Girl problems screwing up my life

[cooldragon]

I started hanging out with this girl in january and ended up liking her alot and asked her out. she said she doesnt date and it ended right there. i never asked her again. i stayed a close friend to her but it killed me everyday to not be with her. i was dumb to not keep trying so i try to avoid her. i found out today she ****ed one of my friends and has been ****ing him the whol week and they are going out now. for some reason i feel like i have been cheated on. I would think about her all the time and would think i still had a chance with her. but i found this out and its the most painful thing in my life.

i dont know if i should say anything to her and to tell her again how i feel and how much it hurts or just lose all contact with her an move on with my life. i just feel like screaming at her and telling her how i feel but a part of me tells me to move on and lose all contact with her.

 

[T Money]

Well, you could tell her how you feel, make her feel like sh!t AND lose all contact with her.

You could call her a liar, a backstabber, and she would've been better off with you, you're a better guy for her etc, then say something along: "And I wish you the best in life...b!tch."

That would make her think.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Well, you could tell her how you feel, make her feel like sh!t AND lose all contact with her.

You could call her a liar, a backstabber, and she would've been better off with you, you're a better guy for her etc, then say something along: "And I wish you the best in life...b!tch."

That would make her think.

Another example of great advice on the new sosuave.com

Cooldragon: Dood your a chump! You have NO RIGHT to say anything to this girl about her private life because its just that, PRIVATE! If there's anyone you should yell and scream at its YOURSELF, for being a chump and staying "friends" with her after she denied you.

Look, I understand it hurts, but you put this hurt on yourself by leaving the door open. When you have feelings for a girl, you CANNOT simply be friends, you know it doesn't work that way. You have two choices here:

A) Carry on like nothing happened, bite your tongue and start gaming new girls for christ's sake!

B) Cut off all contact with her, outta sight outta mind. Delete her phone #, e-mail, AIM, myspace and whatever else form of contact you had with her.


Make this girl be the girl that turns you from a chump to a champ.



PIMP

 

[cooldragon]

well i was wondering if i should just tell her i dont want to be friends any more and say how ****ed up she is or just all together not talk to her at all and move on. i have calmed down a little bit and i will definitly learn from this and not be a chump.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Another example of great advice on the new sosuave.com

Cooldragon: Dood your a chump! You have NO RIGHT to say anything to this girl about her private life because its just that, PRIVATE! If there's anyone you should yell and scream at its YOURSELF, for being a chump and staying "friends" with her after she denied you.

Look, I understand it hurts, but you put this hurt on yourself by leaving the door open. When you have feelings for a girl, you CANNOT simply be friends, you know it doesn't work that way. You have two choices here:

A) Carry on like nothing happened, bite your tongue and start gaming new girls for christ's sake!

B) Cut off all contact with her, outta sight outta mind. Delete her phone #, e-mail, AIM, myspace and whatever else form of contact you had with her.


Make this girl be the girl that turns you from a chump to a champ.



PIMP

Right on point. Good job

Also correct about the "T"hugs infiltrating the board with thier horrid advice.

 

[jack knife]

When a girl says she doesn't date, to me that means she hasn't been on many dates, which means she wasn't dating other guys which gave you a big opportunity. So it sounds like you blew your chance, hopefully you will learn from it. Like Pimp-sicle said, you don't have much basis to be angry with her. Someone else was bound to fvck her sooner or later.

As far as the hurting goes, it will go away. Just try not to think about it, and do things that get your mind off of her (like meeting more women!).

 

[cooldragon]

yeah i know. i have realized how pathetic my life is actually. i only know this girl and another one and thats it. i gotta get to know more girls. i spend alot of time by myself.

the funny thing is my friend who ****ed her doesnt even like her. there 3 guys including me who liked her and we all tried but the guy who didnt give a **** won out which pisses me off too. but that is life and i gotta learn from it. i should have ended the friendhsip alot sooner so i will talk to her when she calls me and end the friendship and move on. now its trying to talk to more women and getting a chance to hang out with them more.

hopefully the pain goes away and i will need to learn alot from this. i sometimes hope i would have never known this girl but i know that in the end its all for the better.

 

[Latinoman]

I started hanging out with this girl in january and ended up liking her alot and asked her out. she said she doesnt date and it ended right there. i never asked her again. i stayed a close friend to her but it killed me everyday to not be with her. i was dumb to not keep trying so i try to avoid her. i found out today she ****ed one of my friends and has been ****ing him the whol week and they are going out now. for some reason i feel like i have been cheated on. I would think about her all the time and would think i still had a chance with her. but i found this out and its the most painful thing in my life.

i dont know if i should say anything to her and to tell her again how i feel and how much it hurts or just lose all contact with her an move on with my life. i just feel like screaming at her and telling her how i feel but a part of me tells me to move on and lose all contact with her.

Don't be an idiot.

Listen, you NEVER wanted to be her "friend". You wanted to be her "boyfriend". If she said "no". Then you should have simply moved on and stopped 100% communication with her.

You cannot force attraction on people. She did not cheat on you. She was not attracted to you. The same way you are not attracted to dozens of other women and only view them as friends. Same principle.

You are wasting your time being friends. It does NOT work. Let her and you buddy have fun. You need to seek your own.

 

[spider_007]

you sound like your 12

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/










:kick: :trouble:

 

[cooldragon]

yeah i shouldnt have kept being her friend but i was an idiot. now its hard for me to sleep. i dont know how i am going to get through the day. i havent slept and need to work 11 hours. u are all correct i wasnt going out with her she isnt attracted to me but i still had hope for some dam stupid reason. if i had ended it a long time it would be less pain.

 

[d9930380]

Is your friend much better looking or "cooler"?

If not, maybe the reason she liked him was because he wasn't as needy. Everyone likes a challenge.

 

[Fash]

Dude,

Move on! This situation is over.

There is absolutely no surprise that the guy who didnt care actually got her. In a funny way, it is what normally happens. She saw him as a challenge. He has the power in that situation.

Just see this as a learning experience, and next time BE A MAN! take control of the situation, sarge the sh1t of her til she is dripping wet then bang her brains out.

Look at it this way.... HER LOSS!

Sarge on dawg. I suggest you read the DJ bible and some FRs on this site. See how it is really meant to be done.

Good luck

 

[librito]

hey cooldragon...
dont worry man, we have all being there at one point of our lifes..

learn about the next quote by David Deangelo. ..."attraction is not an option"
thats why we are here, to learn how to create that feeling on women once they meet us.
you was in a damage situation and you was doomed to fail with her sooner or later. do a search about the term LJBF... it means lets just be friends.

read the DJ bible man, youll be alright and youll become smarter and stronger while reading this site.

 

[flexion_]

Read the DJ bible.

This isn't a girl problem. You are screwing up your own life.

 

[cooldragon]

well i tried not to have feelings but that didnt work. i tried not to always spend time with her had my own life but when i was around her i probably acted like a chump without noticing at the time. well its a lesson learned and i am actually doing really good.

i am thinking of not speaking to her again and moving on but that will be hard to pull off. yeah i was pulled into the ljbf thing and i basically cant get out of it most likely so its not worth pursing friendship just to get burned.