"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Aesthetix29

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Ok so I've been messaging this girl and she's going on holiday on Monday so tried to get her round mine tonight but was having none of it haha and she texted me this:-

I no yeah it's so cold outside makes u not wanna go out!! Might be when I come back now so busy tomoz m havd to leave at 5 ;( mite squeeze u I. For an hour in the pub tomoz tho :) xxxx

What would be a good reply or would it be better to just leave it at that ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Looks like she was drunk while texting that mumbo jumbo bullsh!t, and probably getting DP'ed as well.

Don't contact again. Sign of low interest unless proven otherwise.


"shh baby it's cold out there we can't get out" Yeah :rolleyes:
 

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You say 'ill keep you warm ;)'

make a joke of it and ask her again, make it very clear.

If she rejects that again reply with ok and ghost on her until she reaches out and actually suggests to meet up.

Next my brother there are lotssssss of girls everywhere :) Invest in the ones that are actually interested in you, they are out there I promise you.
 

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TheGambino said:
Now the message in english please
Easy. I'm not interested in you sexually yet. I'll decide.

Sounds like low interest. An actual meet up would help. But don't be an orbiter. A woman either is interested or not. If she shows any more disinterest, kick her to the curb.

Case closed.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Your answer----->"uh ok". That's more than enough for this low interest case.
 

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Squeeze you in? You mean she's going to get busy and likely message you last minute to say "sorry can't do today". Nah leave it. Just be casual. "Ah you sound busy, we'll do some other time" then go silent and wait for her to initiate contact. If she doesn't move on.
 

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"It's all good I got plans tomorrow anyway. Maybe another time though."

Then go NC until she hits you up. If she doesn't she was never interested anyway.
 

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so I didn't reply last night so I'm thinking of sending this text this morning

Morning, listen you sound busy and I have plans for today anyway ... We'll do some other time okay. X
 

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I think saying ''I have plans anyway'' makes you sound butthurt. Also drop the ''Morning'' and the ''X''.

I'd go with VladPatton's response.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So just reply saying okay ?

The thing is there's more too this as we've been texting a while it's actually someone I know not a randomer, we went on a date last week.... And as for her saying it was too cold etc that's because I mentioned in my previous text that I decided on stayin in so that why she put that... And My previous text I also asked her when she was coming round for cuddles that she promised me (private joke) and can't make out wherher she stated she'll squeeze me in for an hour or that she'll squeeze me an hour in the pub due to the type error haha
 

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Aesthetix29 said:
she stated she'll squeeze me in for an hour or that she'll squeeze me an hour in the pub due to the type error haha

The only games you should be playing with women is sex games in your bedroom.

Any other bogus games is a waste of your time when there is no sexual interest developing.

Looks like a waste of time to me.

Let her put her money where her mouth is.

Quit the texting and get her out on a date.

If you get excuses you have your answer of no interest.
 

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We went on a date Thursday night and she's goes on holiday for 4 days tomorrow so Im kinda f**ked... I don't think she was being funny with text tho ... Yesterday morning she messaged me saying 'morning sexy' but not sure if that means anything. I'm confused
 
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