Girl putting me on the backburner-what should I do?

[eaglez1177]

Hey all, i've been gaming up this chick so nicely for about the past 3 or 4 times we've hung out and everything had been going great between us. She was really receptive to the kino, flirting, all that. Last night my friend had a party at his house, and I knew I would be able to hook up with this girl cuz she even said the night before that she couldnt wait to see me there and that I was the only reason why she was going.

So anyways, I knew that I would be set from the start. I start gamin her up again at the party, and I find that it became a little tough to actually get the hookup with her. Then again, midway through the nite I was ****blocked because my friend refused to heat up his hot tub, which this girl would only go in with me (in thong and panties) if it was hot.

Towards the end, she pullled me aside in a room and told me how she really liked flirting with me and hanging out with me, but that she was currently "talking to someone else". But, she said that she still enjoyed hanging out and wanted to still hang out but didnt want anything to change because of her talking to someone else. I was kinda let down by this cuz i really wanted to hook up with her, but she made it kinda unclear if she still wanted to hook up or not.

What should I do in this situation moving forward? Im pretty sure shes like using me as her back up in case things go wrong with the other guy (which I think they might have just gotten into a fight or something), but idk if I should continue hanging out with her and trying to game her or if I should just fvck it and move on.

 

[imaginemypotential]

well there was a post on here..cant find it similar to yours

the girl told the guy something similar to what the chick just told you

but he just played the friends game and they hooked up soon afterwards

I've had this happen many times, girls ask me what i want i say friendship
and usually it ends up way more..i wouldn't give up completely

Sort of fall back, and make the time you spend together special, bring her a rose or something (no afc) kinda like no homo if you guys are sarcastic lol

also emphasize that your are just friends, when you go out on dates, this kind of varies for women..you kinda of have to experiment but go with you instinct

 

[drewsg]

I say keep pressing on, show her that you're the one she should be "talking" too. Whatever you do, if you really dig this chick, don't settle for being just friends unless she makes that explicitly clear.

 

[eaglez1177]

well there was a post on here..cant find it similar to yours

the girl told the guy something similar to what the chick just told you

but he just played the friends game and they hooked up soon afterwards

I've had this happen many times, girls ask me what i want i say friendship
and usually it ends up way more..i wouldn't give up completely

Sort of fall back, and make the time you spend together special, bring her a rose or something (no afc) kinda like no homo if you guys are sarcastic lol

also emphasize that your are just friends, when you go out on dates, this kind of varies for women..you kinda of have to experiment but go with you instinct

Well no she didnt ask me what I wanted she just told me the situation

 

[imaginemypotential]

Well no she didnt ask me what I wanted she just told me the situation

i understand, I was just relating to a similar story that all^^

 

[Maximus Rex]

Reasons Why She May Tell You She Has A Boyfriend

The following come from "The Mystery Method," By Mystery page 36


Nine times out of ten, when a woman says, " I have a boyfriend," what this translates to is, "You just telegraphed too much interest."

It has nothing to do with whether she actually has a boyfriend. In fact if she is attracted to you, she will often deliberately hide the boyfriend from you until after you have had sex with her.

Whether she mentions him or not in no way proves that he actually exists-only that she had a motive to mention him.

1) Though she doesn't have a boyfriend, she's not attracted to you or you miscalibrated your escalation.

2) She DOES have a boyfriend and, given her current options, she has chosen to stick with that relationship.

3) She DOES have a boyfriend and is willing to sleep with you but wants to make sure that you understand her situation first. She wants DISCRETION and understanding. And though she might be available to you for sex, she NOT immediately available for more of a commitment.

4) She DOES have a boyfriend and she IS willing to cheat on him (they often are if your game is tight,) but she doesn't want to feel guilty about it. This is her RATIONALIZATION process at work. As long as she mentions the boyfriend BEFORE sleeping with you, she can rationalize to herself that it was YOUR FAULT. Sure, she might regret it later, but that won't necessarily stop her from cheating.

5) She DOESN'T have a boyfriend and she IS attracted to you; she just doesn't want to look like a loser who can't get a man. Most hot women have orbiters anyway: nice guys who pose as their friends but secretly want to sleep with them. Since the word "boyfriend," can have so many different meanings, she is thinking of one of her orbitors as a "place keeper."

THE BOTTOM LINE IS, DON'T ASK ABOUT HER BOYFRIEND AND DON'T APPEAR FAZED IF SHE MENTIONS HIM. HE MAY NOT EVEN EXIST. JUST TAKE AS AN INSTANCE OF LACK OF INTEREST CAUSED BY YOU TELEGRAPHING TOO MUCH INTEREST FAR TOO SOON.
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[donjuanapprentice01]

Ignore her man, make her chase you.

 

[909pua]

Hey all, i've been gaming up this chick so nicely for about the past 3 or 4 times we've hung out and everything had been going great between us. She was really receptive to the kino, flirting, all that. Last night my friend had a party at his house, and I knew I would be able to hook up with this girl cuz she even said the night before that she couldnt wait to see me there and that I was the only reason why she was going.

So anyways, I knew that I would be set from the start. I start gamin her up again at the party, and I find that it became a little tough to actually get the hookup with her. Then again, midway through the nite I was ****blocked because my friend refused to heat up his hot tub, which this girl would only go in with me (in thong and panties) if it was hot.

Towards the end, she pullled me aside in a room and told me how she really liked flirting with me and hanging out with me, but that she was currently "talking to someone else". But, she said that she still enjoyed hanging out and wanted to still hang out but didnt want anything to change because of her talking to someone else. I was kinda let down by this cuz i really wanted to hook up with her, but she made it kinda unclear if she still wanted to hook up or not.

What should I do in this situation moving forward? Im pretty sure shes like using me as her back up in case things go wrong with the other guy (which I think they might have just gotten into a fight or something), but idk if I should continue hanging out with her and trying to game her or if I should just fvck it and move on.

keep the pressure up til you bone her then act aloof! then she will come after you. there is not much you can do in a situation if you haven't boned her.. so try to F close quick!

 

[Igetit!]

Hey all, i've been gaming up this chick so nicely for about the past 3 or 4 times we've hung out and everything had been going great between us. She was really receptive to the kino, flirting, all that. Last night my friend had a party at his house, and I knew I would be able to hook up with this girl cuz she even said the night before that she couldnt wait to see me there and that I was the only reason why she was going.

Hmm. You see the part of your post I put in bold? For some reason my "spider sense" started tingling when I read that. Why wouldn't she just go to the party and see you there? For some reason,she felt a need to verbalize the fact that you were the only reason she was going to the party.
If she had said that to one of her girlfriends,then fine,girls talk about guys they like to their girlfriends all the time. But to say it directly to the guy they have the so-called interest in? No,that doesn't happen. On tv and the movies...yeah,but in real life,not so much.

Towards the end, she pullled me aside in a room and told me how she really liked flirting with me and hanging out with me, but that she was currently "talking to someone else". But, she said that she still enjoyed hanging out and wanted to still hang out but didnt want anything to change because of her talking to someone else.

She doesn't want anything to change between you two.
Alright,translation time.
She doesn't want anything to change between you two = I still want to keep on getting attention from you,I still want to keep on feeling desired and wanted,and have you available at my fingertips without me having to lift a finger or do anything in return.

Pay CLOSE attention to what she said. She doesn't want anything to change.

Not only does that mean she doesn't want you to stop hanging around her because you found out she's "talking to someone",but it also means she doesn't want you two to go from "whatever" it is you guys currently are,to something physical/romantic.

When she said she doesn't want things to change,she meant it.

I was kinda let down by this cuz i really wanted to hook up with her, but she made it kinda unclear if she still wanted to hook up or not.

She made it unclear? Well if it is unclear,it's unclear to you ALONE. I bet you she isn't confused.

What should I do in this situation moving forward? Im pretty sure shes like using me as her back up in case things go wrong with the other guy (which I think they might have just gotten into a fight or something), but idk if I should continue hanging out with her and trying to game her or if I should just fvck it and move on.

What should you do? Well,you can do whatever you want. If you're content being her "backup",then by all means,continue. Just keep in mind that as soon as someone comes along who she really likes and is attracted to,you'll be immediately demoted back down to "backup" status.

This situation is screwed up. Just the fact that you're her "spare tire" in case things go wrong means that YOU messed things up with her from the getgo.

I'd just move on. If you want to continue being her friend,fine. But to "stake out" her relationship waiting for your chance to date her,I wouldn't do it.

 

[eaglez1177]

Wow okay now listen what happened last night. My friends and I go over this girls house cuz her parents werent home, so we're all there drinking and smokin (btw never smoke pot when trying to game a girl), and eventually she comes to play again as my beer pong partner. I got easy kino with her all night, and eventuallly I have to leave. I say goodbye to everyone, and then finally say goodbye to her.

I go up, give her a hug, and she kind of turns her cheek cuz she wanted a kiss on the cheek. I didnt kiss her on the cheek, and the whole thing got pretty awkward and embarassing. She was kinda let down too. Then were still sayin goodbye for like 5 more mins, and now my friends and I are officialy walking out. She calls my name and says, "you didnt want to kiss me on the cheek?" I say back, "I dont do kisses on the cheek...I only do real ones". Then I just move in towards her, and fvcking get the hookup and a real kiss! IMO it was pretty smooth.

 

[Allurre]

The following come from "The Mystery Method," By Mystery page 36


Nine times out of ten, when a woman says, " I have a boyfriend," what this translates to is, "You just telegraphed too much interest."

It has nothing to do with whether she actually has a boyfriend. In fact if she is attracted to you, she will often deliberately hide the boyfriend from you until after you have had sex with her.

Whether she mentions him or not in no way proves that he actually exists-only that she had a motive to mention him.

1) Though she doesn't have a boyfriend, she's not attracted to you or you miscalibrated your escalation.

2) She DOES have a boyfriend and, given her current options, she has chosen to stick with that relationship.

3) She DOES have a boyfriend and is willing to sleep with you but wants to make sure that you understand her situation first. She wants DISCRETION and understanding. And though she might be available to you for sex, she NOT immediately available for more of a commitment.

4) She DOES have a boyfriend and she IS willing to cheat on him (they often are if your game is tight,) but she doesn't want to feel guilty about it. This is her RATIONALIZATION process at work. As long as she mentions the boyfriend BEFORE sleeping with you, she can rationalize to herself that it was YOUR FAULT. Sure, she might regret it later, but that won't necessarily stop her from cheating.

5) She DOESN'T have a boyfriend and she IS attracted to you; she just doesn't want to look like a loser who can't get a man. Most hot women have orbiters anyway: nice guys who pose as their friends but secretly want to sleep with them. Since the word "boyfriend," can have so many different meanings, she is thinking of one of her orbitors as a "place keeper."

THE BOTTOM LINE IS, DON'T ASK ABOUT HER BOYFRIEND AND DON'T APPEAR FAZED IF SHE MENTIONS HIM. HE MAY NOT EVEN EXIST. JUST TAKE AS AN INSTANCE OF LACK OF INTEREST CAUSED BY YOU TELEGRAPHING TOO MUCH INTEREST FAR TOO SOON.
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EXACTLY. lol.

 

[eaglez1177]

Well im not sure if shes like definitely going out with this kid or if they are just "together"...it says on facebook that shes "married" to this kid so who knows that actually means.

 

[Allurre]

Well im not sure if shes like definitely going out with this kid or if they are just "together"...it says on facebook that shes "married" to this kid so who knows that actually means.

Never gauge her status with Facebook... most girls I know set their status as "married" to ward off creeps.

 

[eaglez1177]

Ok well last night I got hit with a MAJOR ****block. We were all at my house watching a movie, and this one b*tch was sitting right in between me and the girl. I still got lots of kino cuz she was like rubbing her leg on mine lol, but after about a half hour I decided to end this ****block. I whispered into the b*tch' ear "Psst. Is it okay if I sit next to ----?" Her response: "No.", then she put her feet up on the couch and faced my direction so they were like right on me, and she said "do you like me feet?".

What a fvcking cvnt. I wound up not being able to sit next to the girl I wanted the entire night, and I when everyone left, I walked them all to the door, and the girl I like just gave me a quick peck kiss on the lips.

Speaking of that, shes given me these quick peck kisses on the lips a few times now. What does that mean for me? Does she just want to flirt and not really escalate? I mean it doesnt help that our only hookup lasted for like 10 seconds, I dont even consider these quick ones a hookup.

Oh and I finally got the full story on that guy shes kinda with. Apparently they had been going out (except the girls I talked to claim they were just "together"), and that they started fighting and sh*t and then both of them began hooking up with other people (which includes me and this girl). The good news though is that her friends tell me that their relationship (it cant even be called that anymore lol), is pretty much over.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

...after about a half hour I decided to end this ****block. I whispered into the b*tch' ear "Psst. Is it okay if I sit next to ----?" Her response: "No.", then she put her feet up on the couch and faced my direction so they were like right on me, and she said "do you like me feet?".

What a fvcking cvnt. I wound up not being able to sit next to the girl I wanted the entire night, and I when everyone left, I walked them all to the door, and the girl I like just gave me a quick peck kiss on the lips.

Why even ask permission from this other female? Why not just move and sit next to whomever you want? What business is it of hers? Was there a space issue?

Next time just do, don't ask.

 

[eaglez1177]

Yes, there was a space issue. There was six of us sitting on the couch, and I was pretty much stuck where I was (I got screwed in the first place cuz i was the last one to go down into the basement, so by the time i was down there the only seat left was between that b*tch and one of my guy friends.)

 

[DonGorgon]

find other women..

 

[DonGorgon]

find other women..

 

[eaglez1177]

Ok well last night I went over to one of the girl's friends house, and it just so happened that that guy she was "talking to" was there. I knew it was gonna be MAD awkward, and I actually drove around in my car for like an extra ten minutes cuz I was just considering not even going.

I decided to go anyways cuz I didnt feel like sitting at home, and when I get there the girl and the guy shes with were just outside talking (probably just talking things out and fixing things with their past relationship). I avoided them, and walked in. After like five minutes, I really didnt feel like sitting around doing nothing while the girl was outside talking with her guy. I decided to leave with my one friend and go to some random party lol.

Later that night I get a text from the girl sayin that we need to talk, and I already know wats comin. I told her to call me today cuz it was so late, and I checked her facebook wall and shes still "married" to that guy, on top of her wall having five posts about how this guy loves her.

Summary: The girl fixed up the rocky relationship with her boyfriend, and is going to call me anytime now just to let me know that things between us are over and that we're just gonna be friends.

Time to move on to other chicks!