Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl says she's 'not interested in any guys at the moment'. What does she mean?

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The girl I like (she isn't sure I'm interested, I've given hints though) has said on 2 occasions that she isn't interested in ANY guy at the moment. But neither time has she directly said it to me, so I'm pretty sure this isn't just her way of telling me 'I'm not interested in YOU'. Or does she mean 'I don't know any guys that I'm interested in'? She broke up with her boyfriend a few months ago and I think she was in love with him, but he cheated on her so she is keeping away from him. Maybe she needs time to move on? Or is that probably not the case?

I was also wondering if I should still pursue her at this moment or is that not a good idea? Should I just kino the **** out of her and see what happens? lol
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Hmmmm what is that movie called? (S)he is just not that into you. She is waiting for something good to come along and right now has not found it. Go ahead and try but do not get hopes up. How is she not sure you like her? Man up ask her out and find out what is going on.
 
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Sounds like she doesn't want to date anyone at this point, but if you think she's interested in you may as well give it a shot.
 
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She is not interested in any guys like YOU. Namely YOU.

Keep her around as a friend if she's a nice girl and you get along good (you reciprocate). You want to hook up with women that are interested.
 
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vitor said:
How is she not sure you like her? Man up ask her out and find out what is going on.
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She isn't sure because I haven't told her. I've been negging her a fair bit recently to give her the idea that I'm not the only guy she knows that is putting her on a pedestal.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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In the words of the all mighty Pook:

I'm not looking for a relationship right now.


I don't want a relationship WITH YOU. Don't even BOTHER asking me out again, since I already made it clear previously, a relationship with you and I, is NEVER going to happen!
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I recommend reading more of his stuff in the dj bible, before asking anymore about the "w0manese" language.
 
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Also let me add that she said "I'm not interested in any guys this year", not at the moment (if that matters).
 
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ok **** I just realised what she exactly said. I think I'm ****ed now.

She was talking to her grandmother about Valentine's Day while I was in the room (she went with some random guy she isn't interested in, probably just to get him to buy dinner and stuff, LOL) and she said "I'm not interested in any guys this year, <me> knows that!" and looked at me and smiled. lol wut?
 
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we can't possibly know the answer. you want us to give you food for thought so you can further procrastinate. im not going to do that
 
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we can't possibly know the answer. you want us to give you food for thought so you can further procrastinate. im not going to do that
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lol kinda true. Girls are too hard to read. ****
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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worship said:
lol kinda true. Girls are too hard to read. ****
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Too hard to read for YOU. Once you learn the game, they're very transparent. You just have to be able to decipher them.

I can see their actions making more and more sense as I learn more about the male and female psychology and evolution. Observing is a MAJOR part though. Female friends are an awesome resource into the female psyche.
 
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Yeah...these guys are right. THing about it is she may even really think that's how she feels, but if she meets someone that totally blows her away attraction wise she'll change her tune. Like say Johnny Depp shows up at the bar and starts talking to her. You think she'd tell him that? Not saying you have to be a movie star, but if a girl's interested her rules like this go out the window pretty fast.
 
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Ollie said:
Yeah...these guys are right. THing about it is she may even really think that's how she feels, but if she meets someone that totally blows her away attraction wise she'll change her tune. Like say Johnny Depp shows up at the bar and starts talking to her. You think she'd tell him that? Not saying you have to be a movie star, but if a girl's interested her rules like this go out the window pretty fast.
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A+ post right there.

Girls will say that to keep some guys away, but as soon as someone pops up that they're interested in, they'll pull a complete 180...even if they just broke up with their boyfriends.
 
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It's not a bad time for her.
She does not need any space.
She may be focused on her career...

What she is really saying is, uh - "get away from me now!"

I didn't come up with that - hitch did.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Don't believe anything girls say. They have a whole lot of lame excuses when they're not feeling you. Or they can even get you thinking they're into you but suddenly end all forms of communication.
 
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SabylaBella said:
Sounds like she doesn't want to date anyone at this point, but if you think she's interested in you may as well give it a shot.
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Hahahahaha!
 
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