So I kind fell for this girl at work who I was pretty friendly with but as she already had a bfriend this was always going to be a no-go zone.
despite this I still committed the cardinal sin of responding to her daily emails, giving this girl all my energy and attention.
still i made things worse for myself by telling this girl how i felt about her only for to her tell me she 'liked me as a friend', but i could handle that. at least i knew where i stood so i could move on. no problemo.
no problemo until she starts emailing and texting me again. this time i tell her she has a bfriend and what she is doing is dangerous prompting her to agree and tell me that she has to 'decide what to do'.
a few days later she tells me all she can offer me is friends. again i say no problem.
so then i am getting on with my life. but she is always 'accidentally' bumping into me in the hallway or coming to the drinks dos even though she left our department and her new friends don't come along or offering to cover shifts with me when someone is sick. so i take a chance and decide to ask her out. she since split with her bfriend so maybe she's up for it?
so i ask her out, she ums and she ah's, tells me likes someone else and asks if she can think about it. i tell her to give me her hand which i stroke and she strokes my hand back. but she still says no, later citing by email that she is afraid that it will go wrong.
so i think that's fine. now i REALLY can move on. so i do. but she's sending me emails asking if i'll cover her shift which she can't do (despite having asked someone else and that person agreed).
i then have a word with her in the kitchen. she asks i have moved on and found someone to which i say yes. she then later says she doesnt want to talk to me or be my friend to which i say that's that then. and we don't speak.
then a week later at a drinks do i am talking to her sister. she asks why i'm talking to her sister. i say 'talking to me now, are you?' to which she orders me not to talk to her sister to which i reply 'i'm not talking to you but i can talk to anyone in the room'. she then jumps up, drags her sister away saying 'she's got a bfriend' before declaring to the whole room 'we used to be friends what happened?'
she then sits me down on a couch, gives me a hug and proceeds to tell me how she is leaving the company, how she loved me (as a friend) and how she'll miss me. she then for some reason proceeded to tell me about the various guys she had kissed in the preceeding months. at this point i smiled and got up and left. she then followed me upstairs but i made myself lost.
i then emailed her that i loved her but couldnt get over that if she could do the things she did with her bfriend that she wouldnt hesitate to do that to me. she apologised and that was that.
what do you think about this girl's feellings?
despite this I still committed the cardinal sin of responding to her daily emails, giving this girl all my energy and attention.
still i made things worse for myself by telling this girl how i felt about her only for to her tell me she 'liked me as a friend', but i could handle that. at least i knew where i stood so i could move on. no problemo.
no problemo until she starts emailing and texting me again. this time i tell her she has a bfriend and what she is doing is dangerous prompting her to agree and tell me that she has to 'decide what to do'.
a few days later she tells me all she can offer me is friends. again i say no problem.
so then i am getting on with my life. but she is always 'accidentally' bumping into me in the hallway or coming to the drinks dos even though she left our department and her new friends don't come along or offering to cover shifts with me when someone is sick. so i take a chance and decide to ask her out. she since split with her bfriend so maybe she's up for it?
so i ask her out, she ums and she ah's, tells me likes someone else and asks if she can think about it. i tell her to give me her hand which i stroke and she strokes my hand back. but she still says no, later citing by email that she is afraid that it will go wrong.
so i think that's fine. now i REALLY can move on. so i do. but she's sending me emails asking if i'll cover her shift which she can't do (despite having asked someone else and that person agreed).
i then have a word with her in the kitchen. she asks i have moved on and found someone to which i say yes. she then later says she doesnt want to talk to me or be my friend to which i say that's that then. and we don't speak.
then a week later at a drinks do i am talking to her sister. she asks why i'm talking to her sister. i say 'talking to me now, are you?' to which she orders me not to talk to her sister to which i reply 'i'm not talking to you but i can talk to anyone in the room'. she then jumps up, drags her sister away saying 'she's got a bfriend' before declaring to the whole room 'we used to be friends what happened?'
she then sits me down on a couch, gives me a hug and proceeds to tell me how she is leaving the company, how she loved me (as a friend) and how she'll miss me. she then for some reason proceeded to tell me about the various guys she had kissed in the preceeding months. at this point i smiled and got up and left. she then followed me upstairs but i made myself lost.
i then emailed her that i loved her but couldnt get over that if she could do the things she did with her bfriend that she wouldnt hesitate to do that to me. she apologised and that was that.
what do you think about this girl's feellings?
