Girl refuses to go all the way

[dj_inprogress]

Hello all. I'm pretty sure someone has been in the same situation as me.

I have been dating this girl and she is my only choice right now but I'm working on changing that. I have kept myself busy and actually rejected some of her offers to go out and what not.

The problem that I'm experiencing is that she has been over my place two times and both times she has not let me go all the way. The first time I played cool (she said she wanted to go slow) but the second time I pushed and pushed but got no where but at least a made a move. Besides that aspect everything else seems to be fine.

At first I felt upset but I decided to not worry about it and focus on finding more options.

Right now I'm keeping my distance and I was thinking on bringing her over one more time if she shows interest and if it does not work out I would just kicker her out and move on.

Any tips or suggestion of how to handle this situation? Or anything you could share about situations like this for future reference.

Anything would be appreciated it.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Look up threads on ASD (Anti Slvt Defence).

 

[Harry Wilmington]

I find that the best way to get a girl to lay you quickly is... wait for it, wait for it... acting like you're NOT pressed for it.

The last 5 girls I dated (including the current one) I was able to lay by the second or third date. How did I do it? By not bringing up anything sexual. I wouldn't talk about it, make any jokes... heck, I wouldn't even try to initiate kino.

You know what happens when you DON'T try to make these kinds of moves/comments? The girl, who is so used to having guys push her to home plate, starts thinking: "Wow, he's not making any moves on me... wait a minute: HE'S NOT MAKING ANY MOVES ON ME?!? Does he find me attractive? Does he like me? Is he thinking about someone else? Hmm, maybe I should (touch him, say something sexual, etc.) and find out..."

The result? THEY end up being the ones that do all the work!

So, here's what I suggest: next time you take her out (and make it something cheap but romantic, like a picnic, museum visit, beach walk, etc.), talk to her like a regular person and don't talk about or mention anything sexual. Let HER touch you. Let HER make a sexual innuendo comment.

AND - here's the real kicker - do NOT invite her back to your place.

That's right, you heard me. You should be of the mindset that the only time a girl goes to your place is when she's DTF. If she's not, she has no business being in there (and it's true, 'cause you know you'll be frustrated if she gets in there and you don't have sex).

Instead, get back in the car and say, "well, this was fun - so, ready for me to drop you back home?"

Here's the kicker: if she doesn't want sex, she'll say yes to this question. If she IS thinking about sex, she'll say "well I was hoping we could hang out a bit longer... can we go back to your place?"

This SHOULD be the sign that she wants to get it on. If you get back to your place and she starts pulling the same crap she did last time, she's not interested and she's OUT. Plain and simple. It doesn't take a girl who really likes you 3 or 4 outings to decide if she'd ever mess with you.

 

[dj_inprogress]

@Greasy Pig: Thank you for search suggestion. I Never get tired of learning new things.

@Harry Wilmington: Thank you for the sound advice. After reading your post I do realize the mistakes I have done. I really need to stop drinking as much so I can stay sharp.

 

[dj_inprogress]

I'm not getting much when I search for "Anti Slvt Defence". Could someone please point me in the right direction on that topic. Thank you.