"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
girl said I was boring on the phone
- Thread starter DJmonster
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
duke007
Master Don Juan
Girl: "Yeah"
Me: "Oh..I much prefer talking to you in person...i can't see your facial expressions"
Girl: "Yeah phone is bad for that blah blah"
Me: "Exactly...I'm not a phone kinda guy"
Girl: "Oh sorry" (hahahahah, depends on the girl but she might get apologetic"
Me: *changed subject and fluffed for 2 mins max so as not to be rude*
Me: "Alright I gotta go now, I'll see you at *insert place and time*"
Girl: "Bye!"
It worked and we never had a phonecall over 5 minutes again.
StringShredder
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I think you are in the right frame of mind to be trying to get rid of her and letting her do most of the talking; just need to work a little harder at cutting the conversations short.
The way you should do it is by saying that you are getting ready to go somewhere, at a particular time. You are meeting someone and so you can't talk for very long. Let her blab for a few minutes and then come back with, look as I mentioned before, I really have to go. Where do you have to go? Don't always say that you have to meet another chick; that will become obvious, but do drop that sometimes.
You're a busy guy! You work out to keep in shape, you meet friends, you work, you date, you have important hobbies, you go shopping, etc. If you tell her you are getting ready to meet a girl, be sure that when she calls the next day, talk about how great your date was and the great goodnight kiss and all that ****.
Also, why don't you call her straight on her bull? "Look, why do you keep calling me so much? Are you looking for a boyfriend? You aren't going to get one with all this girl-to-girl chit-chat. I'm a guy, I ain't too interested in a whole lot of talk. If you want to come over, we can cuddle."
Why do you care about not upsetting her? Who cares? It's healthy for people to get upset.
Also, do you not have call display? Where is your answering machine? If you really are a busy guy, you shoudn't even be around to answer the phone. Let your machine take a message. She can blab to the machine, and later you can just drop that erase button on the mf-ing bytch, my homie.
Here is a novel approach that works 100% of the time. Try taking a real interest in her life and stop being so into just your own life.
My ex always needed to call me before bed to talk about her day and this is what women do. They need to talk. Just be thankful it's you and not another man she is letting it all out to.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Nex
Senior Don Juan
It'll keep her wondering what came up that was such an emergency.
Dude, saying "got to go, I need sleep" is not rude, it's totally reasonable. Talking to her when you don't want to is like being rude to yourself.
The problem with me was that I fell into trusting that the girl was different from other girls. Bottom line is this. Too much contact with anyone, including friends, is usually a recipe for disaster only because you start getting sick of each other after a while, then you sort of just get tired of it. You can't help this, and the only thing you can do to counteract it is to spend less time with each other. It's difficult, and begs the question of whether getting married is that great a concept. It seems that people should just be single, but if you want a family, then that's not going to work too well.
Billasec
Guest
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.