"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl sees the future without me?

guitaronfire411

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So I've been with this girl for about 2 1/2 months now and she started to talk about the future. She said she "wanted to be nice" and warn me that she was probably going to take a job in her hometown --- "so you don't fall in love with me".

Then she went on and talked about how she was going to marry by 2014 and that she'd have to find a boyfriend by 2011. I thought it was really weird that she was saying this after she hadn't seen me in a long time. Throughout the conversation she said that she was really disappointed that she couldn't take her flight to be here tomorrow to see me. Instead, she won't get to see me until Friday at the earliest.

Should I just shrug off her babble or start to be concerned? I suspect this is a test of sorts so I didn't really react.

Thanks for the help.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Smack

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Well it's obvious she doesn't see her future with you.

But if you're young then it's foolish to start planning your future with someone anyway. Things change, ****e happens, you'll probably not spend the rest of your life with the person you are with in your twenties or late teens.

And at least this shows you that she is not overly clingly and probably won't push you into marriage or anything serious like that. She's just being realistic.
 

guitaronfire411

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That's what I figured. The whole 2011, 2013, 2014 bit was brought upon by her friends, so it's probably very grey. I've been escalating physically (got her down to the panties) and started the dirty talk, which seems to have driven her IL sky-high. I haven't seen her in about two weeks and she's all over checking my Facebook, buying me a gift for Xmas, etc.

I forgot to mention that she's here in my hometown until April, so I have 4 months of schooling and fooling around to make her change her mind. Once I **** her, I bet things will change drastically.

Thanks guys.
 

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So we've been "together" for almost three months now. I've seen her about 12 times or so. After all of this talk, now she wants my parents to meet her mom on Sunday here at home. She just turned 23, I'm almost 26.

I've kinoed her breasts before the holidays and started the dirty talk, but she never talks dirty back. Before the holidays, I was in her bed, watching a movie, and she was topless and just wearing smooth black panties. I'm going to see her tomorrow and stay over night.

I haven't even sexed her yet, which is starting to get on my nerves. She knows I want to **** her, as I have told her about my dream of ****ing her hard and her enjoying it immensely. I also shared how she's made me *** and she has said "You're bad." over the phone to me. I am thinking about escalating all the way tomorrow night.

Any suggestions as to how to proceed?
 

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Mate, she's your "girlfriend", you've been "with" her for 3 months, this should be simple: escalate, get her horny, and fvck her.

If it's *NOT* simple, i.e. she's not putting out, something's wrong. And I'd take your talk with her + not putting out after 3 months as she's taking the p1ss or something, and I'd be out that door in this case.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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guitaronfire411

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When I meant "together", I meant dating for most of that time. She seems to be going very slowly, and in a text message from the other day, she said she's "not ready" for sex.

So go for the gold or walk away? Got'cha.
 

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To quote Maiden: Run for the hills.

Not ready for sex? BS. She'd give it away to some other guy in an instant.
 

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Hmm well ultimately it's up to you, but you've gotta consider you're both well into your 20s...at that age I wouldn't be farting about "waiting" for sex, especially if this is someone you've been dating for a while.

Considering the somewhat weird chat, I'd have one foot out the door and be seeing other girls, whilst pushing forward for the pvssy. If the pvssy's not coming, something's up and it'd really be time you bailed out cause it's not worth your time.
 
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