Girl Pays for Drinks on Date

[SSAD.MORGAN]

So weird question, went on a first date the other night and it had a weird start. Long story short she was late, but very apologetic and insisted on buying all my drinks all night, and the most expensive ones she could.

I told my buddy this and he said it was a bad sign cause it means she doesn't want to see me again. I have never heard of this, and it seems really strange to me but my buddy is a natural DJ and knows his ****.

 

[Aaron B]

your buddy is an idiot

or he's trying to get her for himself

 

[idk575]

That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard, why would an uninterested girl buy your drinks..

 

[BigJimbo]

I am scared to think what the broad looked like.

 

[runner83]

Forget whether she was buying you drinks or not, and ask yourself two questions instead:

1) Was she hot and did you want to fvck her brains out?

2) Did you fvck her brains out?

Don't waste time on stuff like buying drinks since chicks are variable in this, but generally if she is buying you drinks she IS interested.

 

[FrogWife]

Any time I've paid for a first date, it is because I don't want to see the guy again. I wouldn't feel right letting him pay knowing I wasn't interested in anything further.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

The girl bought you the drinks off the bat before she even got to know you. Whether you get a second date or not has no correlation to the drinks.

 

[SSAD.MORGAN]

That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard, why would an uninterested girl buy your drinks..

If it was anyone else I would have just told them they were full of **** but all his advice in the past for me has been spot on.

The girl was cute (I would say 7-8ish) and runner83, I did not **** her brains out yet but we did make out.

Look, I agree with all you guys in that it was positive. I was just curious to see if anyone else thought that too.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Free drinks. Who gives a fvck if she wasnt interested.

 

[FairShake]

For most women, letting them pay on an early date is a one-way stop to the friendzone.

I realize it doesn't jibe with what you are taught here but it is pretty much accurate. Women like to be spoiled, even if only a little.

 

[sozzz]

What if when a woman pays for dinner on a second date because she said I already paid on the first date?

 

[idk575]

If it was anyone else I would have just told them they were full of **** but all his advice in the past for me has been spot on.

The girl was cute (I would say 7-8ish) and runner83, I did not **** her brains out yet but we did make out.

Look, I agree with all you guys in that it was positive. I was just curious to see if anyone else thought that too.

It's all good man, I wouldn't worry about it at all. Sounds to me like she was just being nice and it wasn't anything bad. In the end everyone is different, but think of it like this, if she wasn't interested at all, you just had free drinks for a night with a sexy girl and you get to move on to a hotter one next time.

 

[Mike32ct]

It's indeterminate. She either REALLY likes you (my gut feeling) or she doesn't like you and wants to not feel obligated to see you again.

Just assume the positive. I had a chick that was an nearly an hour late for our date. (Most DJs would have left.). I stayed. She was incredibly apologetic and bought me drinks. We had s@x later that night

 

[SSAD.MORGAN]

It's indeterminate. She either REALLY likes you (my gut feeling) or she doesn't like you and wants to not feel obligated to see you again.

Just assume the positive. I had a chick that was an nearly an hour late for our date. (Most DJs would have left.). I stayed. She was incredibly apologetic and bought me drinks. We had s@x later that night

Yeah, I am just assuming the best and proceeding because either I am going on another date or not. To be fair I did buy the last round but that was after only after the first 6 were on her.

I agree with you FairShake and was totally prepared to pay for the date but to stop her I think I would have had to physically restrain her and that would have been awkward for everyone.

I've got other plates going already so this one first date isn't a huge deal

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

You guys think too much about little things. If your game is right the girl will always come back.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Had this happen to me twice on first dates. It rules, don't listen to your friend cause he's an idiot.

In my experience, the girls were 100% into me. Texted me all the time, begged to see me, told me I was incredibly attractive and sh1t like that. Had chance at sex with them both by the 2nd or 3rd dates. (Didn't proceed though cause I'm still kind of AFC. I felt like I wasn't ready to fvck yet). Then after the 3rd to 5th date.. The girls disappeared.

No contact for a few days, I send them a text or two, no reply or very vague replies.. Then I sent an AFC ultimatum (something along the lines of "Hey, I thought we had something going here.. Or at least it seemed like it. If you're going to act cold like this from now on, then don't bother contacting me again... Probably the worst thing you could do.) and they both called me crazy lol.

The first girl had a fiance in prison who she was still in love with.
The second girl had been engaged (dating this guy for 4 years) and her to be husband cheated on her a month before their marriage date.

I don't like to generalize.. Everyone has a fvcked up moment or two in their life and that doesn't mean they're mentally unstable or BPD, but just look out for those red flags on dates.. And don't hold any expectations until you've been seeing them for a while!

I'd also like to say, girl 2 I royally screwed up on. She saw me out with another girl one night and lost it. From that moment on the frame was in her hands, but we got along great before all that and had a ton in common. She was a real sweetheart, but when she caught me her evil side ran rampant lol. This girl also drove me around to do errands, cleaned my bedroom for me, bought me dinner and drinks, and all sorts of cool stuff.

It's hard to not want to reward them for all this after a few dates cause it seems so kind-hearted. But you gotta watch out. Some of these chicks might be a little crazy!

Enjoy the free drinks in the meantime man!

 

[nismo-4]

So weird question, went on a first date the other night and it had a weird start. Long story short she was late, but very apologetic and insisted on buying all my drinks all night, and the most expensive ones she could.

I told my buddy this and he said it was a bad sign cause it means she doesn't want to see me again. I have never heard of this, and it seems really strange to me but my buddy is a natural DJ and knows his ****.

You'll know if she's interested if she comes back to you. This particular woman's actions are the only proof of your suspicions you'll need here.

Don't sweat the small sh*t.:nono:

Case closed.

 

[SSAD.MORGAN]

Maybe my buddy isn't full of ****......texted her 4 days after we went out to see if she wanted to go out again and she never got back to me. Interesting note though, she responded to our words with friends game right away the next day (next day as in the day after I texted her asking her out) which I wanted to see if she would respond to and thought was hilarious. Giving it one more shot next week before I next this one.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Maybe my buddy isn't full of ****......texted her 4 days after we went out to see if she wanted to go out again and she never got back to me. Interesting note though, she responded to our words with friends game right away the next day (next day as in the day after I texted her asking her out) which I wanted to see if she would respond to and thought was hilarious. Giving it one more shot next week before I next this one.

That's weird, I went out with a girl monday night who bought me two drinks and I wound up getting a BJ and sleeping over her place later that evening. All women are different man.

 

[SSAD.MORGAN]

Yeah, where can I find these girls that are buying you drinks all the time? They seem like the way to go lol.

One thing I have learned dating in major superficial US cities though is girls will blow you off all the time and then act like nothing has happened, just part of the game. I thinking NC for until at lease next week, maybe more.