what most beta's do to girls they have high interest in. Any wonder why the girls run. A young girl with high interest will act just like a beta guy and this doesn't mean she has any issues other than really liking you and being a little insecure. If you like her just go with the flow and enjoy because you can always bail if she turns out to be nuts in the end. It is much better to go out with girls that have such a high interest level that they quit playing the girl game than to continually work so hard for ones that aren't that interested and will drop you for someone else.