"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl playing hard to get

Slick Rick-NZ

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Hey there,

I met this girl at this dance party. Her friend danced her and forced her back into my dancing space and I didn’t respond as I fall back to my “too cool” ways when I don’t know what to do. This repeatably happened until we were dancing and we were holding her hands above her head. A small amount of grinding and touching but not much. I got her number and we sort of split ways after that more on her part because I was communicating across the dance floor to my mate. I got the impression her friend helped her and delivered her to me and provided security had I not responded. So any way I text her the next day:
Me: Hey paige add me on fb if you like (My Name)
Her: And how do I know you?
Me: It just so happens you conveniently placed your number in my fone last night, you do remember the dance party last night don’t you lol
Her: Aww ae don’t remember you at all.
Me:Oh that’s a shame I thought you mite make a nice friend, you must bn pretty drunk
Her:I am a nice friend.Why?
Me:Or perhaps you met a lot of cool people and cant remember some of them. Or there is a third explanation. Btw did you have a good nite

No reply. Although it is the end of the month and she has nearly or probly run out of fone credit as I have. Where she said “ Aww ae don’t remember you at all.” Suggests ofcourse she does. And I will try get her talking when I top up again. I think she is testing me but I don’t know what I should say to open her up to build rapport and admit she remembers me. And I was shore that saying “Or there is a third explanation” would lead her to ask why. What are the chances she was just building her confidence and playing with me and by asking for her number she won. This game annoys me a lot. She is nearly 18 and I just turned 19 I am not too bad looking in good shape and she looked okay but I could pull way better chicks than her but she plays hard to get. I am frustrated as I do not get out much and have had little experience with women if any as I am busy. I do read various emails and online ebooks though. As I said I could pull way better chicks I have the potential but jus havn’t had any experience in attracting and approaching women.
Please help.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ace_Magnamus

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you dont sound too slick there Rick.

this chick isn't interested in you

wtf would she be testing you for. she would of said hi if she remembered you.

she doesn't even remember you from the party. you know her name she doesn't know you.

the reason she didn't text you back is she doesn't know who you are. your texts were very boring too. she even said she doesn't know who you are

go out relax have fun talk with girls that you can have a convo with that can remember you.
 

Slick Rick-NZ

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And what would you have said Ace?? Huh?
She isn't very confident if her mate hasto set her up?
There is no ****ing way someone would forget me unless they has the memory of a tadpole. But yes she probly isn't keen and laying me off.
But if you are so slick im sure you would be able to rope her back in?
It shouldn't be too hard.
She is some cheap lil **** tease.
I am way outa her leage buit I don;t get it.
And may I remind you this is a help forum not a your game is lame forum.
Try to come up with something helpfull and don't hate on my name lol.
 

Slick Rick-NZ

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And what would you have said Ace?? Huh?
She isn't very confident if her mate hasto set her up?
There is no ****ing way someone would forget me unless they has the memory of a tadpole. But yes she probly isn't keen and laying me off.
But if you are so slick im sure you would be able to rope her back in?
It shouldn't be too hard.
She is some cheap lil **** tease.
I am way outa her leage buit I don;t get it.
And may I remind you this is a help forum not a your game is lame forum.
Try to come up with something helpfull and don't hate on my name lol.
 

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Rick,

Confident women play hard to get.
Shy women do not.
You said she is not confident.
You said she is shy.
She therefore would not play hard to get.
You therefore should take her words literally.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Honestly i don't think she's testing you and I think you should just let her be. If she really was testing you then it might be just a little unfair for her to be expecting you to jump through hoops so early. Also from what I read she really didn't execute much signs of interest. Your best bet is to move on and find someone who's actual interested in your product. NEXT her ass...
 

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Yeah I know there isn't much to go on you guys are probly right.
What do you guys think if I was to say something like
" You were that blond promo girl that gave me your number and a kiss right? Why are you playing hard to get when you asked me to text you?"

Hopfully this raises her interest and my social value and she replies with a no and a few ??

Then I would say" Oh lmfao were you that needy brunett that couldn't dance with people by herself??

Or do you think that is too harsh?
Also why do you think she danced with me and gave out her number?
 

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Ok Slick...

We all told you the same thing. This girl doesnt remember you.

she is not interested in you. she is not playing hard to get.

Text her or call her today. When she says who's this? or when she ignores your text you will have your answer.

you will see that were right

but you will probably still think she is playing hard to get


Slick Rick-NZ said:
And what would you have said Ace?? Huh?
She isn't very confident if her mate hasto set her up?
There is no ****ing way someone would forget me unless they has the memory of a tadpole. But yes she probly isn't keen and laying me off.
But if you are so slick im sure you would be able to rope her back in?
It shouldn't be too hard.
She is some cheap lil **** tease.
I am way outa her leage buit I don;t get it.
And may I remind you this is a help forum not a your game is lame forum.
Try to come up with something helpfull and don't hate on my name lol.
I was helpful Slick. I told you to look for other girls. This girl doesnt know you.

If she is a tease why do you care? she doesnt know you.

she has a memory of a tadpole. she forgot about you in two seconds after your quick dance.

how can you rope a girl back in when you never had her roped?

she doesnt know who you are



Slick Rick-NZ said:
Yeah I know there isn't much to go on you guys are probly right.
What do you guys think if I was to say something like
" You were that blond promo girl that gave me your number and a kiss right? Why are you playing hard to get when you asked me to text you?"

Hopfully this raises her interest and my social value and she replies with a no and a few ??

Then I would say" Oh lmfao were you that needy brunett that couldn't dance with people by herself??

Or do you think that is too harsh?
Also why do you think she danced with me and gave out her number?

HA HA yeah Slick. Text her what you said we can see how high her IL will go up with that.

She was probably drunk and was dancing with lots of guys

She doesnt know you so forget about her. don't waste your time or embarrass yourself anymore with her. she will just ignore you again.

I'm trying to help you out but you wont listen

close this thread. this is done.
 

Deadly_Ripped

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Slick Rick-NZ said:
Then I would say" Oh lmfao were you that needy brunett that couldn't dance with people by herself??

Or do you think that is too harsh?
Also why do you think she danced with me and gave out her number?
None of this matters if she doesn't remember you. You're still assuming that all of us are wrong. There are text messages, so she'll probably think that you actually believe she's a promo girl who gives kisses and numbers to strangers in order to sell them things. Either way you're screwed. Let this go. Find someone else!

Next you're going to be suggesting that maybe you should get her address and show up with a ski mask and some chloroform! Let it go!
 

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Slick Rick-NZ said:
Yeah I know there isn't much to go on you guys are probly right.
What do you guys think if I was to say something like
" You were that blond promo girl that gave me your number and a kiss right? Why are you playing hard to get when you asked me to text you?"

Hopfully this raises her interest and my social value and she replies with a no and a few ??

Then I would say" Oh lmfao were you that needy brunett that couldn't dance with people by herself??

Or do you think that is too harsh?
Also why do you think she danced with me and gave out her number?

This guy is funny.

If this is the first time some drunk girl gave you her number and then flaked on you, then you're obviously not approaching enough women.

Chicks give out their phone number the way dentists give out floss. You thought it means that she 100% wants to f**k. In reality, it doesn't mean sh*t.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Slick Rick-NZ

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Haha fukin a Mantis ima don juanoir atm. Yeah I don't get out much but im young so I have time to learn. Yeah cheers Ace I get attactched easy as it dosn't come along often. You are right I will leave it at that.
Got any advice as to how to turn the tables on thses *****s or avoid them completley I don't want this every weekend haha.
Good Kunts Thanks for thwe help.
 

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It sounds like she has low interest level. Her interest was low to begin with, but the following made it worse:

Her friend pushed her to dance with you. Women resent being fixed up.

You did the best you could. She gave our her number to end the interaction and she is pretending to not remember you.
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
Chicks give out their phone number the way dentists give out floss. You thought it means that she 100% wants to f**k. In reality, it doesn't mean sh*t.
This is true. I get the feeling the OP is relatively new at this, and doesn't seem like too much of a doucher.

OP, it's true that women give out numbers like candy on Halloween. It's their way of not having to say "no" right away - most girls who say "no" right away are viewed as "b*tches." Regardless, remember that all of that is no excuse for you to stop trying to get numbers.

You gotta catch a lot of fish before you find one worth eating. Also, stay well fed and you won't be forced to eat rotten fish.

If you're not metaphorically inclined, this means to get very good with getting numbers. Call the girls, see where it goes. Drop the ones in whom you aren't interested, and keep the ones that reciprocate yours. If you get laid regularly, you won't find yourself trawling for bottom-feeders.
 

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playing hard to get does not exist .. it simpy means she is not that interested and realizes that you are willing to keep trying while she hilds back which makes her even less attracted.. so you have to either let her go or improve your game to create attraction.
 

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Yeah those are both great advice.
So next time I am dancing with a chick do you think I should still ask for there number or just leave it upto them or unless we get talking and build more report than just dancing? Just thinking if I say wats ur number they might give it and then they have to go.
"playing hard to get does not exist" That is a great way of looking at it I like your thinking makes snece huh.
Cheers guys..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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As soon as she said she doesn't remember who you are you should have dropped her right then! Another point, you had the conversation through text, what do you expect? Next time call them!

Slick : hey HB, this is Slick, we met....
HB : Sorry I can't remember you
Slick : That's cool, have a nice day...

HANG UP!

If she has interest and playing games this should out her, if she genuinely can't remember then you walked away with dignity.
 

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Slick Rick-NZ said:
Yeah I know there isn't much to go on you guys are probly right.
What do you guys think if I was to say something like
" You were that blond promo girl that gave me your number and a kiss right? Why are you playing hard to get when you asked me to text you?"

Hopfully this raises her interest and my social value and she replies with a no and a few ??

Then I would say" Oh lmfao were you that needy brunett that couldn't dance with people by herself??

Or do you think that is too harsh?
Also why do you think she danced with me and gave out her number?
Would you remember a fat chick's name 3 months down the road you werent interested in?
 
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