"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl said that we are going too fast

justin11

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For the past 1=,1.5 months, this girl in my school has been telling me that we don't talk enough and should become friends. In the hallways, she says hi whenever I walk by and tries to start up a conversation. We never ended up talking that much, because I didn't really have time to between school and offseason football training. However, last night (saturday night) there was an overnight event at my school that we both went to. Around 1 in the morning or so, we went for a walk together around the hallways of the school that no one was in. We ended up sitting and flirting for a solid hour and a half, and then I pulled her in for the make out. After like 20 seconds, she pulled away and said that we were going too fast. I was surprised, and eventually just shrugged it off to her. She asked if I was okay, and I ask her why wouldn't be and told her that I was perfectly fine.

The only thing is I don't know where to go from here. We never really talked much during school, so I can't really reduce contact more than what it really was. How should I approach this situation? We're both juniors in high school.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Eph

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Something tells me you've been reading a little too much on game geared more towards college and real-world game. That stuff doesn't apply to high school. You haven't really talked to her, so there's no rapport. No connection between you two, other than her (possibly) high interest.

You fvcked up bad by going for the make out without building any rapport with her first. Unless you're at a party and everyone is drunk out of their minds, you just can't move that fast in high school.

In the real world, and college to a certain degree, you have to move faster because you generally won't see the same people too often. High school, on the other hand, you get stuck with the same group of people for four years. Everyone knows everyone, and your reputation sticks.

I don't think I need to explain why you can't really get ONS in High School, so you should go ghost on her for a while, and move much slower when you hit her up again.
 

justin11

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idk lol, it seemed like her interest level was very high at the time...she's the one who said we should sit down when we were alone. also, i got a text from someone asking where i was, and she said i should just ignore it (was planning to either way). we didn't talk in school today, but Id feel like a **** if i just hooked up with her and stopped talking to her after that, especially because id be interested in going out with her..dont want her to think that i used her just for the makeout. and at the time we did make out, i was up for about 22 hours straight and was not myself.
 

Watawata

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Go ask her out. Do something. **** your reputation.
 
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