girl problems

[joeshmo]

i was having fun with a site where you ask questions (yes or no) and it give you an answer (magic 8-ball) anyways, i was the one that got to answer the questions asked- i sent it to my gf thinking she was gonna ask dumb questions but she was asking some fairly serious stuff, stuff about me and her, her school - that was all fine and dandy, i was giving her her answers. then she asks about some guy i dont even know about and that if he will sleep with her - i respond with no, then she asks if he will ever kiss her, and then if he is attacted to her, at this point, im kinda taken back and then pissed.

now i was talking to her via aim wen i sent her the site, and i ask her how accurate does she think it is and what questions she asked - she told me everything except about the other guy. now i havent said anything cause atm i dont know how to approach this. ive been with her for 6 years now and i love her very much - i am getting the feeling that she is already looking for an out just the other guy has to push up on her and she will let it happen. she seems fine with me, loving and all - just, i dont know, i am going to bring this up i just dont wanna fly off the handle, i wanna get this right and see where she is at with this. its just hard to trust her now also with this - i dont know whats to do at the moment.

any help?

 

[MAVER1CK]

OH ****!!!!!! DUDE!

oh man, THis is horrible. This is bad sign. I would start detaching yourself from her now. THere is no going on like this.

 

[joeshmo]

yea, i know - i just dont know how i should approach this. this is actually my first time experiencing this lol. i have a fairly long history with her

 

[MAVER1CK]

Are you living with her?

 

[joeshmo]

no i am not

 

[MAVER1CK]

How old are you and her?

what do you do for a living? do you own a house? car? what kind of hobbies?

 

[joeshmo]

im 24 she is 22.

construction company, own a car, live with rents.

 

[MAVER1CK]

Any schooling bro?

How is your sex life with her? how often do you do it? how often do you see her?

 

[joeshmo]

both in school -

busy schedule, we see each other twice a week for lunch, then on the weekends.

sex is great, just dont get to much due to schedule - 1 to 2 per week

 

[MAVER1CK]

Tell me now man, whats your goal here... DO you want to keep the relationship? drop it? use her? what is your goal, in 1-2 years, where would you like to be?

 

[joeshmo]

i want to keep her, but after this im not sure anymore - i think i might have to drop her- hard to trust now

 

[MAVER1CK]

Thats exactly it man, After that initial trust is gone, its VERY hard to take back.

Besides, you dont even know if she ISNT ****ing other men! and the probability of her doing it is VERY high, especially after this ****.

But if keeping her is your goal, lets try and get you towards your target.

What do you know about this other guy? anything? do you know his name?

 

[joeshmo]

i know nothing, i think he works next door to her job- yea i know a name.

 

[MAVER1CK]

Ok, well the number 1 reason why shes probably looking into another guy, is because shes bored. Girls have the brain of a rodent.. they get sidetrack and lose interest very easily.

How has the relationship been going, what do you 2 do when you meet up?

Living with parrents is a very lame thing, especially at your age dude.. this alone will INhibit your abilities to stay attractive to any girl.

 

[joeshmo]

yea, i know - i will be getting my own place soon.

relationship is fine, we sometimes will just hang out, or we will go do random stuff such as movies, shopping, etc. stuff along those lines.

 

[MAVER1CK]

would you say you are a "fun" personal or a dull person? Be honest here, you are not fooling anyone but yourself.

does she always have a good time with you? a time that she wouldnt be able to have with the other ****head?

I think what you need to work on, to get to your target is attraction and your level of Fun. How do you look? are you brad pitt? or could you use some work to look better?

 

[joeshmo]

i would say im fun, im also serious tho - but i joke around alot

yea she has a great time as far as i know.

i think yoru right here bump up the level of fun. im good looking guy, i was fairly heavy wen we met, ive lost almost all my weight getting fairly bulky and inshape now, i would say im attractive, im not brad pitt but im also not an ugly ****, i get hit on by chicks.

 

[MAVER1CK]

GOod. also, make this CLEAR.. make her know you get hit on by chicks.

Nothing reinforces a girls desire for you better, than jealousy. If she KNOWs you have options, shes going to work to keep her spot. SHe will then have that Lusty interest in you again and say by to ****suck-fred who works across the street..

THe problem with relationships IMO and IME is their made for OLD people... not young people with imaginations and brains working over time. younger people (our age) get bored and depressed easily, its who we are.. and this is especially true for girls.

THe key to keeping that perfect relationship, is being her sexual Fantasy and bringing her fun and pleasure she wont get anywhere else.

 

[joeshmo]

thanks alot man

 

[MAVER1CK]

Yea man NP.

BTW- keep the info you know down low. dont tell her you know. Just try the **** we talked about, use this time to advance yourself, and get yourself into a more attractive position.

You cannot blame her for looking around. SHe is a female, and is probably bored. Sure she could say something, but cmon man.. GIrls are not that logical.

If you get your **** in order, I think it will work out.