Girl playing jealousy game...

[NobodyCares1]

This might be a bit of my own fault too because I began with this stupid sh!t trying to jokingly make her a bit jealous, but I tried not to overdo it.

Anyway after a while I got tired of this and some of her other bullcrap so I went distant. Now after a couple of months I thought about spinning plates again, since I haven't spun any for the last couple of months. And I could make her one of the plates, I know she's interested because she initiated contact with me many times while I was distant with her.

Today I went out with her, nothing big we were together maybe 40 minutes, I did kiss close her and I know she's interested, she's just playing a bit hard to get. She's probably still angry that I went distant on her.

Anyway we stood for a while at the bus station, it was after school so there were many people and many guys she knew. And I saw that she was saying hi to all of them and it seemed to me that she did that on purpose.

The whole excuse behind this date is because she wanted a greeting or how to call it (It's a piece of paper with some pictures and quotes, where you put your photo and write some bullcrap. All the people who are leaving high school this year give it to their friends.) Anyway I teased her that she has to deserve it, then stood closer to her and looked her in the eyes. It was obvious I wanted a kiss.

This is when her game came again, she begain saying that the other guys will give the greeting to her and that she doesn't care about mine. Anyway I was unaffected and after a while I got the kiss. This repeated a couple of times, for example when she was a bit late for the bus because all of the banter we had and it seemed that there were a lot of people in the bus, she said "Now I will have to be standing because of you", then she was silent for a bit and then added "Actually no, I can sit on Michaels knees".

I think she did this to see how interested in her I still am or something. Anyway this kind of crap is pissing me of and I take it as a disrespect so what would you suggest to do? I have walked away on her once so she knows that I can do that again.

 

[SgtSplacker]

The Don Juan would use charm to break through this tough exterior.

A regular man would say F U C K it and find another easier plate...

Which one are you?

 

[NobodyCares1]

The Don Juan would use charm to break through this tough exterior.

A regular man would say F U C K it and find another easier plate...

Which one are you?

I definitely don't want to NEXT her so fast again. I want to at least try it, if I screw up at least I'll have a learning experience. The point is I don't really feel like just waiting till she stops with it would be enough. But maybe yes.

I know she really wanted to figure me out today. Especially because she threw this line during our conversation "Everybody likes me, (one second pause) except you." I might have reacted a bit rude to that because I was just silent for a while and after a couple of seconds (maybe two or three) I just laughed at it.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Personally I think this is a great opportunity for you to tune up your game.

The way she is acting is the way many women act when they are horny. Sexual tension frustrates women and this is how they behave. She is not more endearing to you because she does not trust you yet with her emotions/feelings.

You need to figure out how to show interest while staying mysterious and non committal.

 

[NobodyCares1]

I think you are right. She was acting kinda horny today, even when she gave me that kiss it wasn't subtle as it used to, she actually grabbed me under my neck and pulled close to her.

You need to figure out how to show interest while staying mysterious and non committal.

Any suggestions?

 

[SgtSplacker]

What is keeping her attracted is that she does not have you.

Attraction means her not being sure you like her or not.

You need to figure out how you can spend time together, while not making it a date. But having it still end in the sex that she so obviously want's.

Figure out something cool to do together, tell her it's for school or family or something. Or tell her you're bored and want to chill or something. Don't let her know it's about her, it's about you.

 

[NobodyCares1]

Kiss on lips ?

Yes she kissed me on the lips, I wouldn't count anything else as a kiss.

 

[NobodyCares1]

What is keeping her attracted is that she does not have you.

Attraction means her not being sure you like her or not.

You need to figure out how you can spend time together, while not making it a date. But having it still end in the sex that she so obviously want's.

Figure out something cool to do together, tell her it's for school or family or something. Or tell her you're bored and want to chill or something. Don't let her know it's about her, it's about you.

Yeah, the problem is that the best time for me to go out with her is after school, because she lives about 30 kilometers away. And there are no real good activities to do after school. Also problem with sex is that I have nowhere to seal the deal. There is almost always someone at home. Outside it's too cold to have sex.

 

[NobodyCares1]

So I texted her back on friday... we texted just a little but since she was never online on FB when I was it dragged for a couple of days.

Yesterday I wrote to her to wait for me after school that we will go out together. Her reply to that was "Hah I'll see, I have to think about it, ok I have to go now bye"

So I already knew she will probably refuse but I called her after school anyway to what she said that she is going home at 2 o'clock... it was 1:40 when I called her so I just said bye and went on.

Still her interest changed without me even actually doing something... After the first meeting she sent me a smily face on FB so she seemed a bit interested... and now after two weeks she is acting so cold again... even when I texted her she showed some IL for example she was online on FB every day to reply to me though she normally used to be online maybe two times a week tops. But she didn't use any smiles when texting me this time and she used to use them etc.

I'm thinking about trying it again next week even though I don't think she will accept but I realised that I really need closure with her.

 

[Vidrio]

So I texted her back on friday... we texted just a little but since she was never online on FB when I was it dragged for a couple of days.

Yesterday I wrote to her to wait for me after school that we will go out together. Her reply to that was "Hah I'll see, I have to think about it, ok I have to go now bye"

So I already knew she will probably refuse but I called her after school anyway to what she said that she is going home at 2 o'clock... it was 1:40 when I called her so I just said bye and went on.

Still her interest changed without me even actually doing something... After the first meeting she sent me a smily face on FB so she seemed a bit interested... and now after two weeks she is acting so cold again... even when I texted her she showed some IL for example she was online on FB every day to reply to me though she normally used to be online maybe two times a week tops. But she didn't use any smiles when texting me this time and she used to use them etc.

I'm thinking about trying it again next week even though I don't think she will accept but I realised that I really need closure with her.

It's obvious she's losing interest. You're being a little too thirsty. Stop contacting her. Go NC and only contact her if she contacts you first.

 

[NobodyCares1]

It's obvious she's losing interest. You're being a little too thirsty. Stop contacting her. Go NC and only contact her if she contacts you first.

You might be right, but as I said I'd like some closure. Also I did this once... it took her about a month to contact me with high IL but as I contact her back her IL drops always... to me it seems as if she was playing some stupid game trying to hurt me or something.

When she asked me to go out with her and I accepted her reaction to that seemed that she was a bit surprised but happy. Though when we were out at first it was fine, I think the break came when I smiled at a girl I know and said hi to her. At that point she began to play the jelaousy game.

Also I waited for almost two weeks to contact her so I don't think that's too thirsty.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I had a girl play this major hot/cold on me before. Since I could not understand exactly what triggered her actions I just figured if she liked me she will spend time with me regardless of what the mood of the minute is. So I just thought of cool stuff we can do together and started inviting her to stuff. She would come, and after a while of me showing interest she stopped being so biitchy.

What's important is for you to understand that the way you are treating her now turns her on. So do not change that, just try to spend more time with her.

 

[NobodyCares1]

I had a girl play this major hot/cold on me before. Since I could not understand exactly what triggered her actions I just figured if she liked me she will spend time with me regardless of what the mood of the minute is. So I just thought of cool stuff we can do together and started inviting her to stuff. She would come, and after a while of me showing interest she stopped being so biitchy.

What's important is for you to understand that the way you are treating her now turns her on. So do not change that, just try to spend more time with her.

You might be right... when I remember our first dates I was a bit of a jerk to her who wouldn't ever be jelaous. Then I became a bit insecure for a couple of dates losing my frame. Then the NC followed.

I really just think she wants to punish me for going distant on her. She would kiss me but wouldn't let me touch her around her waist. On the other hand we touched a couple of times and she was playfully punching me a lot. When I came close to her from behind putting my head close to hers (but not touching) she layed her head on mine etc. My point is that the IL was definitely there.

So I'll give it a shot and see what happens. I have classes with her best friend and I remember that when I became distant with the girl, her best friend acted a bit cold towards me too. When I began to return her messages and we met her best friend began to say hi to me again and smiling.

 

[NobodyCares1]

A little update. She texted me on FB on friday, we texted a bit she seemed warmer than before (she was using smiles, asked me some questions, etc.), one thing is that she asked me how my test from physics went so she had to talk at least a bit about me with her best friend with who I have physics lessions with. Also to one question I asked her she replyied "I'll tell you when I meet you." So that would at least a bit suggest that she wanted to meet me.

I also noticed she was sharing on facebook a lot of pictures with quotes for example: "His eyes, his smile, his hair, his voice, his personality... Hit like if you thought about one person <3"

She always did it but not as much and the quotes weren't connected with love so often. Anyway I remember that she was sharing these kind of pictures a lot also when we were dating.

But still I texted her today if she is free after school and got no reply. She could at least text me back that she can't go out with me or something. Anyway unless she apologises and have a good excuse I'm done with asking her out.

Though this is really pissing me off, when I decide to NEXT her completely she starts calling and texting me after a while and then when I say fine, and begin to chase her even a little bit she goes flaky. I can't let her chase me because that would lead nowhere, because she contacts me maybe two times a month and doesn't ask me out.

I never had a problem with meeting her except for this time and the last time.

 

[NobodyCares1]

So she wrote to me yesterday on FB with an excuse, so I told her that it's fine then we texted a bit.

Today I met her when I was with my friends, she was going to meet with her best friend but she was alone when I met her. She passed around me with her head down, so I just pulled out my hand a bit and touched her arm, she then touched my hand back and kept walking.

Then I was in a mall with my friends and she came there with her friend and I noticed that she took the longer route to the shop where she was going, because she would have to walk around me and my friends if she took the shorter route.

Back when we were dating regularly she told me that she was shy everytime I mentioned her meeting any of my friends. So one possibility is that she is shy or other possibility is that she was avoiding me for some reason. Though when she was passing around me she walked quite close, also if she really wanted to avoid me she probably would've walked other way.