This girl ive had a crush on for sometime, seems to be playing me. She makes out with me and crap whenever we hang otu at her house, sexually and affectionate when we are alone. Tells me she has feelings for mea nd all this crap. But i want to have a relationshipa nd she says no basically.(i want a gf thats how i am, this pisses me off). i usually go eat with her at lunch and hang out with her occasionally. Im thinking about just stopping the going up to her and crap, i mean its starting to annoy me.
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You sound kinda needy
I think even my dead grandma would two time you
Get it?
Kaine
I think even my dead grandma would two time you
Get it?
Kaine
i duno i just like having stability man.Originally posted by Kaine
You sound kinda needy
I think even my dead grandma would two time you
Get it?
Kaine
lol havent got the sex yet, but im sure its coming. But the thing is she acts affectionate too, so thats why i have no clue why she doesnt want a relationship.Originally posted by sfalexi
Hmmm. SO this girl is sexual with you, but doesn't want a relationship? So she just seems to be using you for sex?
Man. That sucks. I'm glad I'M not in that situation . . . . . . .
Dude, enjoy it.
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Maybe she is just being honest with you. Take what she said for what it is worth an react accordingly. If you want an LTR find someone else who does also. It seems like you are playing yourself more than she is playing you.
Originally posted by belividere
Maybe she is just being honest with you. Take what she said for what it is worth an react accordingly. If you want an LTR find someone else who does also. It seems like you are playing yourself more than she is playing you.
i do want a LTR thats how i feel. So im not sure what i want to tell this woman. Because i think i wana start looking for some girls that migh twant a relationship.
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I feel for your dude. I too was put in a "take it or leave it" kinda thing. She didn't want to have a relationship (she even used the.. I don't want to have a relationship now speech.) Some of you DJs may go.. GO FOR IT.. get some sex, and etc.
This is what typically happens. Girl who denies you a committed relationship but is okay with hanging out with you on convenient terms to get her jollies on will... (this should not be a shocker to the experienced)...dump you very easily when she gets bored or finds someone.
After having one semi-fwb weird dating situation, and going through hella drama I told myself.. NO MORE ever again.
But you know what, you won't listen. You'll just hope something will turn around or you're happy with what you got. Think of it as.. her just using you as a rental car rather than owning a car.
This is what typically happens. Girl who denies you a committed relationship but is okay with hanging out with you on convenient terms to get her jollies on will... (this should not be a shocker to the experienced)...dump you very easily when she gets bored or finds someone.
After having one semi-fwb weird dating situation, and going through hella drama I told myself.. NO MORE ever again.
But you know what, you won't listen. You'll just hope something will turn around or you're happy with what you got. Think of it as.. her just using you as a rental car rather than owning a car.
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swede,
I think deathdealer has a good point this girl will eventually drop you when she finds someone she wants to date. If you are looking for an LTR than go out and find someone else who wants to be committed to you. If you enjoy fooling around with this girl and continue it then you shouldn't feel bad about looking for someone who you want to be serious with besides her. After all she was the one who said she didn't want anything long term. If you dont want to keep messing with her knowing it will not lead to your ultimate goal of finding a girlfriend then just drop her now. You know what you want and you shouldn't let her decision hold you back from achieving it. Even if you think that you want more from your relationship with her the sooner you realize it isn't going to happen the better.
I think deathdealer has a good point this girl will eventually drop you when she finds someone she wants to date. If you are looking for an LTR than go out and find someone else who wants to be committed to you. If you enjoy fooling around with this girl and continue it then you shouldn't feel bad about looking for someone who you want to be serious with besides her. After all she was the one who said she didn't want anything long term. If you dont want to keep messing with her knowing it will not lead to your ultimate goal of finding a girlfriend then just drop her now. You know what you want and you shouldn't let her decision hold you back from achieving it. Even if you think that you want more from your relationship with her the sooner you realize it isn't going to happen the better.