Girl said "I don't know you well enough to talk like that"

[00Kevin]

The last time I took this girl out she thought that my leather car seat warmer was too hot. It was rather strange for a girl not to like my butt warmer. All the other girls I've dated loved it.

So...Last night over the phone I suggested that the reason she didn't like my butt warmer was that she was wearing no panties or a thong the last time I took her out. The comment made her laugh and I could sense that she liked it. But then out of no place she became all up tight. She told me that she didn't feel comfortable talking that way because she didn't know me that well. The problem here is that she has known me for 2 months now. We haven't dated all that much(I've been busy), but I'm still rather pissed off that she is pulling this ****.

My only comeback to these friend coments is "ah you need to just relax and go with things. Don't be so uptight. " This shifts the blame for the bad situation on her. After all it is all in her mind anyway.

Do any of the anyone have any other suggestions?

How do you guys deal with a girl that

a) always claims she doesn't know you that much?
b) starts to suggest that he likes to be friends?

I haven't made a physical move on her yet but it is my goal on sat to try something. My perspective is that a guy should just ignore this crap.

The other question I have is

c) How do you react if you get stoped when you make a physical move?

If I fail to make a physical move on her on sat I'm strongly considering calling her uptight and just driving her home on the spot.

 

[00Kevin]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't "I don't know you well enough"
******** for "I'm a slut"?

 

[Logen]

a) I’d just keep pressing her lightly about private stuff like panties and whatnot she’ll come around and brush them off as a joke. Unless she gets really upset by them, then you’re in trouble.

b) Hmm, maybe a freeze out or something? You know, ignore her completely. You’ve got to be the prize man. Start talking to other girls around her maybe. Also, step up your personality maybe? Get some good jokes/routines/stories going.

c) If you got stopped then maybe you need to start lightly with the physical stuff. General kino. Holding her hand, putting your hand on her knee when you say something. Rubbing her shoulders lightly, brushing her hair playfully, light physical teasing like bumping her. Make her feel physically comfortable around you then if you want to go in for a kiss you have to set her mood. Tell her the most fascinating and romantic story you got. Really impress her with something, make a situation where you’re both looking into each others eyes right after a great and amazing convo the spark is there, you will feel it and so will she. That’s when you slowly move in for a kiss.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Logen
a) I’d just keep pressing her lightly about private stuff like panties and whatnot she’ll come around and brush them off as a joke. Unless she gets really upset by them, then you’re in trouble.

the problem here is that she puts up her ASD at the lightest private remark or joke.

b) Hmm, maybe a freeze out or something? You know, ignore her completely. You’ve got to be the prize man. Start talking to other girls around her maybe. Also, step up your personality maybe? Get some good jokes/routines/stories going.

yeah sometimes this is the only option, but are there any others? A freeze with a comment about dating someone else is what I usually do.

c) If you got stopped then maybe you need to start lightly with the physical stuff. General kino. Holding her hand, putting your hand on her knee when you say something. Rubbing her shoulders lightly, brushing her hair playfully, light physical teasing like bumping her. Make her feel physically comfortable around you then if you want to go in for a kiss you have to set her mood. Tell her the most fascinating and romantic story you got. Really impress her with something, make a situation where you’re both looking into each others eyes right after a great and amazing convo the spark is there, you will feel it and so will she. That’s when you slowly move in for a kiss.

this is good, but my end goal for sat is to put my hand between her legs (on top) of her pants and rub her. I might just kiss her neck and just forget about the stupid kiss on the lips.

 

[Logen]

man, this girl must be hot, otherwise it wouldn’t be worth the trouble :woo:

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Logen
man, this girl must be hot, otherwise it wouldn’t be worth the trouble :woo:

actually she is 400 lbs!